wonkothesane
Junior Member
LdiJ said:Moving to Florida really complicated things for you. I would have all kinds of advice to offer if you still lived in the same community as your children...but you don't...and that is entirely YOUR fault.
I *had* to move, because living in Illinois was unfesable economically
Maybe my "fault", but staying was not an option.
You have a court order...mom gave you a significant amount of time with the child outside of that court order. You are now being petty (yes you are) because mom wants to take the child back earlier than you agreed/wanted it to happen....under an informal agreement.
No. No court order. None. They didn't have one.
I voulntraily surrendered the child - my fault. But it seemed like my only option in the circumstances. I was outnumbered...whatever...I was scared and imimidated and not really sure *what* was best.
I probably really ****ed up by giving her back, but I didn't see just demanding that she stay for another 24 hours "just because".
I don't blame you for the way that you feel....I sympathize.... Nevertheless that doesn't change the cirumstances.
No. (But I think you are a bit mistaken about the circumstances. Like the lack of a court order.)
Anyway, I need to know what to do next. What is the move that makes the most sense *under* the circumstances?
If you really want things to change...then MOVE YOUR BUTT BACK TO ILLINOIS...and STAY THERE.
Would in a second but now my dad is running around and screaming that if I even step foot in the state I will be arrested - just for being there.
What you have now is fixed weekend visitation which would normally be enforceable but isn't because you live in Florida. You have summer visitation that is "as agreed" which is completely UNENFORCEABLE. Your family is telling you "not to rock the boat" because they realize that you messed up by moving to FL.
he. My family *begged* me to move back to Florida! They even drove up there to help me move!
If you believe that your children are living in a bad situation...then again, get your butt back to Illinois...establish a regular and consistant presence in their lives under your existing order...and then file for primary custody.
Sure. Can I do that without being arrested on the spot like my dad says???
(Remember, there is *no* restraining order of warrent for my arrest.)