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Fatherof4

Member
What is the name of your state? mississippi Sorry this is so long.
I have a 3 1/2 year old son. Before he was born my wife told me she wanted a divorce. We got a divorce when he was 7 months old (we had never even lived together). When he was 9 months old I moved out of barracks (we were both in the military) and into my own apartment and had my son about two days a week. Between 13 and 19 months I had him 5 days a week. My ex sent my son to live with her parents in GA because she said the military was moving her there. Two months later I went to the brig because I made an adult video a year earlier (which I will always regret). I had to stay there for 6 months during which time I filed for a change of custody because my child was still in Ga and my ex was clearly not moving. The judge said his stay in GA was acceptable and did not change custody. But my son had to come back and I was given visitation all weekend, every weekend. My son was now 27 months old, I have been remarried for almost a year and have another child. For the first month I have him every weekend after that she gets busier and busier and I have him more and more. In July she leaves for a voluntary deployment to Japan for 6 months (she actually fights to get to go). She has to say for an extra 6 months because of the war in Iraq even though she is not in a war zone (not even close). In the year she was gone she called him 2 times and sent no money, birthday, or christmas presents. The only thing she does is send about 5 emails a month. He has a language delay so he doesn't understand them. Since June 2001 to July 2003 she has had him a documented 40 days in two years. She now says she is coming to get him. I WANT TO KEEP MY SON! What can I do? Do I have a chance at another change of custody? Sorry so long.
 


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hexeliebe

Guest
You don't have a chance in hell unless you get off your butt and file. And yes, you should have filed a long time ago. But you still can. This is not something I would suggest doing yourself.

Consult with a few family law attorneys in your area and get one to file the necessary custody modifications now before your ex comes back. Otherwise, the existing custody order will prevail.

And don't think I'm going to be soft on you just because I'm ex AF and a non-custodial father myself. You have had two years. GET MOVING!
 

Fatherof4

Member
The last time I filed was Aug 2001 which resulted in a modification in Feb 2002. All this happened in Arizona where we lived. In Dec 2002 I moved my family back to Mississippi after getting out of the military. We had to be here 6 months to get a jurisdiction change. She's been back in AZ for a month (though she still hasen't called) and she emails and says she will come get him the beginning of Aug. She wasn't coming to get him until Sep but she is pissed off because she found out I have more children.
 
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hexeliebe

Guest
And have you been in Mississippi for six months?

If so, get off this forum and start calling attorneys.
 

Fatherof4

Member
I do have an attorney and everything is in motion. I just need some hope, man. Can she use the military and/or war against me? Will the jurisdiction actually be changed? I'm a good dad.
 
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hexeliebe

Guest
There's nothing I can tell you about how a judge will react, what the judge will take into account or any other factors that may come into play in the determination. Why? Because judges are people with their own likes and dislikes.

There are people who will tell you everything will be fine, others who will tell you there's no chance you will keep the child and then there are the others who will tell you the truth.

We just don't know until the gavel drops. The only thing you can do is the right thing. And only you know what that is.
 

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