common law marriage + adoption sc

[vmom2]

at least judges have the facts presented to them before making their decisions and when someone is accusing me of selling my kid that's crossing the line

 

[Proserpina]

at least judges have the facts presented to them before making their decisions and when someone is accusing me of selling my kid that's crossing the line

How do you think a judge might see it?

 

[vmom2]

I don't know..maybe that I'm helping the guy out since he's trying to get into the military and clean himself up and can't do that with that much cs obligation and she is taken care of so we don't need his money..he's already signed his rights over to his two other children. Anyone can look at it how they want to but that guys comment was uncalled for. I'm trying to protect and do what's best for my kid

 

[bwilks2]

I agree!

My fiance and I have been together for 6 years and my son, from a previous relationship is 7. I would absolutely let my son's bio-dad off the hook for back cs if he would sign his rights away. It is not selling your child. Your not handing him 10k in cash. For those of you who have never been in the situation of being a single parent dating and finding a person who loves you and your child, getting married is still a risk that at times seems scary. Once bitten twice shy! It gets old hearing"just get married" huh vmom2.

 

[Hisbabygirl77]

My fiance and I have been together for 6 years and my son, from a previous relationship is 7. I would absolutely let my son's bio-dad off the hook for back cs if he would sign his rights away. It is not selling your child. Your not handing him 10k in cash. For those of you who have never been in the situation of being a single parent dating and finding a person who loves you and your child, getting married is still a risk that at times seems scary. Once bitten twice shy! It gets old hearing"just get married" huh vmom2.

Actually if it was stated " I will let you off the hook for back CS if you sign away your rights" that would be selling your child. Now you could do what I did if you want to help out dad as you stated. I did NOT tell my ex that I would forgive the arrears. After the fact I requested that his arrears be cancelled. That way it was not me bargaining for the children since my ex had no idea that I was going to do this. (side note though even though I requested it the judge refused to do it because my ex was 95k behind and the judge state that he was not going to reward my ex for his irresponsibility). But its worth a shot for you to at least try.

 

[bwilks2]

never stated

It was never stated that I "would let him off the hook". As I understand on most cases the judge will not allow that to happen anyway. Recieving cs or back cs is in the best interest of the child according to the law.

 

[Proserpina]

It was never stated that I "would let him off the hook". As I understand on most cases the judge will not allow that to happen anyway. Recieving cs or back cs is in the best interest of the child according to the law.

Uh..yeah you did...

I would absolutely let my son's bio-dad off the hook for back cs if he would sign his rights away.

But you did NOT say that this is what you'd actually say to Dad

(I think that's the distinction you're making, non?)

 

[bwilks2]

Correct. I did not state that to the father.... I do know better than that.

 

[ecmst12]

Just because you meet a new/better man that you want to spend your life with does not mean you can forget about the father of your child and sever all ties with him. That is NOT in the child's best interests, even if it's what YOU selfishly want. If you didn't think dad would make a good father then you shouldn't have made a baby with him...it's far too late now.