Child support before the child is born

[MsShauna]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? GA

My friend and co-worker may have gotten this girl pregnant. He has been helping her out but has asked for a DNA test when the baby is born in September. Well the young lady and her mother started asking him for $500 to pay for a baby shower. He said he would help them out but he has 2 other kids. Now the young lady and her mother are texting saying he will not be able to see the child or anything when the baby is born and he cannot get a DNA test she will see him in court. The text messages are crazy and then she calls the workplace with this.

Is this reasonable. Can he be made to pay for expenses when the child isn't born? Will he be able to get a DNA test if she will not consent?

 

[seniorjudge]

Is this reasonable. Can he be made to pay for expenses when the child isn't born? Will he be able to get a DNA test if she will not consent?

If you want to give her money, it's not child support, it's just a gift.

If you want visitation and a child support judgment entered, then sue her to establish paternity once the kid is born.

Congratulations, pa!!!

 

[Antigone*]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? GA

My friend and co-worker may have gotten this girl pregnant. He has been helping her out but has asked for a DNA test when the baby is born in September. Well the young lady and her mother started asking him for $500 to pay for a baby shower. He said he would help them out but he has 2 other kids. Now the young lady and her mother are texting saying he will not be able to see the child or anything when the baby is born and he cannot get a DNA test she will see him in court. The text messages are crazy and then she calls the workplace with this.

Is this reasonable. Can he be made to pay for expenses when the child isn't born? Will he be able to get a DNA test if she will not consent?

This man will not legally be a father until he is named so by a court of law. As was stated any money he gives to this woman is a gift. There is no child, hence no support. He is not a father, again, no support.

Once the baby is born, he can and should petition the court to establish paternity. After he is legally named dad, they will establish custody, visitation and support.

I personally would not fork over a dime until a judge says I have to, but that's jut me. Pay for her shower, how extremely ludicrous

 

[TheGeekess]

If Mom wanted putative Dad to pay for stuff before the baby is even born, she should have married him first.

Have Dad read the following:

Self-help legal resources



For those who want to consider filing an action in court on their own, below is a list of resources. These sites have forms and instructions, which include forms for legitimation and visitation.

www.fultonfamilydivision.com This is the site of the Fulton County Superior Court Family Division's Family Law Information Center. Any resident of the State of Georgia can visit the center in person at its location. The address is 185 Central Avenue, Atlanta, Ga. 30303. The phone is 404-335-2789. One can receive a free, brief legal consultation with an attorney by calling and making an appointment. However, a non-custodial parent must follow the guidelines of the county with legal jurisdiction over his/her particular legal issues.

DeKalb County Police Department This is the site of DeKalb County Superior Court's Family Law Information Center. Any DeKalb resident or person with a family law issue related to DeKalb County can visit the center at its location at 120 West Trinity Place, Decatur, Ga. 30030. The phone is 404-687-3990. Brief, legal consultations with an attorney are available for $10 by calling and making an appointment.

Cobb County Government This is the site of the Cobb County Superior Court Family Law Workshop. Any Cobb resident or person with a family law issue related to Cobb County can visit the center at 30 Waddell Street, Marietta, Ga. 30090. The phone is 770-528-1812. The workshop is free of charge and provides answers to basic questions about divorce, paternity/legitimation, contempt, and modification cases.

http://production.albany.ga.us/law_library/LL_forms_family_law.htm This is the site of the Dougherty County Superior Court Law Library. Any Dougherty resident or person with a family law issue related to Dougherty County can visit the center at its location at 225 Pine Avenue, Room 212, Albany, Ga. 31702. The phone is 229-431-2133. The library manager, who is an attorney, is available to provide assistance with conducting research, finding appropriate materials and possible legal resources, suggesting self-help resources, and answering legal reference questions in person or by e-mail. However, the library manager is not permitted to give legal advice or interpret specific legal situations.

Northeastern Judicial Circuit Family Law Information Center and Guardian ad Litem Program - Hall County, Georgia This is the site of the Hall and Dawson County Superior Court Family Law Information Center. Any Hall or Dawson resident or person with a family law issue related to Hall or Dawson Counties can visit the center at its location at 225 Green Street, S.E., Gainesville, Ga. 30501. The phone is 770-531-2463. Brief, legal consultations with an attorney are available at no cost in Dawson County. However, a financial qualification is required for attorney consultations in Hall County.

Appalachian Family Law Information Center This is the site of the Appalachian Family Law Information Center serving Fannin, Gilmer, and Pickens counties. Any Fannin, Gilmer or Pickens resident or person with a family law issue related to these counties can visit the center at its location at 1 Broad Street, Suite 102 A, Ellijay, Ga. 30540. The phone is 706-299-1444. Brief, legal consultations with an attorney are available by appointment for income-qualified individuals.

LegalAid-GA.org | A guide to free and low-cost legal aid, assistance and services in Georgia This site is a project of the Atlanta Legal Aid Society, the Georgia Legal Services Program and the Pro Bono Project of the State Bar of Georgia. It is a guide to free legal information and services including the topics of legitimation, visitation, and custody.

A list of the Georgia Superior Court Clerks for every county is on this web site: GSCCCA.org - Georgia Superior Court Clerks' Cooperative Authority.

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[seniorjudge]

...If Mom wanted putative Dad to pay for stuff before the baby is even born, she should have married him first....

I suspect there may be an unresolved wife already hanging around in the wings or somewhere.

 

[MsShauna]

Ok thanks. I was thinking the same thing. I hosted the shower for my best friend and my God child's mother. I had never heard of the parents or parent and presumed parent hosting their own baby shower. lol No there is no wife he has 2 kids from a previous relationship. I asked the question because he trusts me and I see him stressing at work with the text messages and then she started calling up the place of employment so I said while he's in the warehouse I would find some information for him and research if he needed an attorney.

He is a nice guy and works hard. My opinion was that she is trying to get over because she is unemployed and he has a good job but those were personal feelings and not law.

 

[nextwife]

Ok thanks. I was thinking the same thing. I hosted the shower for my best friend and my God child's mother. I had never heard of the parents or parent and presumed parent hosting their own baby shower. lol No there is no wife he has 2 kids from a previous relationship. I asked the question because he trusts me and I see him stressing at work with the text messages and then she started calling up the place of employment so I said while he's in the warehouse I would find some information for him and research if he needed an attorney.

He is a nice guy and works hard. My opinion was that she is trying to get over because she is unemployed and he has a good job but those were personal feelings and not law.

Miss Manners would be horrified to hear of someone giving themselves a baby shower!

I was "expecting" kiddo's arrival for 10 months and never considered giving myself a baby shower. I was taught it's just not done.

I hate to point this out, but, having miscarried myself, I consider it bad luck to have a shower until the baby is born, or at least very, very far along..

 

[MsShauna]

Miss Manners would be horrified to hear of someone giving themselves a baby shower!

I know! That is just very tacky in my opinion. Just get the things the baby needs. Why throw your own baby shower?

I was "expecting" kiddo's arrival for 10 months and never considered giving myself a baby shower. I was taught it's just not done.

I hate to point this out, but, having miscarried myself, I consider it bad luck to have a shower until the baby is born, or at least very, very far along..

I'm very sorry to hear that! The baby is due in September.

Sad thing about this is he asked if he could talk to me when he went on break and he showed me the text messages or her saying she cheated. She was implying that the baby was not his, but he has a great job and the other prospects and her do not. This is a sad situation, but I have been telling him what you guys advised and hopefully tomorrow he will have time to log on and do some research if he is not pulling overtime.