custodial mom

[mama01]

What is the name of your state? Alaska

Hello,

I have a few different question that hopefully someone can help me with. I have a 3 year old son. We have been on our own since he was born. My ex-husband has never been around. I recieve child suppor whenever the child support people find him and can garnish his wages. Then he moves on to another job. He owes more that $10,000.00. He is now saying that he will either sign over all his rights to my son or sue me to try to get 1/2 custody. He has never wanted anything to do with my son untill child support found where he is working. My questions are: Can he sign over his rights? I wouldn't mind doing this, even if it ment no money for me because then I would at least know that he wouldn't be able to bother us any more. The other question is how much of a chance would he have of getting partial custody of my son. I will repeat he has never been interested in meeting my son. My son is in a wonderful home with loving family all around I just don't want to upset him. Any info anyone has would be great.

Thank You,

Nita

 

[BethM]

Can he sign over his rights?

Sure he can BUT that does not get him out of paying child support. DUFUS that he is!! He can give up his rights but until someone comes along willing to adopt your child and help with the financial responsibility this man will still be on the hook.

how much of a chance would he have of getting partial custody of my son

Very little at all. The most he would probably get is visitation and it woudl be phased in since he has not had a relationship with the child. You probably don't have to worry about him actually taking advantage of his visitation though. It sounds as if his main motivation is to scare you and to try and find some way out of paying child support. Don't let him intimidate you...that is exactly what he wants.

 

[efcoco1]

Listen please.

I Know you are intimidated by this "person".
My ex..did the same to me for the longest.
I put my foot down. Told him to pretty much ..kiss me!
MY son is now 17. WE had to put up with ex for the longest..and still do. (latest is college talk) My ex told his family that he would rather fight for custody than to hand me money. ( all the while..he couldnt exercise his rights,privileges, or dutys for visitation.
I know its hard..but have a lil faith in your parenting and your role.
and speak your mind..and do it with confidence! Tell him ..and say it loud...that he can try all the games he chooses..BUT...you know what game he is playn..and you like to play!

 

[casa]

What is the name of your state? Alaska

Hello,

I have a few different question that hopefully someone can help me with. I have a 3 year old son. We have been on our own since he was born. My ex-husband has never been around. I recieve child suppor whenever the child support people find him and can garnish his wages. Then he moves on to another job. He owes more that $10,000.00. He is now saying that he will either sign over all his rights to my son or sue me to try to get 1/2 custody. He has never wanted anything to do with my son untill child support found where he is working. My questions are: Can he sign over his rights? I wouldn't mind doing this, even if it ment no money for me because then I would at least know that he wouldn't be able to bother us any more. The other question is how much of a chance would he have of getting partial custody of my son. I will repeat he has never been interested in meeting my son. My son is in a wonderful home with loving family all around I just don't want to upset him. Any info anyone has would be great.

Thank You,

Nita

Its not as simple as just signing over his rights. Terminating parental rights has requirements- Check your states Family Law Code online to see what they are and if your situation meets them. And that won't alleviate his debt he's racked up for child support.

If he actually filed in court for custody- since he's been absent all along, he'd not likely get custody (unless you are a drug addicted violent felon or something equally outrageous) However, he would get visitation. Slow at first, possibly supervised- then working up to a regular schedule. You state he's paid sporadic support when they can find him, and paying support is considered contact of sorts.

 

[mama01]

Thank You

Thank you so much for your advise. I will try not to worry so much and just take it in stride. Thank you again for all of your kind words, they have helped.

THANK YOU!!!!!!