Whether its a check or an electronic transfer makes no differance. We can track it. When asked if she would accept payments she declined. She stated if i do not pay the full amount within 30 days she will take me back to court . The purpose of this thread is to seak advise as to how I can fufill my responsibility without being held in comtempt.
Then what you do is you try to pay. When she refuses, you set that money aside (do not spend it).
Then when she takes you to court for contempt, your defense is that you have tried to pay, show proof of this, and show proof that you have set aside that money and are prepared to pay her on the spot.
She can counter that you are to pay the whole lump sum, as per the orders, but the judge is going to question why she took nothing rather than at least a portion. The judge might find you in contempt, if the court order says the lump sum must be paid within 30 days, but the consequences of being in contempt might be minimal if you do this - like the consequence might be to pay $150/wk in addition to child support until the balance is pd.
When you were last in court, was the judge aware of this lump sum, not covered by insurance? If not, you might petition to modify the agreement on medical/dental expenses, so that if they are greater than a certain amount, that you can pay in installments.