CO - Stepparent Adoption

[abkmom]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Colorado

Hello all,
My daughter's bio father has agreed to relinquish his parental rights - but I'm not sure if he even has parental rights.

Background:

We were never married.
We didn't live together when she was born.
He never put his name on her birth certificate.
His paternity has never been legally established.
He gave me a total of $600 when she was 1-2 yrs (she's 13 now).
He hasn't seen her since she was 3 years old.


Does he even have rights to terminate?

Thanks in advance,
AngieWhat is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?

 

[haiku]

If he was never officially declared the father he will have to be declared the father to give up his rights. The adoption wil not happen until that happens.

You should really be consulting with a lawyer, because even though this forum exists here at free advice, adoption should never START, as a do it yourself process.

 

[Antigone*]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Colorado

Hello all,
My daughter's bio father has agreed to relinquish his parental rights - but I'm not sure if he even has parental rights.

Background:

We were never married.
We didn't live together when she was born.
He never put his name on her birth certificate.
His paternity has never been legally established.
He gave me a total of $600 when she was 1-2 yrs (she's 13 now).
He hasn't seen her since she was 3 years old.


Does he even have rights to terminate?

Thanks in advance,
AngieWhat is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?

Well, Biomom, in order for dad to relinquish his rights he will have to assert them first.

Is there someone else wanting to step in as dad?

 

[stealth2]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Colorado

Hello all,
My daughter's bio father has agreed to relinquish his parental rights - but I'm not sure if he even has parental rights.

Background:

We were never married.
We didn't live together when she was born.
He never put his name on her birth certificate.
His paternity has never been legally established.
He gave me a total of $600 when she was 1-2 yrs (she's 13 now).
He hasn't seen her since she was 3 years old.


Does he even have rights to terminate?

Thanks in advance,
AngieWhat is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?

Well, BioMommy... here's the scoop. You can't have your Man du Jour adopt your daughter until there's a Daddy to relinquish rights. And since Daddy has no rights at the moment, you would have to get him to establish them, THEN relinquish them. Before MdJ can adopt your daughter.

Daddy had absolutely no obligation to provide support since you didn't bother to establish his paternity legally, nor get a court order for support.

Have fun, BioMommy.

 

[abkmom]

Wow, some of you are resentful and snarky little buggers, yes?

My "man du jour" is my husband of more than ten years and, really, the only father my daughter has ever known (and, I feel I must add - since there's some insinuation here that I pass my vagina around -the only husband I've ever had). Pardon us for wanting to make that legal.

Are these responses from the now "women du jour" of men who have been treated badly by their baby mommas? If so, sorry for your situation - but don't take that out on me.

Oh, and I did "bother" to try to get him to establish paternity and child support. I even, some would say, struggled. You think I was happy that he wouldn't do what was required so that he could be a part of her life and have his name on the birth certificate?? It broke my heart into little pieces - the whole situation.

Thanks. Really.

 

[stealth2]

Wow, some of you are resentful and snarky little buggers, yes?

My "man du jour" is my husband of more than ten years and, really, the only father my daughter has ever known (and, I feel I must add - since there's some insinuation here that I pass my vagina around -the only husband I've ever had). Pardon us for wanting to make that legal.

Are these responses from the now "women du jour" of men who have been treated badly by their baby mommas? If so, sorry for your situation - but don't take that out on me.

Here's the deal, BioMommy... Your kid, right now, has only one father. And his name is NOT "bio father". No matter what you may think of him, HE is the one you chose to be your child's father. FATHER. No "bio" in front of it. Not until a court changes that. If you don't like yourself or your husband being referred to in a derogatory manner? Don't refer to the man you chose to father you child in one, either.

 

[milspecgirl]

get an atty- it really is not an easy process. You will have to file to establish dad's paternity and then to terminate his rights and have your hubby adopt.

It shouldn't be difficult since everyone is in agreement, but you dont want to make any mistakes on the paperwork