Don't get me wrong.......I was raised that when you screwed up, you were going to get spanked. And lord help us, if we got in trouble at school, we were going to get in trouble at home.
Dad and Mom both use the theory that on some occasions, kids need spanked. I know that this will probably spark the spank / no spank wars, but is just our personal opinoins.
BUT.....stepmom received a wooden paddle, the ole school marm style. And she would use it to spank the children. I requested that she not use it, to use her hand and technically there is a law in missouri that limits what she can use to spank the children with. BUT she continued to use the paddle and she was leaving welps and bruises. It was coming to the point that I was forced to attempt to file charges against her to get her to stop. I don't know if anyone has dealt with DFS in MO for this issue, but they don't give it alot of presidence since their other abuse cases are so much more graphic. So now......ex is held responsible for the actions of the woman he chose as his wife. When it came to the point that he was in contempt every time she did it --- he put his foot down.
It also included school officials. Had that put in since there was a big issue about one of the teachers being excessive. If our kids need it, they get it. And if I get called to the school for a disciplinary reason for them and they deserve it, they will get it. But it will be by me or dad, right there in front of the school officials. We had to sign a "no paddle" slip for the school.
EDITED FOR BOLD SECTION ---- We use every other method first, taking their toys and stuff didn't seem to do the trick for my kids, but take that allowance away and they just about die. LOL!!!
Again.....just personal opinions.
Here is the wording if it helps.....
(10) That the Step-Parents of said children shall have the right to :
(a) transport said children for parenting times and custodial periods, school, activities or trips, or to provide any other transportation required in the parenting and custodial care of said children.
(b) share information with any school official or other authority or agency, physician, counselor, psychiatrist / psychologist, health care professional, activity supervisor, friend, relative or any other person concerned with the health and well-being of said children for the purposes of providing said children with proper care and supervision.
(c) seek regular and emergency medical care for said children under the guidelines of this Order, and to consent to such care should the need arise, and a custodial Parent is not available to consent to such care.
(11) The Step-Parent shall NOT have the right to administer corporal punishment, or physically strike said children for any reason whatsoever.
(12) That corporal punishment of said minor children, IF ANY AT ALL, is administered only by the natural Mother or the natural Father. Both parties are restrained from allowing ANY other person to administer corporal punishment to said minor children, including School Administration or Authorities.