child support question

[wnbama]

I know this may sound bad but he claimed disability in the child support court order so if she take it to CSE how can they garnish wages he don't have? I'm not being funny. She appearently claim that she called Social Security Administration and found out that he's really not collecting.....I think my husband is in ssome trouble here.....He's been treating her like this for a while....Honestly, even though I dont like her, I think she's fed up with him completely....by the way I gave birth to his first baby girl and things are great with the family

Yep, you sound just like my son's SM and Father and guess WHAT I got fed up with them too! Took it back to CSE....18 months later and jail time for the NCP and I now get my child support.

How could he claim disability for child support without showinng proof? My NCP tried that one too and he had to show PROOF which he did not have and he was 12K behind and guess what, his wages are now garnished as per the court order from the job that he can work.

 

[wnbama]

So, your husband is an utter piece of crap, but your family is "great?" We must have different definitions of great. Your husband is going to end up in jail. And your second child support order will haunt you forever, knowing how great your (future) STBX is at paying his first. YOU ARE DOOMED.

This is exactly what I told the SM in my case and she did not believe me, of course until her husband went to jail and she was on the phone BEGGING me to take a lesser amount so he could get out...becuase they have a child together!

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

Your husband sounds just like my X. He won't pay anything unless:
1. It is taken out of his paycheck before he gets his paycheck
2. He's looking for someone to pay his purge cuz he's sitting in jail.

You are delusional if you think he won't do the same thing to you.

I would NEVER have even let it get to a 'self-pay', but would have requested the garnishment right off the bat.

Do you think this child eats on occasion? Turns on lights occasionally?

You've said before about you paying the support for your lovely husband since he was unemployed. Howabout teaching this person how to be a man and support this child? Write that check and have him sign it. I'm sure you can use your persuasion to have him do the right thing.

 

[stepmom4ever]

Yep, you sound just like my son's SM and Father and guess WHAT I got fed up with them too! Took it back to CSE....18 months later and jail time for the NCP and I now get my child support.

How could he claim disability for child support without showinng proof? My NCP tried that one too and he had to show PROOF which he did not have and he was 12K behind and guess what, his wages are now garnished as per the court order from the job that he can work.

When they went to court he showed the mediator an application seeking disability and told the mediator that once he get approved he will let the mother know.....The court obviously took that as evidence

 

[TheGeekess]

I know this may sound bad but he claimed disability in the child support court order so if she take it to CSE how can they garnish wages he don't have? I'm not being funny. She appearently claim that she called Social Security Administration and found out that he's really not collecting.....I think my husband is in ssome trouble here.....He's been treating her like this for a while....Honestly, even though I dont like her, I think she's fed up with him completely....by the way I gave birth to his first baby girl and things are great with the family

I don't blame her for being disgusted. I'd be disgusted too.

As far as the rest of it goes, if he IS on SSDI, then Mom #1's son should be getting a check. If he's lying, I hope he gets a big book thrown at him. And he will. I'm waiting for you to post back letting us know that:

1. He has lost his drivers' license and whatever professional licenses he has (including electrician/plumbing/etc)
2. He has decided that he'd rather be out playing with his buddies and won't pay you CS

Have a nice day while you chew on those realities. It's going to happen; it's just a matter of time. Do you think a man who runs from his responsibilities and possibly perjures himself in court is going to be there for you when he decides to leave?

 

[StampGirl]

I hope you are paying attention reallly closely. Because this is EXACTLY the way he will treat you and that new baby of yours. Oh and when he shacks up with the next poor woman and SHE decides that YOU are unfit as a mom because YOU are single.... well honey remember that ALL the things you did to the first mom will come back to YOU.

Treat others as you wish to be treated.

I can't even believe someone would even be married let alone procreate in that situation. SHEESH. He treats women like crap and his kids worse.

What a GREAT husband and daddy you have.

WIsh I had Mom's email or something to send her all of hte crap-tastic things you have posted here etc.

Amen for her going to CSE to have that court order enforced. THAT CHILD deserves to be supported by BOTH parents.

 

[stepmom4ever]

I don't blame her for being disgusted. I'd be disgusted too.

As far as the rest of it goes, if he IS on SSDI, then Mom #1's son should be getting a check. If he's lying, I hope he gets a big book thrown at him. And he will. I'm waiting for you to post back letting us know that:

1. He has lost his drivers' license and whatever professional licenses he has (including electrician/plumbing/etc)
2. He has decided that he'd rather be out playing with his buddies and won't pay you CS

Have a nice day while you chew on those realities. It's going to happen; it's just a matter of time. Do you think a man who runs from his responsibilities and possibly perjures himself in court is going to be there for you when he decides to leave?

