Changing a toddlers name

[Cassie102690]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Georgia
Okay I have a two year old. Me and his father are not together anymore but the baby has his last name. He has nothing to do with him and doesnt help out with expenses. There was an incident on record where he brought a knife to my house with intent to take the child. We have never been married and he has not legitamized the child. I gave the child his last name when he was born. Can i get his name legally changed? If so how? Do I have to wait 5 years or because the situation can i go ahead and do it? i think he is a danger to the child and i dont want him to have access to him without my knowledge like at daycare or when he starts school because they share the same last name. I think i chose the right topic!

 

[Proserpina]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Georgia
Okay I have a two year old. Me and his father are not together anymore but the baby has his last name. He has nothing to do with him and doesnt help out with expenses. There was an incident on record where he brought a knife to my house with intent to take the child. We have never been married and he has not legitamized the child. I gave the child his last name when he was born. Can i get his name legally changed? If so how? Do I have to wait 5 years or because the situation can i go ahead and do it? i think he is a danger to the child and i dont want him to have access to him without my knowledge like at daycare or when he starts school because they share the same last name. I think i chose the right topic!

He needs to be at least served notice that you intend to change the child's name - you can't do this without permission from either him or the court.

So, how is he a danger to the child if he has nothing to do with either of you?

 

[Cassie102690]

After we split up, he was getting him on the weekends. He brought him home and he had been drinking. We got into an argument and he left squealling tires and yelling. I didnt let the baby go the next weekend and the weekend after that he was blowing my phone up. everytime I answered he would cuss me and tell me he was coming to get him however he could. He made threats over the phone and came down here messed up on methamphetamines and had a large knife with him luckily my uncle and a few of his friends were up here. he tried to stab my uncle. luckily he didnt and got the brakes beat off him. but i know him all to well and if hes out there on drugs again, well he brought A weapon to my house and whos to say he wont do it again. he admitted to me on the phone a day after that he was coming up here to get his son and thats why he had the knife with him. But will the court let me go ahead and do the name change. Im not sure where the father is exactly. but i read something about posting a notice in the newspaper. couldnt i just do that??

 

[Proserpina]

After we split up, he was getting him on the weekends. He brought him home and he had been drinking. We got into an argument and he left squealling tires and yelling. I didnt let the baby go the next weekend and the weekend after that he was blowing my phone up. everytime I answered he would cuss me and tell me he was coming to get him however he could. He made threats over the phone and came down here messed up on methamphetamines and had a large knife with him luckily my uncle and a few of his friends were up here. he tried to stab my uncle. luckily he didnt and got the brakes beat off him. but i know him all to well and if hes out there on drugs again, well he brought A weapon to my house and whos to say he wont do it again. he admitted to me on the phone a day after that he was coming up here to get his son and thats why he had the knife with him. But will the court let me go ahead and do the name change. Im not sure where the father is exactly. but i read something about posting a notice in the newspaper. couldnt i just do that??

You need to make a diligent effort in not only locating but notifying him.

If you need to resort to notice-by-publication, it's best that you get an attorney involved.

So, how many of these allegations have been proven? How many times did you call the police and report his actions?

 

[Cassie102690]

i made a report twice. when he came and i made him leave and he squaled the tires i called the police and filed a report because i was scared he would come back. i cant afford an attorney, i was gonna use some of the money i saved up to pay to get his name changed. the second time they were called by the neighbors. im not sure what the report said but there was a big ordeal when the fight broke out and the neighbors thought my uncle got stabbed. detectives said he was life flighted to atlanta it was that bad but no one was arrested so i guess that means no one was charged. about two weeks after that my ex got in a fight with his dad and went to jail. before that right after we split up he got like eight charges the ones i remember were 1. driving under the influence of methamphetamines 2. something about carrying a rifle while under the influence and not notifying the police 3. no seatbelt 4. they found a dope pipe. 5 they found meth and i dont remember the rest. hes got a pretty bad record from before i was with him too. i really dont know where he is and im not gonna fool with him and waste my time. i have the baby to tend to, work, and i go to college. Im gonna go to the courthouse and talk to someone and see what to do about notifying him

 

[Zigner]

Why do you need to have the child's name changed? Perhaps you should change YOUR name to match that of the child...

ETA: Changing the name to hide the child away is a pretty low thing to do. This is the man you CHOSE to be the father of your child. Perhaps you should encourage him to go through the court process to have custody, visitation and support matters straightened out?

 

[Cassie102690]

no whats wrong is him not wanting to have anything to do with the child it is not my job to try and make that meth head want to have something to do with his kid. i dont think so and im definitely not gonna take his last name when we were never married. what happened to the other lady that was talking to me??????? because whats best for the child is usually the way to go his non working drug and alchohol abusing jail bird is no help for anything but teaching him bad habits that he dont need. how do u make someone care for a child when they just dont

 

[Zigner]

no whats wrong is him not wanting to have anything to do with the child it is not my job to try and make that meth head want to have something to do with his kid.

It kind-of is...

i dont think so and im definitely not gonna take his last name when we were never married. what happened to the other lady that was talking to me??????? because whats best for the child is usually the way to go his non working drug and alchohol abusing jail bird is no help for anything but teaching him bad habits that he dont need. how do u make someone care for a child when they just dont

Excellent choice for a father you made there!

 

[Just Blue]

It kind-of is...


Excellent choice for a father you made there!

That Cassie! Isn't she just adorable???

 

[CurrentlyUndone]

no whats wrong is him not wanting to have anything to do with the child it is not my job to try and make that meth head want to have something to do with his kid. i dont think so and im definitely not gonna take his last name when we were never married. what happened to the other lady that was talking to me??????? because whats best for the child is usually the way to go his non working drug and alchohol abusing jail bird is no help for anything but teaching him bad habits that he dont need. how do u make someone care for a child when they just dont

Actually, it IS your job to facilitate the relationship between him and your child.

You are actually obliged to do that. Get used to the idea.

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

Technically, without a court order, she is on a fine line. Sounds like dad didn't finish the process of being dad. It doesn't sound like there are any court orders, so right now, there is ONE LEGAL parent.

 

[Cassie102690]

thats me right??? from what ive been told and for the record it wasnt a planned pregnancy and all his real habits didnt show up til afterwards. But i tried to make it work, for over a year. I made a bad choice when it comes to a father, but im the one who stepped up and he didnt want to grow up. so i got a job when the baby was 6 months old and havent stopped since. im in college and trying to make it.

 

[Cassie102690]

what do you mean im on a fine line??? i dont understand

 

[Banned_Princess]

what do you mean im on a fine line??? i dont understand

A fine line in that, you know who the father is, and changing it without saying anything might work out, but it also might blow up in your face if dad finds out, and chooses to complain about it. I mean the guy still has rights and obligations.

 

[jessipoo]

you chose him

no whats wrong is him not wanting to have anything to do with the child it is not my job to try and make that meth head want to have something to do with his kid. i dont think so and im definitely not gonna take his last name when we were never married. what happened to the other lady that was talking to me??????? because whats best for the child is usually the way to go his non working drug and alchohol abusing jail bird is no help for anything but teaching him bad habits that he dont need. how do u make someone care for a child when they just dont

if he was that bad, you shouldnt have had unprotected sex with him. now youre stuck dealing with him untill your child is 18, like it or not. changing your child's name requires dad's permission, theres no way around it.