can i get it lowered

[tigger2two]

I;m sure your 4 year old does talk just fine,,,mine did too. But you aren't going to tell anyone on this site that has kids that your daughter just up and said mom spent my money on new outfit for her anniversary. Just doesn't happen that way. I dont know how many kids you have but i have 3 and 2 of them are AG students and they never talked like that. You need to quit badgering your daughter about her mother and putting your distaste and dislike for her mother in her head before you cause your daughter a world of pain.

I'm also sure that you want to sign your rights over as you stated in your other post bc you dont' want to pay the money to get an attorney to change your cs amount. And you probably do have a problem giving money to your ex but so do alot of guys, and they dont want to sign their rights over bc of it. My ex can't stand sending that 1200 a month but he has never once asked to terminate his rights. Even though he does elect not to pay his support from time to time. But i handled that today with his command and I will see that check in a few days.

 

[stealth2]

Dude. None of what you're saying matters one whit. Does your daughter have food? Clothes? A place to live?

Unless you can provide proof that there has been a significant change of circumstance, you're not going to get a downward mod. Having a car payment isn't going to cut it. Having a wife and new kid isn't going to cut it.

 

[tigger2two]

Dude. None of what you're saying matters one whit. Does your daughter have food? Clothes? A place to live?

Unless you can provide proof that there has been a significant change of circumstance, you're not going to get a downward mod. Having a car payment isn't going to cut it. Having a wife and new kid isn't going to cut it.

BUT stealth that isn't fair LOL!!!

 

[stealth2]

BUT stealth that isn't fair LOL!!!

Yeah, well, nobody frikkin' said life was.

 

[tigger2two]

Yeah, well, nobody frikkin' said life was.

isn't that the truth!!!

 

[sydney1205]

LOL stay at home mom, its called lazyness...i dont want to hear it, stay at home mom, give me a break, she needs to get a job. i shouldnt be the only one supporting her!!!!

 

[sydney1205]

and also, since my insurance only covers 10 percent, with ehr not working, where does she get the money to pay for the visits, my child support? she doesnt work, which means she couldnt possibly pay for ANYTHING, and i already told you im not making what they think, they used my les from when i was deployed.

 

[stealth2]

Tell ya what, sweetheart.... Get yourself an appointment with a lawyer and see where you're at legally. Then come back and let us know.

 

[sydney1205]

not to sound rude..but i asked my daughter what she bought with ehr money, she said mommy got a new outfit, for there anniversary, what kind of 4 year old doesnt know how to say that?!?!?!?!?

 

[tigger2two]

and not to be rude...but like stealth said get you an attorney and pay them the big bucks to tell you the same thing that we are telling you. Then come back and say DAM i wish i woulda listened to you guys. I wasted all that money to hear the same thing that you are telling me.

Get it through your thick skull weather she works or not YOU WOULD STILL BE PAYING THE SAME AMOUNT. They put her in on that worksheet as though she was working bc they can't legally put her in at ZERO unless she is unable to work. And even then she would recieve some kind of disability. And I'm sorry but I have kids and I stay at home and I'm going to tell you right now 500 a month will not pay all of her bills. 500 a month is what i spend on lunch money for all three of my kids at school. (and no my ex husband doesn't support this household I get a check from the VA every month from my husband passing away who was active duty marines). Does my ex know this? He didn't until our child support became court ordered. Like you he thought he was paying all my bills with the measly 500 a month he was paying volunteeraly. He must have been really suprised when he saw how much my late husband is still contributing to OUR kids. You dont always know everything you dont live with her. She could be doing some at home work that you don't even know about. I do know that 500 a month will not support her and her husband and your daughter weather they are living with her parents or not.

If you think that you are paying to much...I'll tell you one more time...GET AN ATTORNEY AND FILE FOR A MOD. Waste some more money for them to tell you they don't give a hill of beans how much your car costs. And if you weren't informed the first time your BAH is figured into child support as NET income bc weather you see it or not, you still get it. Good luck to you!

 

[sydney1205]

yeah i know 500 is what i would be paying, it just makes me so mad that she doesnt even work...it must be nice to sit on your ass everyday.

 

[snodderly]

not to sound rude..but i asked my daughter what she bought with ehr money, she said mommy got a new outfit, for there anniversary, what kind of 4 year old doesnt know how to say that?!?!?!?!?

