Continuing to send money

[charisco]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Illinois

My daughter recently got married and her husband has a daughter from a previous relationship. The woman has now filed for child support in Chicago. Up to this point my son-in-law has been sending money voluntarily out of his paychecks every two weeks.

Since the court case is now filed, should my son-in-law continue to send this money or is it better for him to wait for the case to go to court? He has generally been sending around $100 every two weeks and his net earnings are usually between $300-$350. He is not wanting to shy away from his responsibility but at the same time does not want to get railroaded by the courts for back child support even though they can get proof of sending money via money orders through Western Union.

To give you a little more information on this case. The woman and her family harass my daughter and son-in-law every two weeks to send at least $100 and have even made threats through text messages and phone. They have not allowed him to see his daughter since February or March of this year and they have claimed he can see her only to not be around or able to be reached once they drive to Chicago to pick the little girl up.What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?

 

[Proserpina]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Illinois

My daughter recently got married and her husband has a daughter from a previous relationship. The woman has now filed for child support in Chicago. Up to this point my son-in-law has been sending money voluntarily out of his paychecks every two weeks.

Since the court case is now filed, should my son-in-law continue to send this money or is it better for him to wait for the case to go to court? He has generally been sending around $100 every two weeks and his net earnings are usually between $300-$350. He is not wanting to shy away from his responsibility but at the same time does not want to get railroaded by the courts for back child support even though they can get proof of sending money via money orders through Western Union.

To give you a little more information on this case. The woman and her family harass my daughter and son-in-law every two weeks to send at least $100 and have even made threats through text messages and phone. They have not allowed him to see his daughter since February or March of this year and they have claimed he can see her only to not be around or able to be reached once they drive to Chicago to pick the little girl up.What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?

Why doesn't he simply stop sending the payments and keep it in his bank account? That way once the order is made (and there'll likely be arrears going back to the date of filing) he'll hopefully be able to pay it all at once.

 

[Silverplum]

My points:

1. I think it would be dinked-up parenting to stop sending money to the person who takes care of one's child.

2. This is not your business -- this is not your daughter's business. This is Dad's business. He can grow a pair and get his own legal answers.

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Illinois

My daughter recently got married and her husband has a daughter from a previous relationship. The woman has now filed for child support in Chicago. Up to this point my son-in-law has been sending money voluntarily out of his paychecks every two weeks.

Since the court case is now filed, should my son-in-law continue to send this money or is it better for him to wait for the case to go to court? He has generally been sending around $100 every two weeks and his net earnings are usually between $300-$350. He is not wanting to shy away from his responsibility but at the same time does not want to get railroaded by the courts for back child support even though they can get proof of sending money via money orders through Western Union.

To give you a little more information on this case. The woman and her family harass my daughter and son-in-law every two weeks to send at least $100 and have even made threats through text messages and phone. They have not allowed him to see his daughter since February or March of this year and they have claimed he can see her only to not be around or able to be reached once they drive to Chicago to pick the little girl up.What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?

 

[charisco]

Why doesn't he simply stop sending the payments and keep it in his bank account? That way once the order is made (and there'll likely be arrears going back to the date of filing) he'll hopefully be able to pay it all at once.

I am actually going to suggest that to him now that I have been reading some of the other posts on this board. I would hate to think of this young couple being put in a major bind simply because he continued to send money to her which was never brought into evidence since there was not a court order for child support.

 

[Silverplum]

I am actually going to suggest that to him now that I have been reading some of the other posts on this board. I would hate to think of this young couple being put in a major bind simply because he continued to send money to her which was never brought into evidence since there was not a court order for child support.

Yes, new mother-in-law. That sounds grand. You go right ahead and "suggest" to your new son-in-law that he stop sending support to his daughter.

Because it might put your daughter "in a bind."

 

[charisco]

Yes, new mother-in-law. That sounds grand. You go right ahead and "suggest" to your new son-in-law that he stop sending support to his daughter.

Because it might put your daughter "in a bind."

For starters I am not the mother-in-law in this case.

Secondly, I am not trying to deny this child the support of her father. What I am trying to do however is make sure that he does not walk into court and get told that any evidence that he has that shows all the money he has sent VOLUNTARILY is of no accord and does not matter since there was no child support order ever entered.

And finally, do you practice on acting this way or does it just come naturally to you??

 

[Proserpina]

Yes, new mother-in-law. That sounds grand. You go right ahead and "suggest" to your new son-in-law that he stop sending support to his daughter.

Because it might put your daughter "in a bind."

In all fairness we do have a habit here of telling NCPs that without a court order they're not legally obliged to send a cent; and in this case it's possible that if he does keep paying he'll STILL owe back support once the order is made, y'know?

But I agree completely that this is not OP's business AT ALL.

 

[Silverplum]

For starters I am not the mother-in-law in this case.

No? Then why did you write in your first post:

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Illinois

My daughter recently got married and her husband has a daughter from a previous relationship. The woman has now filed for child support in Chicago. Up to this point my son-in-law has been sending money voluntarily out of his paychecks every two weeks.

Since the court case is now filed, should my son-in-law continue to send this money or is it better for him to wait for the case to go to court? He has generally been sending around $100 every two weeks and his net earnings are usually between $300-$350. He is not wanting to shy away from his responsibility but at the same time does not want to get railroaded by the courts for back child support even though they can get proof of sending money via money orders through Western Union.

To give you a little more information on this case. The woman and her family harass my daughter and son-in-law every two weeks to send at least $100 and have even made threats through text messages and phone. They have not allowed him to see his daughter since February or March of this year and they have claimed he can see her only to not be around or able to be reached once they drive to Chicago to pick the little girl up.What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?

I'd say it's pretty clear you were writing as the mother-in-law.

Secondly, I am not trying to deny this child the support of her father. What I am trying to do however is make sure that he does not walk into court and get told that any evidence that he has that shows all the money he has sent VOLUNTARILY is of no accord and does not matter since there was no child support order ever entered.

Why?

And finally, do you practice on acting this way or does it just come naturally to you??

 

[charisco]

In all fairness we do have a habit here of telling NCPs that without a court order they're not legally obliged to send a cent; and in this case it's possible that if he does keep paying he'll STILL owe back support once the order is made, y'know?

But I agree completely that this is not OP's business AT ALL.

So apparently coming here is a waste of my time as I was only trying to get some advice for them as they are just starting out and do not have a computer at their house currently.

I guess that was my first mistake thinking that there was a place were I could get some advice to take to them.

 

[Proserpina]

So apparently coming here is a waste of my time as I was only trying to get some advice for them as they are just starting out and do not have a computer at their house currently.

I guess that was my first mistake thinking that there was a place were I could get some advice to take to them.

Lighten up, Francis.

 

[charisco]

I'd say it's pretty clear you were writing as the mother-in-law.

So then because I was stating facts about my daughter and son-in-law which is who they are, you took it that I am a woman?? WOW!!! That makes SOOO much sense!!!!

So if I was to state that I had a dog, would you automatically assume that I meant I had a Black Lab??

 

[Zigner]

So then because I was stating facts about my daughter and son-in-law which is who they are, you took it that I am a woman?? WOW!!! That makes SOOO much sense!!!!

Oh brother!

 

[Silverplum]

Lighten up, Francis.

I was just coming back to add, "OR father-in-law."



Either way, I stand by what I wrote. Appalling behavior all around.

 

[Antigone*]

I was just coming back to add, "OR father-in-law."



Either way, I stand by what I wrote. Appalling behavior all around.

LOL... I wish we could have seen the OP stomp his feet and pout when you called him a woman

 

[stealth2]

LOL But OP DID get ya on that one!