College Funding by Ex

[MaryMG]

What is the name of your state? New York

I allowed my ex-husband to keep a large security fund, but it was to be used as a college fund for our two children. Our divorce papers state clearly what these funds were to be used for should the children attend college. (If they did not attend - the fund was his). Our oldest registered for college before her 21st. birthday and is now attending. He is refusing to pay for her education because of some mistakes she made a few years ago. (I'm sure he just wants to keep they money for himself) What grounds do I have to make him pay???

Thanks,

Mary

 

[Gracie3787]

What is the name of your state? New York

I allowed my ex-husband to keep a large security fund, but it was to be used as a college fund for our two children. Our divorce papers state clearly what these funds were to be used for should the children attend college. (If they did not attend - the fund was his). Our oldest registered for college before her 21st. birthday and is now attending. He is refusing to pay for her education because of some mistakes she made a few years ago. (I'm sure he just wants to keep they money for himself) What grounds do I have to make him pay???

Thanks,

Mary

The grounds to make him pay? The divorce decree. Show it to him, if he still won't pay, file for a contempt charge.

 

[MaryMG]

College Funding

New York

I have read the divorce decree to him word for word. My daughter tells me that he has made arrangements to pay a small amount to her college, but she will be required to pay $375.00/month until she finishes in October. I suppose this means I will have to take him to court to make sure he fulfills his parental obligation???!!!

 

[stealth2]

What EXACTLY does the order say?

 

[absconder]

Was he supposed to wait forever for her to go to school? Maybe hold on to the money till she was 45?

 

[djohnson]

Was he supposed to wait forever for her to go to school? Maybe hold on to the money till she was 45?

That is what I was wondering. Is there a time frame on it? If not then he may have a good defense if you file for contempt. If it says it's his if she doesn't go to college, then when she didn't go after several years out of school, then what did you expect him to do hold it until he died and then just leave it to the kids? Maybe she can get a job or a loan like many other kids. What you earn yourself sure is more appreciated.

 

[nextwife]

Was he supposed to wait forever for her to go to school? Maybe hold on to the money till she was 45?

That's what I was thinking. Certainly it is unreasonable to expect him to keep those funds sitting forever IN CASE she someday, long after HS, decided to finally go to college.

 

[BelizeBreeze]

New York

I have read the divorce decree to him word for word. My daughter tells me that he has made arrangements to pay a small amount to her college, but she will be required to pay $375.00/month until she finishes in October. I suppose this means I will have to take him to court to make sure he fulfills his parental obligation???!!!

And, of course, no one has ask what the $375 a month is for. So, would anyone care to ask that question?

 

[MaryMG]

New York

First let me say, I think we all come to this forum because we have genuine concerns about our situations. We state them as concise as possible, knowing there is alot more behind the statements we make or questions we ask. As difficult as our situations may be, no one should be treated unkindly or in a rude manner. I thank those of you who want to be of assistance or share your concern.

That being said, the background here is that my daughter had a baby at 16, with my help, she finished high school, and began community college (her father put up $900.00), but soon after - realizing she never had a real childhood - dropped out, left home before her daughter turned 2 (where I took custody) and spent the next year making a mess out of her life. She woke up one day and asked to be sent to a Christian home for troubled youth in Western NY. Where she spent the next 16 months. She's come back home, to live with her daughter and I and has enrolled in a radio school to learn how to produce radio broadcasts. She works 30-40 hrs. a week, while attending school and tries to help as best she can with her now 5 year old daughter. Does she not deserve a 2nd chance at a life she easily could have thrown away? As our child, shouldn't we do what we can with the resources we have to help her, just as she tries to help herself?

PS: Divorce Decree reads: .....all common stock obtained shall be inventoried and placed in said collge fund. This fund shall be shared one-half for each child and shall only be used for said child if the child attends collge.

Thanks,

Mary

 

[BelizeBreeze]

So, you can take pops back to court and maybe win. Or, pops will win based on the fact that daughter DID get her college paid for.

It's a crap shoot. So, don't you think it might be time for daughter to pull her OWN ass out of the fire for a change.

 

[stealth2]

Honestly? I don't think there's much chance of a court ordering him to pay this. Radio school != college. I'm sorry.

 

[MaryMG]

NY

Gee - The encyclopedia states college = institutions of higher education that offer programs beyond the high school level.

I see we have many critical members here who do not think "outside of the box". Just think the next time you turn on the radio, TV, visit your physical therapist, hairdresser or countless other "service" industries and wonder where they received their training. A cracker jack box?

Does our responsibility as parents end at a certain age? With attitudes such as these, we would be in the same class as animals who walk away from their young after birth. You have tarnished my hope for the human condition.

 

[Silverplum]

NY
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Does our responsibility as parents end at a certain age? With attitudes such as these, we would be in the same class as animals who walk away from their young after birth. You have tarnished my hope for the human condition.

Rhett! Tara is burning! Save me, Rhett!

 

[stealth2]

Rhett! Tara is burning! Save me, Rhett!

I'll think about it..... tomorrow.

 

[stealth2]

NY

Gee - The encyclopedia states college = institutions of higher education that offer programs beyond the high school level.

And the dictionary defines "college" as an institution of higher learning that grants the bachelor's degree in liberal arts or science or both. Is your daughter getting a Bachelor's? Radio school is a technical institute. And while it's great that she's doing something to better her employment opportunities, she's not going to college, hon. No matter what wands you wave, you're never going to turn a button mushroom into a black truffle. Same with her school.