Crazy ex strikes again.....

[winn dixie]

What is the name of your state?florida

Ok crazy ex strikes again....

My ex I found out has filed contempt charges against me....I don't know all the charges....but some of them are for not giving him school pictures from LAST YEAR!!! Which I did...I gave him some...and he knows where to get more (court order just says I have to supply him with info to buy them).

I can't prove I did....I mean things were ok with us (not great but decent) and I would just hand him things like report cards, school info, pictures...didn't know I needed a witness...but the child is almost finished with 2nd grade and he is saying he never got pictures from 1rst grade. He demanded that I scan and copy copyrighted pictures and email him to him....which I refused to do....he has told me for months "I am gonna get you some how some way"....I am paranoid that he will turn me in for copying the pictures to the studio....I know its crazy but he has doen some crazy things!!!!


I can only say that I did....what is the likelyhood judge will hold me in contempt?

Another issue....we don't agree on child rearing...his words...A few years ago he was engaged to a girl and they were together for about 3 years....well after they broke up the kids stayed in contact with her form time to time....I had no problem with it and neither did he...I mean she was apart of their lives for 3 years. Well he has another girlfriend that he is engaged to (might be married to....don't know) who is very jealous of his ex....well he demanded that the kids have nothing to do with the ex because his current girlfriend/wife didnt approve.....I told him I didnt agree.....our court order says that if we don't agree witha decsion that the decision rests with me unless over turned by a court order.


He also wants his child support lowered.....judge inputed income back at time of divorce and found him voluntarily underemployed......he is STILL underemployed but feels since he has maintained the same LOW income for the past few years that they should lower his child support.....will a judge do that?

We live outside geograpical area.....I moved....I got his permssion and it was court ordered that I could move.....we are to split the cost/transportation a couple times a year.....I have ALWAYS doen more than that.....almost every visit I meet him halfway.....he now wants me to be 100 percent responsible for all transportation.

My husband carries the children on his insurance (he is in the military) and has for 4 years. My ex now believes that he should have his child support lowered since there is no cost to me.....now mind you in the current order NO insurance cost were figured into computation.

My ex wants the financial records for my husband....feels they should count his income....again to lower his child support.

My ex demands for me to communicate with him by email....I won't do it as he just quotes the shared parenting agreement to me ALL the time....no where does it say I have to communicate by email....but he wants to hold me in contempt.

I have always shared with him anything inthe kids life....kept him up to date on little things, big things......I try to co-parent with him.....he has made scenes at 3 of my jobs and only this last time did I have a witness....has made trouble at 3 daycares....I have the answereing machine from the one where he was leaving harassing messages to.....and statements from the current one. I never filed contempt charges because I am desperately trying to live in peace!!!! I am soooo tried of going back to court/mediation and just trying to raise the kids and live my life. He calls my husband cell phone and tries to bad mouth me....calls my house and demands to speak to my husband....if my husband answers the phone he just goes off about me.....

I guess I am asking if someone is filing contempt charges against you and all they can say is she didnt do this or didnt do that......how much do they have to prove....I mean in alot of this I only have my word....and all he has is his.

Thanks for your input!!!

 

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

My response:

Do you sincerely expect someone to read through all of that and help you figure out your life?

IAAL

 

[winn dixie]

WEll I was trying to give all the facts...as when one doesnt they are asked to do so....

so how is this

when someone is trying to make contempt charges stick....what proof do they need...can they just say "She didnt do this" and of course the other person will say "Yes I Did

Will judge lower child support that was previously inputed when a person has managed to stat voluntarily underemployed for 4 years.


Does the person who moved always have to pay 100 percent of transportation expense?

Can current spouses income be counted?

 

[FLFamof5]

when someone is trying to make contempt charges stick....what proof do they need...can they just say "She didnt do this" and of course the other person will say "Yes I Did

Generally, when it turns into a He/She said argument the contempt charge doesn't stick especially when it's petty. Depends on the judge.

Will judge lower child support that was previously inputed when a person has managed to stat voluntarily underemployed for 4 years.

Depends on the judge

Does the person who moved always have to pay 100 percent of transportation expense?

Depends on the judge. In my DH's case, Yes.

Can current spouses income be counted?

No, DH's Ex tried that with us as well.

 

[nagol818]

We live outside geograpical area.....I moved....I got his permssion and it was court ordered that I could move.....we are to split the cost/transportation a couple times a year.....I have ALWAYS doen more than that.....almost every visit I meet him halfway.....he now wants me to be 100 percent responsible for all transportation.

Maybe you'll be ok with this being how it is now because you said you went through the courts. But I'm no expert...its just a logical observation.

Did your ex become bi-polar or did something happen that made him angry?

 

[LdiJ]

What is the name of your state?florida

Ok crazy ex strikes again....

My ex I found out has filed contempt charges against me....I don't know all the charges....but some of them are for not giving him school pictures from LAST YEAR!!! Which I did...I gave him some...and he knows where to get more (court order just says I have to supply him with info to buy them).

Its a really stupid and petty reason to file contempt. Its unlikely that he would prevail and its likely that he will seriously irritate the judge.

