brknhearted
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What is the name of your state? Tennessee
This situation is unbelievable. I was arrested in the middle of December for violating an order of protection. She originally based her claim on Stalking, and I was unable to afford an attorney at the time so I went by myself to dispute her claim (bringing voicemails, and phone records to prove she had been contacting me, including the night before she filed the order of protection). The judge was belligerent, and pissed off because it was a Monday morning and he had a courtroom full of people. Needless to say, I had the order placed on me as the judge did not even want to hear my evidence or testimony. I thought nothing of it because at this point I was so tired of the Respondents behavior that I did not wish to talk to her anymore anyways.
I was first contacted by the alleged victim in October when she called my work place (I recognized the number and never answered) and later that evening she placed a bag on my truck at my residence which included a t-shirt and sex tapes we had made together when we were in a relationship prior to her filing the original order of protection against me. At this point I contacted her sister and her friend informing them she needed to leave me the f*** alone.
In mid-November I was eating at a popular Cafe, one of which we used to frequent on a regular basis -- I had originally stayed away from this spot for fear of running into the Respondent but since time had passed I thought nothing of it. It turned out she had moved in next door to this cafe!!!! Needless to say, we ran into each other that night at which point she approached me and we began to talk. She informed me that she had dropped the order of protection and that's why she had attempted to contact me in October. I had my cellphone number changed originally because I did not want her contacting me and that's why she had contacted my work place. That night we engaged in sexual relations outside of her apartment (at that time she had not told me she was living there). The following day we resumed an intimate relationship at which point she was at my workplace socializing with myself and my co-workers and customers (I worked at a popular music venue). She had informed the owner of the establishment (who was naturally concerned about my safety) that she had in fact dropped the order of protection after he inquired her about the matter.
For the next 2 weeks we were seeing each other on a daily basis, text messaging, and telephoning each other mutually quite a bit (probably well over 500 text messages, and 100 phone calls were received by her). I had become worried because she was not telling friends of her family nor her immediate family that we were seeing each other again and I persuaded her to contact her father and inform him that we wanted to come see him and discuss our resumption of the relationship. That's when all hell broke lose, her mother called threatening to disown her, and telling her to bring back "her" car. At this point I had enough, and told the Respondent that I no longer wished to compete with her crazy family and that I was done. Later that evening she invited me back to her apartment and I conceded -- that morning her mother knocked on her door and saw me standing there half-naked. At this point my life was threatened and I immediately left. A few days later after not hearing from her I had text messaged the respondent inquiring as to her well-being and informing her she had left some belongings at my apartment and asked when would be a good time to drop them off when she wasn't there. An hour later I received a phone call from a sheriff informing me I had violated my order of protection. Needless to say, I was in complete shock.
There have been no complaints of domestic violence or history of violence between the respondent and I, nor have I ever been arrested for a crime in my life. Since this happened I have filed for an order of protection against her and had it granted after she didn't even bother showing up for the hearing. I have a hearing in 30 days. The judge presiding over the case is notoriously hard on people for violating orders of protections, being cited as saying - "I don't care if she contacted you, you violated my order".
What do I do? Has anyone had any experience like this? I know I need a lawyer but I am seriously in fear of my life so I've had to quit my job and move out of my apartment and that has put me in financial disarray. It also doesn't help that her family is friends with the DA of the city I'm being prosecuted in. I'm fairly certain I'm going to hire a lawyer but I'd like some advice as to how I can go about getting these charges dropped and then suing her for the inconvenience and financial disarray she has put me in.
Regards,
brknhearted
This situation is unbelievable. I was arrested in the middle of December for violating an order of protection. She originally based her claim on Stalking, and I was unable to afford an attorney at the time so I went by myself to dispute her claim (bringing voicemails, and phone records to prove she had been contacting me, including the night before she filed the order of protection). The judge was belligerent, and pissed off because it was a Monday morning and he had a courtroom full of people. Needless to say, I had the order placed on me as the judge did not even want to hear my evidence or testimony. I thought nothing of it because at this point I was so tired of the Respondents behavior that I did not wish to talk to her anymore anyways.
I was first contacted by the alleged victim in October when she called my work place (I recognized the number and never answered) and later that evening she placed a bag on my truck at my residence which included a t-shirt and sex tapes we had made together when we were in a relationship prior to her filing the original order of protection against me. At this point I contacted her sister and her friend informing them she needed to leave me the f*** alone.
In mid-November I was eating at a popular Cafe, one of which we used to frequent on a regular basis -- I had originally stayed away from this spot for fear of running into the Respondent but since time had passed I thought nothing of it. It turned out she had moved in next door to this cafe!!!! Needless to say, we ran into each other that night at which point she approached me and we began to talk. She informed me that she had dropped the order of protection and that's why she had attempted to contact me in October. I had my cellphone number changed originally because I did not want her contacting me and that's why she had contacted my work place. That night we engaged in sexual relations outside of her apartment (at that time she had not told me she was living there). The following day we resumed an intimate relationship at which point she was at my workplace socializing with myself and my co-workers and customers (I worked at a popular music venue). She had informed the owner of the establishment (who was naturally concerned about my safety) that she had in fact dropped the order of protection after he inquired her about the matter.
For the next 2 weeks we were seeing each other on a daily basis, text messaging, and telephoning each other mutually quite a bit (probably well over 500 text messages, and 100 phone calls were received by her). I had become worried because she was not telling friends of her family nor her immediate family that we were seeing each other again and I persuaded her to contact her father and inform him that we wanted to come see him and discuss our resumption of the relationship. That's when all hell broke lose, her mother called threatening to disown her, and telling her to bring back "her" car. At this point I had enough, and told the Respondent that I no longer wished to compete with her crazy family and that I was done. Later that evening she invited me back to her apartment and I conceded -- that morning her mother knocked on her door and saw me standing there half-naked. At this point my life was threatened and I immediately left. A few days later after not hearing from her I had text messaged the respondent inquiring as to her well-being and informing her she had left some belongings at my apartment and asked when would be a good time to drop them off when she wasn't there. An hour later I received a phone call from a sheriff informing me I had violated my order of protection. Needless to say, I was in complete shock.
There have been no complaints of domestic violence or history of violence between the respondent and I, nor have I ever been arrested for a crime in my life. Since this happened I have filed for an order of protection against her and had it granted after she didn't even bother showing up for the hearing. I have a hearing in 30 days. The judge presiding over the case is notoriously hard on people for violating orders of protections, being cited as saying - "I don't care if she contacted you, you violated my order".
What do I do? Has anyone had any experience like this? I know I need a lawyer but I am seriously in fear of my life so I've had to quit my job and move out of my apartment and that has put me in financial disarray. It also doesn't help that her family is friends with the DA of the city I'm being prosecuted in. I'm fairly certain I'm going to hire a lawyer but I'd like some advice as to how I can go about getting these charges dropped and then suing her for the inconvenience and financial disarray she has put me in.
Regards,
brknhearted
