Can Stepparent do this?

[Venus05]

That's a question that can only be defined with each action taken.

I gotcha, I guess I'll just have to find other means of entertainment..Do you have any good duracels? Enjoy your day!

 

[jslopez711]

I go through this once in awhile with my nuttyX. My child is younger than yours but we just say things like sometimes people say mean things when they are mad, or even if it hurts our feelings we know it's not true, or that it's ok for the child to let people know if they are saying things that hurt her feelings etc. I don't know what's gone on behind the scenes, but it's decreased over time. We just focus on how we feel or what we think about it, and don't engage in name calling back. At your child's age of 8 years old, this could be a good lesson learned about how sometimes people say things that just aren't very nice- and how to be Ok with knowing the truth themselves. There will come a time when the step-parent realizes (often too late) that they are only damaging their relationship with the child.

This is oh so true casa, my son in 5 and I have the same issues with his step-father. I'm hanging my hopes on your last statement. But I got to tell you, it is hard walking this road at times.

 

[sirxamiel]

What is the name of your state? Oklahoma

Ok I know getting custody from a parent is very hard to do...
But what can a NCP do about a Step parent being jerk, so to say?

My DS step parent alwasy has something to say not too me but to DS...just little digs all the time... my ex always says it will be handled but it always happens again...
I know getting custody is out of the question for such petty things but really can anything else be done?? Saying things to me is one thing but they always get said in front of DS NEVER to me...
Step parent shows issues w/ control....denies phone contact regularly...tells DS that I'm childish...and yes after typing this post I guess this sounds childish..but really what right does a step parent have to crap on bio parent and just get away with it....It never happens when my ex is around so I can only believe ex doesnt let it happen in front of child but really can anything be done...does years of this help at all on custody??
There would be no other reesaon to remove child from my ex's other than that...ex is good to DS..but any suggestions??? Legal or helpful hints to deal...

I'm really not petty.... I know it hurts DS as it does me to.

I feel your pain, as I am also dealing with a harsh and mean stepfather. But do not worry. You have everyright to see your child. He cannot stop you. What you need to do is file a complaint. If you are being denied visitation, then you can file for contempt of court. If you dont have visitation established legally, then go do it. But also understand that the stepfather feels threatened, and that is a good thing, because this shows you he is willing to stand up to anyone when it comes to that child. That means he has accepted the responsibility of helping raise the child with the mother, and that he shows love towards the child. And that should set your mind at ease somewhat. But as far as dealing with what he tells yuo and your child, that can be dealt with in court. You can have it stipulated, and most courts do it anyway, that noone should not and cannot degrade the other parent in front of the child. That doesnt mean that he will stop talking bad about you in front of your child, but then you will have something to use against him if he does.