children's activities

[dakoto70]

I think

I think it sucks that there are parents out there that are more interested in satisfying themselves and whatever agenda they may have than they are with the kids being involved in a few sports. if the parents agree to allow their children to be in sports and activities and than because it bothers them they start pissing and moaning about it.

those kids will be the ones that are allowed to run free and get into trouble. kids who have a structured like and things that they need to be doing are less likely to become board and get into trouble. this is my own opinion and I only say this because I have seen cases of this. Kids running free getting picked up by the cops at age 12 smoking drinking by 15 parents don't care there is no structure guide lines, nothing.

I am sorry for the parents who can't be bothered to enjoy spending time being with their child doing something that the child likes. Whys hould the child pick something that the parent likes isn't it supposed to be for the child? Sports, music, dance, hobbies, it is what the kids like not what the parent likes.

Thank God I don't have to fight with someone so my child can be happy. The kids are miserable with the sounds of some of the parents here. By God don't let that child do that his father/mother might not approve, go sit on the couch and don't move. Give me a break already. If the parent wants to be involved in their child's life fine great if not get the hell out and leave them alone.

Kids are not something or someone you can use as a pawn to get what you want. The father said it was ok it makes me mad the kids even had to ask this is something that should have been discussed between parents and than they are allowed to sign up and dad becomes an ass and now they can't. Dad looks like a winner to me showing the kids it is ok to quit you don't want to do it fine than don't. Good example.

 

[jaa4d]

Amen!!

 

[dakoto70]

It

I know it isn't law but it makes me mad when both parents act like asses with the kids. Mom uses them against dad dad uses them against mom. When do the kids get to be kids and I am sorry but my life does revolve around my kids. thats why this summer I was gone 5-6 days a week from the end of May until the begining of Aug. baseball. My son plays my daughter plays and I was a caoch. Life was rough but it kept my children off the streets and at least my daughters father (yes he is her father too, when he chooses to be) and my sons father (make me sick) can rot in hell for all I care. But atleast our daughter has a father who is willing to give her what she needs to grow and become the person she is. Its called allowing them to grow into INDIVIDUALS (SP?).

 

[imxoz]

Thanks dakota, I agree, I guess that was my original point. Like I've said before I am a psychologist. I hate the effect on the kids. Mine is letting them participate but guilts them to death and then the only way they can get to these events is if I pick them up 25 minutes away and drive them. The price I get for my children's happiness. I am not gripping just tired thinking about it. I know I should be more assertive and say you do something, but life is he won't and I will have too. Friday night, I drive one out to his place after practice, one stays with me and one goes. the one that stays with me is because she has a tourney at 8am and he doesn't want to get up that early. After the tourney on the east side of town (I live on the west ) and he lives 25 minutes past my house, I get to drive her to his house and pick up the youngest so we can drive 100 miles for his game and then back 100 mroe miles to dad's. I'm tired all ready. But what are ya gonna do.

 

[dakoto70]

I am sorry

that he isn't that supportive of the activities for the children. I bet if he was more involved you wouldn't be divorced. Oh well what are you going to do about it. That's fine you will be the one that benefits from this and he won't. And you know what not your problem. He chooses not to be involved so when they shut him out and he comes crying to you tell him that is his problem not yours and he should have thought about that when he pushed them away.