Clarification....don't want to hijack another's thread

[Ohiogal]

First off I want to say that I deeply respect OhioGal's status here. She has given me very good advice...as have other members here. I take great offense at those who are trying to make her seem idiotic....there are good people here, who know what they're doing. Basically, if you don't want the truth, don't ask it here....things here are to the point, and you take it that way or pay a lawyer the big bucks and hear it from him/her.

I thank you!

If we had more than a mailing address for my SD's mom, I'd be glad to put her on the forms for school.

Put her on the forms as mom anyway. And put yourself in another spot.

Unfortunately, she is unwilling to give any information. The mailing address we got for her was via the CSE folks....when she sends anything to my SD, it's without an address. We have no contact info for her other than the address, and she has only started accepting mail in March of this year.

She still needs to be on the forms as she is entitled to information about her child.

When I meet a new teacher, they are told(by me) that I am the stepmom. The office personnel know I am the stepmom

Good.

At the beginning of every school year, my hubby writes a letter/note to the school personnel that mom is not to contact SD nor pick her up due to the court ordered sanction of sorts....the judge stated she is not to have any physical contact with their child until mom meets with the judge and posts a bond. This has been noted in SD's file year after year.

If there is a court order that states that, dad should include a copy of the cover page of said order as well as the section that states mom is not to have physical contact until mom meets with the judge and posts a bond put in the child's file.

Eventually, when we get enough money saved, we're going for a TPR. Now that mom is playing the head games with her child, it'll take a bit longer, but we'll be able to save that much more for an even better lawyer. Then I'll be able to legally say I am mom.

Good.

I have discussed this with the hubby since I asked this question, and he has told his boss that he will need time off to talk with the teachers, school staff and docs when the need arises. I still continue with the momly (is that a word?) duties and take care of my SD as I do my own 2 sons.

Good. You can do the loving and nurturing ( to those who read the other thread about us women) but leave the legal stuff like making education and medical decisions to dad.

I appreciate the help from those who offered true assistance, and give the golden raspberry to the buttheads who talk smack.

Thanks to the helpful folks!!!!

Carol

You are welcome!

 

[Ohiogal]

I really think that you do not have a problem. Your husband absolutely needs to be the person making the decisions and approving things like IEPs, but since mom is currently not allowed to have any physical contact with the child, she obviously cannot be on the emergency pickup list at school.

She should however be listed on the forms as mom, since she is entitled to obtain the child's medical and school records, and will not be able to do so unless she is listed as the mother.

I agree 100% with Ldij.

 

[daddyslilgurl]

no trouble

It depends...Do you have a general or guardianship POA? My hubbys military so yes there is a diffrence. But if the school has been aloowing the one you have then you have the right one. I have a Poa for my step daughter and i took her to the dentist no issue they just ask for a copy. If grandma can take a child to appointments why can't we? speacially when we're the only ones who will??? dads busy!

 

[stealth2]

There is a huge difference between taking the child to an appointment and agreeing to treatment. Sure, my Mom takes the kids to appointments when I can't make it - so does their stepmom when Dad can't. That doesn't give either the right to consent to treatment, especially something that isn't an emergency. Same thing with school issues - I'd no more tolerate my Mom inserting herself into any of them than I do stepmom. The kids have two parents - and neither of them are it.

 

[Shay-Pari'e]

Step parenting is THE hardest job and the least appreciated!

carofl93, I give you a huge pat on the back for a job well done!!!!! In MY opinion you should be the ONLY person named on any of those documents. (other than Dad) After all, "mom" is MIA and truthfully it takes a lot more than 9 months to be a Mom, know what I mean?

And by the way, IGNORE OHIOGAL, who thinks she knows everything and can trash us all with her nastyness. She is rude and obnoxious and VERY opinionated but knows NOTHING about what it takes to be a mom to another womans child. This is clear by her comments and remarks.

Sometimes you NEED to put away the legalities to be a parents**************....bio or step. When the law and parents realize this, we will be a better nation for it.
KUDOS to you for all your love and devotion to this child!
Many blessings to you and the family!

Who is *US ALL*? You have one post on this forum, and this is your only one. This makes you a troll, probably a banned troll who can't seem to even figure out what state they live in.

 

[osmosis]

Step parenting is THE hardest job and the least appreciated!

I can agree with this, as a stepparent.

And by the way, IGNORE OHIOGAL, who thinks she knows everything and can trash us all with her nastyness. She is rude and obnoxious and VERY opinionated but knows NOTHING about what it takes to be a mom to another womans child. This is clear by her comments and remarks.

Wow! The audacity of some people astounds me. FYI: OhioGal DOES know everything, and is an incredible person. Get over it.

 

[Ohiogal]

Who is *US ALL*? You have one post on this forum, and this is your only one. This makes you a troll, probably a banned troll who can't seem to even figure out what state they live in.

Shay she deleted her thread after attempting to prove how smart she is. Needless to say.... she did have several more posts -- she just did not like the answers.