can i get it lowered

[sydney1205]

What is the name of your state?pa


i recently had a child support hearing, i have to pay 500 dollars a month for my one daughter, and i could afford it at the time, so that was fine, well i just recently got a vehicle, so now i have a car payment and insurance payment a month, so now its impossible for me to live, i am married and we have a child, my "x" does not work, lives with her parents, but has a brand new car and cell phone and i feel like im just paying her bills.i dont want my child support to compltley stop, thats not the case, but is there any way i can have it lowered so i am able to live too? 500 for one 4 year old child is plently.but i need it lowered.

 

[stealth2]

The court isn't going to be interested in your car payment, so it's very unlikely that will result in a downward modification.

 

[tigger2two]

as stealth said no you can't get it lowered. They are going to say "you know what..you had to pay this support before the car and you should have figured that before you got it." Courts dont have sympathy when it comes to supporting your kids or anything else for that matter really.

 

[tigger2two]

I just realized that your the same poster wanting to know about giving up your rights. So does your ex live at home with parents or with her new husband???? Not that it matters. Pay your support and be a part of your daughters life. That money isn't going to your ex its going to your daughter. WHEN ARE PPL GOING TO START UNDERSTANDING THAT?

 

[TNBSMommy]

Why don't you call the Electric company or your landlord/mortgage company, or your cable/satalite company... and tell them you have a car payment now and need to have the bill lowered. Your child support is an obligation you had prior to your "new car" payment. I, personally, would love to have a new car, unfortunately, I looked at what we have coming in and what we have going out and see that if I like to have money to spend, I will not pick up another payment.

I know everyone else told you the same thing, but that irritated me, so I had to throw my .02 in too.

 

[nextwife]

In all fairness, the poster didn't say he had a new car, just a car payment. Where I live, if one does not have a vehicle, there simply is no other means of transportation to get to work. No car could mean no income, which means no support. I don't know if he's referring to a $100 mo payment or a $600/mo payment. But he may need to have some kind of car if he wants to get to work. Not all places have mass transit available. Obviously, if his complaint is due to a pricey car, he needs to get over it and learn to buy minimum transportation.

 

[mightydog29]

unfortunatley I had a high car payment when I was divorced and they look at that as a luxury even though I had it before I got divorced. so the court will not even consider lowering it. sorry, I know from experience what it is like to know that your money is not going for the children as much as for her luxury but there is nothing you can do.

 

[sydney1205]

first fo all

firts of all i never said i have all this fancy cable and crap, im making a living,and i only have what i need and yes i do need transpertation to get to work, and who are you to say IT ALL GOES TO THE CHILD, she isnt working, so how is she supporting my daughter? and yes, her and her husband are living with her parents. they have no house bills or anything...i dont mind paying for my child, but 500 dollars for one 4 year old is a little ridiculous to me, she isnt in daycare or anything.i would just like to see where she is helping contribute to my daughter, is she has no money to take care of my daughter, then i will. her and her husband sit at home not working living with her parents with a brand new car and cellphone, while i work my ass off to pay there bills, the last time i asked my daughter what she got with the money i sent her in na card she told me mommy needed a new outfit so her and her husband could go out for the anniversary, sodont give me that crap its all going to my daughter, when i ask for advise, i would rather somone give it to me, then run your mouth about a different subject you dont know about.

 

[Lizzy77]

Being Petty

Quote: when i ask for advise

I hate to be so petty but I see this mistake everywhere on this forum.....you ask for ADVICE not advise.

Thank you....carry on

 

[nextwife]

Quote: when i ask for advise

I hate to be so petty but I see this mistake everywhere on this forum.....you ask for ADVICE not advise.

Thank you....carry on

"we interupt this show for the following public service announcement....."

 

[d8ddysgirl]

I love dads like this. 500 is way to much I have a car payment, big whoop!! 500 for a 4 yr old is pennies to what it costs for everything.

And how do you know they dont pay any bills. Maybe she lives with her parents because she and the hubby cant do it on thier own yet. Theres no shame in making sure her child is well cared for. And a 4 yr old is going to tell you that mommy bought a new outfit and they went out for thier anniversary. I am finding that hard to believe.

 

[tigger2two]

yea im with you on that one. 4 and says all that huh? When child support is figured...the worksheet is done....if your ex has no job she is figured to make what ever minimum wage is at least. They call it what the other parent is capable of making. They didn't just say OH well she doesn't work so we will put her in with 0 income. It doesn't work that way. Now you can try and get your CS modified based on the fact that you have a new child. Some states take that into consideration and some dont. But even if your ex was using that money all for herself, which is wrong, but even if she was its still the amount of support that you owe to your daughter according to the court. And the child also has to have new outfits and shoes and food and all of those things cost money. I'm sure your ex is dressing her or is she?

 

[sydney1205]

woahh ok, so its ok if her mother and her husband cant make it on there own, but it isnt ok if i cant? that is just bull****, ok mommy cant get a job but if daddy has trouble with 500 a month he is a dead beat, i dont think so. i see how you take things into consideration, mommy can be a bum so daddy ahs to work his ass off, i dont even think so.let me tell you somthing a 4 year old doesnt need 500 dollars worth of clothes a month.and she ahs no otehr bills, she is covered with my med insurance and everything, MOMMY HAS NO BILLS.

 

[sydney1205]

and by the way my 4 year old talsk just fine, i dont know how your 4 year olds talk,but mine talks just fine, she sings too....

 

[tigger2two]

ok now let me tell you something. My kids also have insurance through their father who is also military. Your insurance isn't that great. It doesn't cover eye exams other than 10 percent. The parent has to pay the rest. It doesn't cover all medical and there is a deductible that has to be met before it kicks in. It doesn't cover but 10 percent of dental. And i guess you are paying all that too huh? I know how much you pay for this insurance and its not as much a month as the mother is paying per visit. I can tell you that for a fact. And yes it is okay for her to stay at home with her child. And its ok bc no matter weather she works at minimum wage or stays at home, you are still going to be paying 500 a month. Bc like i told you already when they did that worksheet on you guys, they figured her as making minimum wage bc she is capable of doing that. (unless she is disabled and can't work) They didn't figure her at zero. So reguardless of weather or not she works you would still pay what you do. If your pay has changed then do what we told you to do and get a modification. Other than that we can't help you here.

And by the way the truth sucks...so if that isn't what you are looking for then go to dear abby.