But if this is true in THIS case, the mother most likely doesn't have the mental capacity to care for a young child either.
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Concerned about friend (restraining order)
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CdwJava
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That's usually how it works. CPS generally asks for a welfare check by the police before they take a look. It really depends on the jurisdictions involved and the nature of the complaints.california owne said:
Besides, if he is "ready", that may mean he's cleaning up his act. That is good for the kid.
*IF* a cop actually told you that, the officer is a moron. If these were domestic violence restraining orders, a violation is a "SHALL ARREST" violation. Sure, the DA probably would not file or a court might drop it, but the cops would still have to act.
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california owne
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How can this woman know how to call the cops to get him arrested, but not know how how to call CPS? You claim she does not have the mental capacity to do that, yet she knows how to call the cops?
That is the thing! My friend has never once called the cops on this guy for abuse. It has always been a neighbor after hearing them fighting. In, 2003 a neighbor called the cops after hearing my friend being thrown. I am in NO way trying to protect my friend here, I am livid at her for putting the child in the situation. When her mother reminded her of all the abuse this guy has done, my friend recently said "Mom, don't keep bringing up the past." That makes me angry because she has never called the cops in the past and I know she wouldn't now either. I think part of the reason my friend will not call the cops is because the CPS told her three years ago they'd take the child if she went back to this abusive man.
There are more than 300 pages in the current case. I found some papers that my friend had filled out in 2003 after the abuse that year (in which a neighbor told her to get a restraining order). In the papers, my friend stated "We had an argument, he wouldn't let me leave. He wrapped his arms around my neck and threw me on the floor." Also, he "cusses at me, screams at the baby, telling the baby to 'shut up'". She also added (on an earlier date) "he grabbed me out of the bedroom, started calling me an "F---- B----". He picked me up and threw me to the ground. Then, he started to drag me. He took me to the kitchen and threw me on the floor". My friend used to show up at her moms house with bruises and red marks on her neck. This guy has been convicted of abuse on other women too. I really do not want to get him angry at me.
So, I am beyond mad that she is living with this guy (and the 3 year old) in a secluded area where there are NO neighbors. It is an industrial area behind this guys shop. There is one single trailer and a gate around the area. As much as I would hate the child being taken away, I don't think it should be in this enviorment. But like I said earlier, the CPS won't take action unless they see the abuse. I hope they check it out anyway.
Thank you for your help!
That is the thing! My friend has never once called the cops on this guy for abuse. It has always been a neighbor after hearing them fighting. In, 2003 a neighbor called the cops after hearing my friend being thrown. I am in NO way trying to protect my friend here, I am livid at her for putting the child in the situation. When her mother reminded her of all the abuse this guy has done, my friend recently said "Mom, don't keep bringing up the past." That makes me angry because she has never called the cops in the past and I know she wouldn't now either. I think part of the reason my friend will not call the cops is because the CPS told her three years ago they'd take the child if she went back to this abusive man.
There are more than 300 pages in the current case. I found some papers that my friend had filled out in 2003 after the abuse that year (in which a neighbor told her to get a restraining order). In the papers, my friend stated "We had an argument, he wouldn't let me leave. He wrapped his arms around my neck and threw me on the floor." Also, he "cusses at me, screams at the baby, telling the baby to 'shut up'". She also added (on an earlier date) "he grabbed me out of the bedroom, started calling me an "F---- B----". He picked me up and threw me to the ground. Then, he started to drag me. He took me to the kitchen and threw me on the floor". My friend used to show up at her moms house with bruises and red marks on her neck. This guy has been convicted of abuse on other women too. I really do not want to get him angry at me.
So, I am beyond mad that she is living with this guy (and the 3 year old) in a secluded area where there are NO neighbors. It is an industrial area behind this guys shop. There is one single trailer and a gate around the area. As much as I would hate the child being taken away, I don't think it should be in this enviorment. But like I said earlier, the CPS won't take action unless they see the abuse. I hope they check it out anyway.
Thank you for your help!