BelizeBreeze
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. You seem to be all too ready to label the ex an abuser on the word of your 'friend' so why is it a leap to also give her ex the same consideration?
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caligirl73
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tcpmp said:
If this new guy wants to take responsibility for this unborn child, he should be commended for it, not shut down. Why say, " I know your probably thinking that you love her and will always be with her but chances are you WILL get a divorce and where will that leave you? " Maybe they will beat the odds and be happily married?
The unborns biodad needs to either be in it for real and take care of his responsibility or back out altogether, the choices are there. As for you realman, just lay low, let her deal with the situation and see what happens in court.
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realman2beadad
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First, let me start by clarifying this point. Belize, she is not a whore. She and I dated, we had a mutual breakup that we both immediately regretted and are back together after about 3 months apart. She moved to Iowa to live with him about a month after we parted ways, and left him a month later, just after the abusive incident. I left all of this out in the original posting because I was hoping to get basic legal advice without all of the intricacies being revealed.
Secondly, I have to say, some of you may want to leave your emotions at the door, especially when dealing with people whom you don't know personally. I have every respect for a biological father wanting to spend time with his son or daughter if he's genuinely concerned. I was raised by two divorced parents, so for those of you who say I have no thoughts about the child's well-being, you may want to re-think that. I've been there. I probably have a better idea about the feelings of the child than a lot of you. A child needs stability from two parents, preferrably who get along. My parents never did and I had to deal with a LOT of broken promises from my father. Given the history between my fiancee and the biofather, I get the feeling that's how this could be. Also, the well-being of the child is the only reason I wanted him/her to have my last name as opposed to the biofather's. My fiancee and I are going to have more children after this baby, and I didn't want this child to feel alienated because his/her name would be different from all the rest of the children. I'm not going to love the baby any less than I will love any of our future biological children. Like I said, I just wanted straight legal advice without some of the attitude. But you're each entitled to your freedom of speech and I will get away from my little diatribe. Thank you for your help, those of you who were willing to talk to me as a rational human being.
P.S.- Sorry for the delay, Belize, I had to work yesterday. Earning money for the arrival of a child and all.
Secondly, I have to say, some of you may want to leave your emotions at the door, especially when dealing with people whom you don't know personally. I have every respect for a biological father wanting to spend time with his son or daughter if he's genuinely concerned. I was raised by two divorced parents, so for those of you who say I have no thoughts about the child's well-being, you may want to re-think that. I've been there. I probably have a better idea about the feelings of the child than a lot of you. A child needs stability from two parents, preferrably who get along. My parents never did and I had to deal with a LOT of broken promises from my father. Given the history between my fiancee and the biofather, I get the feeling that's how this could be. Also, the well-being of the child is the only reason I wanted him/her to have my last name as opposed to the biofather's. My fiancee and I are going to have more children after this baby, and I didn't want this child to feel alienated because his/her name would be different from all the rest of the children. I'm not going to love the baby any less than I will love any of our future biological children. Like I said, I just wanted straight legal advice without some of the attitude. But you're each entitled to your freedom of speech and I will get away from my little diatribe. Thank you for your help, those of you who were willing to talk to me as a rational human being.
P.S.- Sorry for the delay, Belize, I had to work yesterday. Earning money for the arrival of a child and all.
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