Child support is not the child's money. It is the mother's money to use as she sees fit to help provide for said child. What I want to know is why you are telling this child that it is her money? Why are you teaching her to keep track of how her mother spends her money? Have you seen your daughter do without? Is she well dress, well fed and given proper medical care when needed? If so, then get over it.

yeah i know 500 is what i would be paying, it just makes me so mad that she doesnt even work...it must be nice to sit on your ass everyday

How often does this 4 year old visit with you? When she visits how much sitting on your ass do you do? How much time do you take to do her laundry, run her bath, cook her food, entertain her, drive her to play dates, doctor's visits, the mall for new shoes, dance class or all the other things a 4 year old can require? Take it from me, being the main care taker of a 4 year old can be a full time job. Not a 9-5 job either. That job begins in the morning when the child gets up and ends at night when the child goes to bed. It's quite a long day and $500 is a drop in the bucket as far as compensation for it goes.
snodderly

 

[tigger2two]

stay at home mom is laziness huh? Let me tell you something your arrogant pompASS jerk! My morning starts with COOKING breakfast for my kids, Not heating up something frozen but cooking. Then i take my kids to school. Then i put in about 20 hours of volunteer time at the school a week, not to mention kids field trips. Then I pick them up from school do homework with them. Cook them dinner and then get them to ALL of their practices and games. Not to mention I actually coach my youngest son's tee ball team. Am on the board at the school for the athletics department. Then i still have to come home get them showered and in bed. Then before i can go to bed I have laundry and dinner dishes to do. Then there is the matter of getting their bookbags by the door, finding all of their shoes, making sure homework is in the correct place for the next day. Then i have to find my car keys to make sure i make it to the school on time the next morning.

Where out of all of that do you find that staying at home with your children to make sure they don't have to be with strangers or letting child care do most of the work, is laziness???? PLEASE tell us. Obviously you don't get your daughter very often bc if you did you would know that when it comes to a 4 year old there is no such thing as being lazy. ITS IMPOSSIBLE!!! GROW up and pay your support..suck it up be a man...and get over it. Be thankful that your ex loves your daughter enough and is able to stay home with her and take care of her. And be happy that bc you do pay support that you can take pride in also being a part of making that happen.

 

[cynvip]

My two cents

Well I would like to put in my two cents about this subject.
While it is true that mothers like tiger2two are out there and "doing the right thing" there are also mothers out that are SITTING ON THEIR ASSES collecting child support from not one, but two or three fathers. Now I know fathers are bitter, hell I have a bitter ex myself, but I think that sometimes the amount paid is just too much! especially when fathers pay child support and then buy all the medical, cloths and school supplies and what not. don't tell me it doesn't happen cus it does! fathers should not be judged just because they think the CS is too much because sometimes IT IS!!! and they should have the right to know what the other parent is doing for their part. sorry but just because you love the child doesn't mean that you are doing your part. (my opinion only) there are too many abused children out there being told they are loved but not being properly cared for.
It makes me crazy to see these woman having child after child and different fathers paying support and then................they are on state assistants! BS!!!!
and it happens!

My advise to sydney1205 is if you think it is unfair and you do not like what is happening then file for custody, its your right.

Life is about choices, if you choose to have a child you must be willing to support that child whether you have her or the other parent has her.

PS I am going to make sure that the computer lab at my local high school gets this forum and that the males of said school are allowed to read some of this. it may help them make better choices.
Just my two cents

 

[sydney1205]

ok this is for tigger, listen here, didnt you just say how you get 1200 for support and month AND money from your husband dieing, so dont YOU tell me about work, i work and come home to my daughter i have now and care for her...yeah you sit on your ass and collect all of this money, YOU DONT HAVE TO WORK, yah taking care of children is a responsibility, but you have all this money just FLOWING IN SO YOU NEED TO BE DOING ALL YOUR DOING, YOU DONT HAVE TO WORK TO SUPPORT YOUR KIDS!!!!! ALL THE MONEY YOUR GETTING YOU DAMN WELL NEED TO BE COOKING GOOD MEALS AND CLEANING.theres no reason why you should be getting all this money and not running for your kids, damn you need some kind of rsponsibilty, and when i send money for my daughter IN A CARD, it damn well is her money to buy herself a toy or whatever she wants!!! her mom doesnt get every last cent i send her!