Cant take much more (venting)

[heavenscent]

May I make a suggestion to you. There are several online support groups that would be happy to hear you vent. Because this site is for legal advice people don't take very kindly to venting. Hope that helps. Good Luck!

 

[rmet4nzkx]

May I make a suggestion to you. There are several online support groups that would be happy to hear you vent. Because this site is for legal advice people don't take very kindly to venting. Hope that helps. Good Luck!

You have it wrong, OP in this place kcs00, doesn't have a legal leg to stand on for her vicious and manipulative behavior. I challenge you to go back and read to volumes she has spewen her on this forum. There are "Venting" sites, some members here belong to them also. None of those members has come to her defense once her true intent is exposed, nor have they invited hrt to their site because they don't want her there either. This woman only has one person's best interest in mind, hers, not her child's or the children of her husband.

She stirs up the pot and they have moved 4 times between 4 states in her effort to keep her husband from paying his court ordered child support and has also interferred in his relationsip and visitation with his children. She is upset when the mother of his 3 children finds out where they have moved and tries to maintain visitation which her husband wants to have and gets upset when he doesn't talk badly about her in front of the children, if it was her, she would take the money and not allow visitation, but here the mother works and works to maintain a relationship betwen the children and their father. All she wants is the $2,000 p/m in child support. She had a child (with this man?) before he was divorced and wonders why she doesn't get along with his ex.

She comes on this board telling lies to solicit advice to support her position, no one take kindly to that.

Please don't enocurage her because all that is doing is hurting other people.

 

[JulieHun]

Oh My..

Ya know, Im new to this forum, but I am an ex wife.
My ex has a new wife with 4 little ones, she tried that same crap o'la,
with me, regarding child support, cant get far enough away. etc. etc.

You can never run from your problems...
Stop Moving!

And for you to consider, his children possibly a problem is wrong.

Sounds like a jealous New Wife to me!

If he is mentioning her name all the time, talk to him about it, let him know you only want to discuss children...get some counseling for self esteem.

Please dont be one of those wifes so jealous, she has to keep the kids away from there daddy. Ive been through that, its not the ex that looks bad, people can see through it.
Settle down somewhere, make a life, if ex is so willing to bring children around, and she is not causing you physical or mental or emotional problems, let her.

He is married to you...You are the only one standing in the way, of having a life with him.

 

[kcs00]

a stankie druggie no I am not but a bitch yes at times. My husband wanted this move more than myself he works for the same company so therefore his CS is being paid. I would never tell him not to support his children they h ave to eat just like mine does. This has never been about CS. I work and go to school and taking care of my share of the household. Yes I am jealous there has been a lot of things going on between my husband this woman and myself and the issue of children. As far as DNA there is no questioning whose child my daughter is she looks just like him, never was. When I posted this my concern was if he still allowed her to push his buttons then what was the purpose of him being with me. I believe that if you love someone then there is nothing/nobody that can "get next the you" that being an ex or family members anybody. I would do anything for my child and husband and there isnt anything anybody can do about that. I think that he should do the same for us.

 

[Tinaa]

There must be something wrong with my husband and I. We bribed his ex (bought her a van) to move back to Texas so he could be a litle closer to his kids. My husband has been trying to talk her into moving closer still so that he can be more help than a monthly check. She rents and works nights as a waitress, he has a good job and we own our home. We though of moving but we have to make a living and it would be easier for her to move. We'd even pay for the move! OP, your life would be much easier if you accept the fact you married the ex wife too!

 

[nextwife]

Sorry, but this woman IS the person he co-parents with. There is no SEPERATING himself totally from her. And if you divorce him, he will be the co-parent with you AND her. You do NOT get to walk away and have nothing to do with him. Divorcing the spouse is NOT divorcing the kids. And expecting physical distance to wash away the co-parenting issues is unrealistic and unfair. He probably wanted the move because you did.

Maybe he should try to work out the isssues, even if it means he, or you and he, going to a counselor to help work thorough what he can and can't control and how best to handle it.

 

[kcs00]

Trust me I understand perfectly that he has to co-parent with her and that is not a problem. my problem is when he makes me second in his life. Sometimes its like he makes me feel inferior to his ex.

 

[rmet4nzkx]

a stankie druggie no I am not but a bitch yes at times. My husband wanted this move more than myself he works for the same company so therefore his CS is being paid. I would never tell him not to support his children they h ave to eat just like mine does. This has never been about CS. I work and go to school and taking care of my share of the household. Yes I am jealous there has been a lot of things going on between my husband this woman and myself and the issue of children. As far as DNA there is no questioning whose child my daughter is she looks just like him, never was. When I posted this my concern was if he still allowed her to push his buttons then what was the purpose of him being with me. I believe that if you love someone then there is nothing/nobody that can "get next the you" that being an ex or family members anybody. I would do anything for my child and husband and there isnt anything anybody can do about that. I think that he should do the same for us.

So more of the truth comes out, you are jeaous that he still has feelings for her and of course for his children. You are in the middle of it, it wasn't enough to be having sex with him while he was still married and what would have happened if you hadn't gotten pregnant? You and your husband move out of state and she moves so he can have visitation and you get upset because you think they might get back together. You have admitted that in your posts.

And where will you be when you two get divorced or if he returns to her and the children, you won't get $2,000 p/m in child support and he will have a DNA test done, he would be a fool not to after all your stunts. When we go back and look we see that you have started threads where you are trying to get his child support payments lowered or adjust visitation and or custody to lower his child support obligation.

