Daycare records

[dannysmyboy]

I, on the other hand, don't really see your outrage. I see this as spite against mom and hurting your child. This is how I see it:

You obviously make enough to pay for daycare.
You don't mind paying strangers to keep your child.
You don't mind your child being in a daycare environment.

but,

You don't want to pay family to keep your child.
You want to take money out of the pocket of the mother of your child.
Money that has been benefitting your child in one way or another.

You want to pay for daycare, but why not let that money go to help your daughter and she still get free daycare. I'm not so sure what is so wrong with that. Maybe talk to ex and see if you can compromise. Pay half and let Gma keep the child.

How is it free daycare when the dad is giving money to the mother, gma or anyone else who's watching the child?? If the father is paying out the money for daycare, it's still paid daycare, not free daycare. And if the mother told the court that the child is in daycare, but in fact is not in a licensed program that that would be lying. The poster needs daycare spelled out in his support papers, so these types of issues are nipped in the bud. Maybe the father can use the money as well to benefit the child when the child is with him....this can go both ways.

In my humble opinion, I think children should be in structured daycare/preschool anyway, so they can learn the basic stuff before kindergarden, and for older kids, it helps them with socialization skills.

Sounds like there may be more to this story, the dad going to BBB is telling me that there are some major communication issues here.

 

[djohnson]

I agree there are other issues. It seems they are doing things to spite each other to spite the child. If you read the posts, it is a structured daycare that Gma owns. The child is getting the benefit. The same benefit if it was paid. So what the Gma lets mom keep the money to help them out. Dad would be out the money either way, child is benefitting either way. This way the Gma is the only one out and the mom and child benefits more. Dad just doesn't want mom to have any benefits.

 

[MtnMoon]

All of the posts are helpful, I should be more specific- I have found out from the bbb in their investigation the Gmother claims that all payment stopped August 8, 2003- Also SHe is not claiming on her daycare taxes that she ever recieved any money - my guess is that it would have put her in a different tax bracket- And my daughters mother did not claim the child care credit on her taxes either--- the Judge, last time that we went to court, said that he wanted the records and that they were to be filed with the court- suprise they were not filed and they is no proof of payment. Can my daughters mother get in trouble legally??

Did the judge tell you if your ex did not provide proof of previous payment that you would be entitled to receiving reimbursement for whatever you paid to her previously for childcare? Or did you not ask the judge this?