I read the last reply to your question. Don't know whether it was a lawyer or not but I sympathize with your situation. What alot of people do not understand is that most have made so many attempts to make things work while living together! The idea is to try NOT to move out! So by the time the decision is made to seperate, chances of working things out have diminished substantially. SOMETIMES things can change after moving out but rarely. There is an emotional threshold that has been crossed after moving out. So by that time, one or both are ready (alot of times) to get on with their lives in at least some capacity. I don't think it is fair for whoever said that to catagorize it by referring to your quest to begin dating as "starting another problem". Maybe it is starting the solution.
I don't know the answer to your question. I am trying to find it out myself. I began dating someone who had been seperated for 5 months, purchased his own home independently, all of their finances were agreed upon and there was a seperation signed, however not filed through the courts. The wife was seeing someone but has since broken off that relationship but we are very serious toward one another. The only thing I have been able to find out is one attorney told him that post seperation adultery is viewed very differently than pre-seperation. His one year waiting period will be up Nov. 1st. So far she has not filed on these grounds but has threated to, hired a detective and may still do so. I am interested to see how this will affect things like alimony, custody, etc.