What is the name of your state? GA

if we change or visitation days to 4 days a week instead of 2 1/2 days will that change the amount of CS being paid

Please, we can read so don't think your lies will get you anywhere here, you are tooooo obvious!

There are many forms of drugs, jealous and a bitch by admission. You don't want him to have anything to do with his children or their mother because you are afraid of losing him because you forced him into this situation and your actions are working against you. You don't even have a good enough story for anyone to believe your vents. If he is paying $2,000 in child support he is earning a decent living so when you screw up your relationship and he divorces you or is unfaithful to you, you are going to have squat. And if he was unfaithful to her with you do you really believe he will remain faithful to you when you are such a Bitch? You admit that you are afraid of losing him, you are mad at him but you take it out on her. Get a life!

Unfortunately, your daughter will be the one to suffer, but if he has a good attorney you will lose custody of your daughter and end up paying child support to him!

 

[rmet4nzkx]

Sorry, but this woman IS the person he co-parents with. There is no SEPERATING himself totally from her. And if you divorce him, he will be the co-parent with you AND her. You do NOT get to walk away and have nothing to do with him. Divorcing the spouse is NOT divorcing the kids. And expecting physical distance to wash away the co-parenting issues is unrealistic and unfair.

Nexie, She can totally separate herself from both her husband and his ex who is the mother of his three children and that would be to divorce him, give him full custody and or relinquish her parental rights, then she won't have to deal with any of it anymore. She'll latch onto someone else and start the cycle again.

 

[rmet4nzkx]

Trust me I understand perfectly that he has to co-parent with her and that is not a problem. my problem is when he makes me second in his life. Sometimes its like he makes me feel inferior to his ex.

You are second in his life to his children, the best welfare of the child always comes first. You should have kept your legs together and never had an adulterous relationship with a married man with children if you wanted to come first. If that is what you wanted, you should have had a relationship with someone with no children who wanted no children, only you and both taken measures to make sure you never had children.

You are so selfish and a sad thing is that you are a mother, but that is biology only.

 

[kcs00]

first lets get the story straight. When I first found out that he was married I moved away so I wouldnt interfere and to let him get things straight. I did not force him to do anything. He came to me because he wanted to, we where together for a while before I got pregnant. ( a year or longer) and he was filing divorce papers she wouldnt sign them. He came to me and he knew how I felt about the situation. And he still choose to be with me.

 

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

first lets get the story straight. When I first found out that he was married I moved away so I wouldnt interfere and to let him get things straight. I did not force him to do anything. He came to me because he wanted to, we where together for a while before I got pregnant. ( a year or longer) and he was filing divorce papers she wouldnt sign them. He came to me and he knew how I felt about the situation. And he still choose to be with me.

My response:

And you "allowed" it . . . before he had a decree of dissolution in his hand.


IAAL

 

[stealth2]

Trust me I understand perfectly that he has to co-parent with her and that is not a problem. my problem is when he makes me second in his life. Sometimes its like he makes me feel inferior to his ex.

Then maybe you need to consider marriage counseling for the two of you.

 

[heavenscent]

Just trying to keep the piece.

You have it wrong, OP in this place kcs00, doesn't have a legal leg to stand on for her vicious and manipulative behavior. I challenge you to go back and read to volumes she has spewen her on this forum. There are "Venting" sites, some members here belong to them also. None of those members has come to her defense once her true intent is exposed, nor have they invited hrt to their site because they don't want her there either. This woman only has one person's best interest in mind, hers, not her child's or the children of her husband.

She stirs up the pot and they have moved 4 times between 4 states in her effort to keep her husband from paying his court ordered child support and has also interferred in his relationsip and visitation with his children. She is upset when the mother of his 3 children finds out where they have moved and tries to maintain visitation which her husband wants to have and gets upset when he doesn't talk badly about her in front of the children, if it was her, she would take the money and not allow visitation, but here the mother works and works to maintain a relationship betwen the children and their father. All she wants is the $2,000 p/m in child support. She had a child (with this man?) before he was divorced and wonders why she doesn't get along with his ex.

She comes on this board telling lies to solicit advice to support her position, no one take kindly to that.

Please don't enocurage her because all that is doing is hurting other people.

 

[snodderly]

Trust me I understand perfectly that he has to co-parent with her and that is not a problem. my problem is when he makes me second in his life. Sometimes its like he makes me feel inferior to his ex.

Honey, you are inferior to his ex wife....please, don't delude yourself as far as that is concerned. Inspite of what you and her husband have done to her she is trying her best to encourage a relationship between him and his children and she isn't letting you stop her. She is able to see beyond her own childish needs and put the children in this mess first....that makes her superior to you in every way.

Let me give you a little glimpse into your future. You will continue to ride your husband's ass about his ex wife. You will moan and bitch and cry and manipulate the hell out of him. It's your nature, that comes through in your posts. His ex wife will continue to treat him as a friend, she will continue to make sure he has a relationship with his children and she will do it all in a way that garners his respect.

One day or maybe in the middle of the night one night he will come to his senses. He will look around him and realize that he threw away a perfectly good family to live with a slut who will sleep with a married man. That is when he will feed you a face full of ass. He will be trying to work his way back to what he has thrown away.

That is when you will get a taste of what his ex wife has lived. Do I think you will handle it as graciously as she has....hell no. Go vent somewhere else whore and be sure to spend the rest of your marriage with this man looking over your shoulder, you never know when he might start screwing around on you like he did his ex wife. Honey, you are miserable and you deserve every minute of it...."what goes around comes around," brace yourself cause there is some kick ass karma in your future.
snodderly