Another issue....we don't agree on child rearing...his words...A few years ago he was engaged to a girl and they were together for about 3 years....well after they broke up the kids stayed in contact with her form time to time....I had no problem with it and neither did he...I mean she was apart of their lives for 3 years. Well he has another girlfriend that he is engaged to (might be married to....don't know) who is very jealous of his ex....well he demanded that the kids have nothing to do with the ex because his current girlfriend/wife didnt approve.....I told him I didnt agree.....our court order says that if we don't agree witha decsion that the decision rests with me unless over turned by a court order.

You can allow the children to have contact with anyone that you like during your time. Unless that person is unfit a judge isn't going to micromanage you in that area.

He also wants his child support lowered.....judge inputed income back at time of divorce and found him voluntarily underemployed......he is STILL underemployed but feels since he has maintained the same LOW income for the past few years that they should lower his child support.....will a judge do that?

Maybe...if his income has been consistant for several years its possible.

We live outside geograpical area.....I moved....I got his permssion and it was court ordered that I could move.....we are to split the cost/transportation a couple times a year.....I have ALWAYS doen more than that.....almost every visit I meet him halfway.....he now wants me to be 100 percent responsible for all transportation.

If he had asked for that when you first moved...yes...a judge probably would have ordered that. At this point however its relatively unlikely.

My husband carries the children on his insurance (he is in the military) and has for 4 years. My ex now believes that he should have his child support lowered since there is no cost to me.....now mind you in the current order NO insurance cost were figured into computation.

That is about the stupidest thing I have ever heard. No..if no health insurance was figured into the calculation he is NOT going to get child support lowered for that.

My ex wants the financial records for my husband....feels they should count his income....again to lower his child support.

Ignore that demand. Your spouse has no legal obligation where your children are concerned.

My ex demands for me to communicate with him by email....I won't do it as he just quotes the shared parenting agreement to me ALL the time....no where does it say I have to communicate by email....but he wants to hold me in contempt.

As long as you are not refusing to communicate with him altogether...then he shouldn't be able to get anywhere with that.

I have always shared with him anything inthe kids life....kept him up to date on little things, big things......I try to co-parent with him.....he has made scenes at 3 of my jobs and only this last time did I have a witness....has made trouble at 3 daycares....I have the answereing machine from the one where he was leaving harassing messages to.....and statements from the current one. I never filed contempt charges because I am desperately trying to live in peace!!!! I am soooo tried of going back to court/mediation and just trying to raise the kids and live my life. He calls my husband cell phone and tries to bad mouth me....calls my house and demands to speak to my husband....if my husband answers the phone he just goes off about me.....

I truly despise people who behave that way...I am sorry that you are having to deal with that. If he does take you to court for contempt you should probably counterfile and address those issues....sigh.

I guess I am asking if someone is filing contempt charges against you and all they can say is she didnt do this or didnt do that......how much do they have to prove....I mean in alot of this I only have my word....and all he has is his.

The burden of proof would be on him to prove his allegations, and you to prove any that you might make against him. Quite frankly, with what he has so far he is going to look pretty stupid in court.

 

[joan marie]

<c&p>have always shared with him anything inthe kids life....kept him up to date on little things, big things......I try to co-parent with him.....he has made scenes at 3 of my jobs and only this last time did I have a witness....has made trouble at 3 daycares....I have the answereing machine from the one where he was leaving harassing messages to.....and statements from the current one. I never filed contempt charges because I am desperately trying to live in peace!!!! I am soooo tried of going back to court/mediation and just trying to raise the kids and live my life. He calls my husband cell phone and tries to bad mouth me....calls my house and demands to speak to my husband....if my husband answers the phone he just goes off about me.....

I have nothing to offer legally but want to offer you my support in you doing the right thing. I know its not always easy. I as well attempted to do anything and everything to keep the peace between my X and I and in the end? It was just a waste of my time, effort and energy. My best advice? DO the right thing regardless of him. Your kids will be better off for it. it will help teach them to figure out the right thing and stick to it. Its a very good lesson for them. I think it will help make them stronger people watching you do the right thing regardless of what their dad does.

I know this is a hard time. I always tell the kids, We both love you and we both try our best. In time kids figure our whose trying and whose the troublemaker. Wait till that happens, it a huge heartbreaker when the kids finally figure out whose who.

In the meanwhile : ) grab a book read to the kids, watch a movie, bake something and enjoy them. Enjoy the laughter they bring. Enjoy every minute as happily as you can and enjoy knowing you sleep well at night as your conscience is clear.

I wish you well*

joan marie *

 

[winn dixie]

I dont know what his deal is....sometimes he is the easiest person to get along with and then other times he is the most difficult.

I know his current girlfriend/wife can't stand for us to get along.

His mother is moving to where he lives now and wants him to fight to make me move back with the kids and/or try and take primary custody of the kids....my husband is in the military and his mother (my ex) says she doesn't see why I should be allowed to move with the kids when my husband gets orders.....I really believe all this is being driven form these two woman in my ex's life.....he is controlled by them as his family continues to support him financially. On his last finacial affidavit he claimed he only made 1000.00 per month and that was like 4x less than what he was making before we divorced. To boot his family wrote a letter saying he made that.....as he had no pay stubs to provide or old tax returns.

I have no idea yet what this financial affidavit will say.

If he deserves to have his child support payment lowered than so be it....run the numbers and I don't have a problem with that....but it really makes me wonder how the courts could lower it just because he chooses not to work for 4 years.....and survives as his family hands it over to him hand over fist.

Ona nother note or question.....I have not been formally served....but they already have a court date? CAn they do that? I thought I had so many days to respond?