Contempt questions

[stealth2]

Well, Dad would have to surrender the kids regardless what time she showed up. Unless his order specifically states that visitation is forfeited.

And I hope someone had a chat with the 5yo cousin to make sure his comments aren't repeated if there's a next time. He's old enough to learn some discretion.

 

[ejmmolina]

Yes we told the cousin she didnt forget. HE was just wishful thinking. He didnt want the boys to leave. The boys knew he didnt mean anything by it. HE wanted them to spend the night with him. The cousin has never met her before and we explained to the boys earlier when they asked if cousin could go with them to her house. Basically they werent done playing.

 

[haiku]

this is why it is always best to have the parent who is doing the picking up, come all the way to get the kids. At least you are not at some halfway point, or showing up at a locked empty house. Makes it easier ot suck up and deal.

When both I and my husband had issues with lateness, both of us dealing with different states both times we were told 20 minutes is a reasonable time to wait. in both cases it was not put in the order, the judge just said it was common sense. So before you decide that you also may want court clarification.

After the 20 minutes you can do your own thing, BUT if the parent calls, you must reasonably have the kid available for pick up. And if the original time for pick up required any traveling, the parent who was late must then be responsible for all the driving. Example: my agreement was a halfway point, but if say I was late and my ex left, I then had to go all the way to his house to pick up my kid.

 

[ejmmolina]

That makes sense, to bad our plans were to finsh our Christmas shopping for the boys. So we couldnt take them with us. We tried to call her after and hour to see if she had left because we wanted to take them to her. Aparently she had already let and would be at our house with in a mater of minutes. Yeah right. She has to drive 8 1/2 hours to get into our area. Which they did thursday. They were here all day yesterday. Since she is the one who moved we dont have to meet half way. We would never agree to just met her some where, Lord knows we would be there all night waiting.

 

[stealth2]

Yes we told the cousin she didnt forget. HE was just wishful thinking. He didnt want the boys to leave. The boys knew he didnt mean anything by it. HE wanted them to spend the night with him. The cousin has never met her before and we explained to the boys earlier when they asked if cousin could go with them to her house. Basically they werent done playing.

"The boys were getting mad their cousin who was here and is 5 says maybe she forgot about you guys. "

Then why even bring it up? Plus, it really does make it difficult for the kids AND the NCP when the kids are placed in a situation where it's more fun to stay where they are. Why would Dad put the kids in the position where they;d have to leave a fun gathering to go with Mom? That really comes across as quite manipulative.

 

[ejmmolina]

I was babysitting their cousin. He was here when they got out of school. His parents where in Dallas for a medical procedure(on a close family member). I offered to watch him in return they watch our youngest while we finish shopping last night. We werent trying to make them not want to go with her.

 

[ejmmolina]

Sorry but to clerify the boys were getting mad it was taking her so long. Not at their cousins statement. When she called to tell us she was on her way we told the boys, it should only take 30 minutes at the most to get to our house from where she was not almost 2 hours.

 

[efcoco1]

You know..
I am the custodial parent..and now that my son is 17..thank God I dont have to mess with the tardiness ..the mess!
But I do want to say..I so understand you being frustrated..really probably pissed.
Me..I felt sorry and I hurt for my son...and made excuses because I did'nt want my son to feel/Know that his Dad was ..uh..a ..uh..you know!! Then when my son was old eneogh he told me what was up...Then..he told his Dad what was up. and Thank God for that!
My son and his Dad..are doing much better...the relationship has gotten strong..and I am so happy my son feels like his Dad loves him..and just had growing up to do.
Hope everything works out.