I'm not trying to make a big thing out of this..... I know deep down my husband might be in trouble if she decides to take this further. You think I dont have problems at home with my husband ? but it's not my place to broadcast my business on the web...every marriage has problems that's normal

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

Going back to your original question:

Can the X take it back to court if your hubby decides not to pay? Yeppers.

While your hubby is in court, expect that he may actually have to cough up a portion of that arrearage too, or go directly to jail. It's kinda like that game of Monopoly. You can't get out of jail until you pay, or roll the right numbers. Well, his number is up, and it's the number that says % of arrearage or go directly to jail.

Jail might not be a bad place for the husband right now. It might be a wakeup call that not everyone is charmed by his wonderfulness. Might scare him right into complying, especially if he gets a really loving cellmate.

 

[Isis1]

I'm not trying to make a big thing out of this..... I know deep down my husband might be in trouble if she decides to take this further. You think I dont have problems at home with my husband ? but it's not my place to broadcast my business on the web...every marriage has problems that's normal

what was someone's perspective of insanity? doing the same thing over and over while expecting different results?

dealing with a POS who refuses to pay child support, having a baby and then expecting him to be different with you. THAT IS NOT NORMAL!!!


this is like someone walking in front of a train, getting killed, and then a passerby who saw it happen, walk in front of the same train

 

[>Charlotte<]

This person seeks only to confirm the "reality" she has created for herself. Her true mission is to intrude upon and complicate the life of her step-child's mother--a woman who, in actuality, appears to be kind-hearted and reasonable. Stepmom4ever is determined to believe she is jealous and vindictive, in an effort to deflect a reality that is either too hard for her to face, or out of reach of her emotional and intellectual capacity. Self-delusions should not be enabled.

 

[TheGeekess]

I'm not trying to make a big thing out of this..... I know deep down my husband might be in trouble if she decides to take this further. You think I dont have problems at home with my husband ? but it's not my place to broadcast my business on the web...every marriage has problems that's normal

But it's okay for you to broadcast your husband and Mom #1's problems on the web? That's hypocrisy. Plain, simple and easy.

 

[wnbama]

When they went to court he showed the mediator an application seeking disability and told the mediator that once he get approved he will let the mother know.....The court obviously took that as evidence

And that's what mine did too....then he had to PROVE it, CSE checked up on it and when it was DENIED, and they found out where he was working p, can't figure out where they found that info at??? maybe the CP and her detective work?, or maybe from the state income tax records? oh maybe from the state new hire reports?) they then garnished his wages. This took 18 months to get to in my case.

He lied to get out of paying CS, that poor child. He only applied for disability, he was still required to keep up the CS payments till the SSI/SSDI went into effect!!

 

[Tink11464]

"I'm not trying to make a big thing out of this..... I know deep down my husband might be in trouble if she decides to take this further. You think I dont have problems at home with my husband ? but it's not my place to broadcast my business on the web...every marriage has problems that's normal"



I thought you said your family was Great after you gave him his 1st daughter?? Sounds like you are trying to convince yourself!!! Run while you can - ohhh and don't expect anything from him when all is said and done - - he obviously doesn't care about his "first family" - the 2nd family surely will be further down on his priority list.

And for you - a woman - a mother - to back the actions of this so called man - you should be ashamed of yourself. You need counseling/help/education so that you can stand on your own 2 feet and not have the same thing done to you (as it will happen - it's just a matter of when). Just be prepared to fend for your family alone.

 

[wileybunch]

I'm not trying to make a big thing out of this..... I know deep down my husband might be in trouble if she decides to take this further. You think I dont have problems at home with my husband ? but it's not my place to broadcast my business on the web...every marriage has problems that's normal

Sure, every marriage has its problems, but it is relative. For example, I've never ever had to worry about my husband cheating on anything -- not on me, not on his child support, not on finances, not in stores stealing, etc. He's honest and hard working. Sometimes he works too hard, has too many projects, won't stop cleaning. Would you like to have MY problems? I certainly wouldn't want yours! Set the bar higher. This man is no good and it reflects on you as a person and the quality of parent you are that you don't seem to know when things are too low. Figure out why you think the problems you have with him are "within normal" range and then you'll know you need to get out (unless he has some serious turnaround in his character and integrity).

 

[stepmom4ever]

And that's what mine did too....then he had to PROVE it, CSE checked up on it and when it was DENIED, and they found out where he was working p, can't figure out where they found that info at??? maybe the CP and her detective work?, or maybe from the state income tax records? oh maybe from the state new hire reports?) they then garnished his wages. This took 18 months to get to in my case.

He lied to get out of paying CS, that poor child. He only applied for disability, he was still required to keep up the CS payments till the SSI/SSDI went into effect!!

That's what I'm afraid of because she is taking it to CSE...I think they will find out if he is really collecting or not...... What would happen if he's not cllecting? because he's also not working...I pay all the bills for right now