BelizeBreeze
Senior Member
Yes. It's a simple answer.
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Yes. It's a simple answer.
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TheRake
Guest
Since she has cheated on me (with two different men that I know of), then I guess that she is "TheHo". I have never cheated on her. But when this divorce is finalized, I am going to try to enjoy my freedom.
Now another legal question: is it unreasonable to ask the court to declare any asset purchased after one spouse's infidelity to not be considered a "marital asset"? It would seem to be the fair thing to do in my opinion. Especially since my wife wanted some expensive items after she got involved with this other guy. And I bought them for her to make her happy.
And now I know why she wanted them - so she could share them with him after she left me.
Now another legal question: is it unreasonable to ask the court to declare any asset purchased after one spouse's infidelity to not be considered a "marital asset"? It would seem to be the fair thing to do in my opinion. Especially since my wife wanted some expensive items after she got involved with this other guy. And I bought them for her to make her happy.
And now I know why she wanted them - so she could share them with him after she left me.
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d8ddysgirl
Guest
WOW your very hostile.
Second: No you cant ask the judge that. You need to get a legal seperation for that to happen.
You need to get out of this soon before we see you on TV (Americas Most Wanted). SERIOUSLY.
Yes this is a bad situation, and it will all be resolved bu letting go. Besides if you talk like this around your kids no judge will let you have them.
Second: No you cant ask the judge that. You need to get a legal seperation for that to happen.
You need to get out of this soon before we see you on TV (Americas Most Wanted). SERIOUSLY.
Yes this is a bad situation, and it will all be resolved bu letting go. Besides if you talk like this around your kids no judge will let you have them.
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TheRake
Guest
d8ddysgirl said:
No, I'm not hostile. But I'm quite angry. Wouldn't you feel bad if you found out your spouse was in love with somebody else and has been using you for at least 7 months and all you wanted to do was make your spouse happy and share yourself and everything you have with your spouse? And your spouse is calling somebody else his/her "soulmate"?
I am not a violent person. I'm cooler than the Fonz. SERIOUSLY.
Talk like what?
I've got a lawyer and a plan. I'll file for divorce once school starts. That will be an advantage to me. But until then, I can't let my wife know that I know about her affair and her plans. Maybe she'll find out before the hearing if I have to share all the evidence I have with her. But if she doesn't get that evidence, then I'll put her on the stand and get her to perjure herself. If she doesn't know that I know, then she'll deny it under oath and I'll bring out the evidence which proves otherwise.
Believe me, I'd like to get her out of my life as soon as possible. But since I want what's best for my kids, I have to endure this situation for a little longer. And if you think I'm hostile, well, I guess I just need to let off a little steam every now and then.
Some people have told me to talk to a bunch of lawyers. They told me that if I talk to a lawyer about my situation, then my wife can't hire that lawyer due to "conflict of interest" or something like that. Is there any truth to this claim?
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TheRake
Guest
I've also been told bty armchair attorneys that who files for divorce first is important. Is it?
I asked that exact question here and was told by Belize Breeze that filing first puts you in a position of power, but he said it's a transitory power. He didn't mention if either party being at fault would make difference and since he's pretty thorough, I assumed it didn't (but you know what they say about assuming! )
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TheRake
Guest
My wife got herself a lawyer today. My lawyer said let's stick to the plan and file when school starts, unless my wife files before then. She didn't seem too concerned about it.
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Dolphindan1
Guest
I hope you made dups of the stuff in the lockbox.....I hate to see that evidence get destroyed.....Why did she see a lawyer does she know you know or just following there plan.....I sympathize for you I would feel the same as you if that happened to me....especially the thought of my kids.....Its tuff but you will be better off.....Good luck.....And treat those kids super special for here on out.....
You may get to keep the kids.
My grandson kept his son. He also allowed the wife to stay after he had
evidence of her cheating. She stayed until he felt he had enough on her
which was as long as he could stand it. Believe me, it was rough and he
will never be the same. We won't either as he has distanced himself from
everyone in his past now.
My grandson kept his son. He also allowed the wife to stay after he had
evidence of her cheating. She stayed until he felt he had enough on her
which was as long as he could stand it. Believe me, it was rough and he
will never be the same. We won't either as he has distanced himself from
everyone in his past now.
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raymond/father
Guest
hey rake,
i know exactly what you are going through thesame thing happened to me last year. the divorce was unbelievable and things have not gotten much better. a little advice; keep on top of your lawyer! i had so much evidence againt my wife and my f.....g lawyer just pisst it off and it only cost me $21k!!!! the judge knew of her affair, after she kicked me out of the house she broke up with him and he wrote me a sworn statement of the whole relationship, how she brought the kids on some of their dates...bla bla bla. and still i got totally f....d in the property settlement. keep on your lawyer!!!!
good luck.
i know exactly what you are going through thesame thing happened to me last year. the divorce was unbelievable and things have not gotten much better. a little advice; keep on top of your lawyer! i had so much evidence againt my wife and my f.....g lawyer just pisst it off and it only cost me $21k!!!! the judge knew of her affair, after she kicked me out of the house she broke up with him and he wrote me a sworn statement of the whole relationship, how she brought the kids on some of their dates...bla bla bla. and still i got totally f....d in the property settlement. keep on your lawyer!!!!
good luck.
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TheRake
Guest
I took pictures and scanned in everything I found in the lock box. I have all the emails I got from her account.
I have already copied it all to a CDr and sent it to my wife's lover's wife. I also contacted his CO and reported him.
He has been ordered to cease all communications with my wife. His wife and him are reconciling. And his wife begged me not to sink his career because his whole family is 100% dependent upon him. So I let his CO know that I wanted to withdraw my allegations of adultry, but he is still facing discipluinary action for "misappropriation of govt. property" or something like that, since he used his official Marine email account to carry on an affair with her.
My wife has apologized to me and said I stopped her from making a big mistake. She doesn't want a divorce (or so she says).
I don't know what to do. I want to save my family for the sake of the kids, and I don't want to endure the expense of a divorce and custody battle. But I can't trust my wife, I don't love her, and I'm ready to be free.
I have already copied it all to a CDr and sent it to my wife's lover's wife. I also contacted his CO and reported him.
He has been ordered to cease all communications with my wife. His wife and him are reconciling. And his wife begged me not to sink his career because his whole family is 100% dependent upon him. So I let his CO know that I wanted to withdraw my allegations of adultry, but he is still facing discipluinary action for "misappropriation of govt. property" or something like that, since he used his official Marine email account to carry on an affair with her.
My wife has apologized to me and said I stopped her from making a big mistake. She doesn't want a divorce (or so she says).
I don't know what to do. I want to save my family for the sake of the kids, and I don't want to endure the expense of a divorce and custody battle. But I can't trust my wife, I don't love her, and I'm ready to be free.
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d8ddysgirl
Guest
I am shaking my head at this one.
I totally understand being mad and hurt but your going to sink some guys career. That is childish.
Your are using this forum like your shrink, and I seriously think you need to see one. If you cant trust your wife, then dont make both of your lives hell anymore. You have kids to think about, so get off the soapbox and get some help before this consumes your whole life.
I totally understand being mad and hurt but your going to sink some guys career. That is childish.
Your are using this forum like your shrink, and I seriously think you need to see one. If you cant trust your wife, then dont make both of your lives hell anymore. You have kids to think about, so get off the soapbox and get some help before this consumes your whole life.
BelizeBreeze
Senior Member
TheRake said:
The last sentence is telling more than all the rest. If this is how you feel then move on. At the very least, legally separate and if she is serious about wanting to save the marriage, BOTH of you go to counselling while you're separated.