Do I have to pay for private school?

[SDAVIS]

Troll

Maybe you should spend your time getting some air and a life. While you are at it stop being an internet troll. Just in case you are unaware of what that is **************let me make sure I am being UNDERSTOOD. Not my fault if you have difficulty reading!

An "Internet troll" or "Forum Troll" is a person who posts outrageous message to bait people to answer. Forum Troll delights in sowing discord on the forums. A troll is someone who inspires flaming rhetoric, someone who is purposely provoking and pulling people into flaming discussion. Flaming discussions usually end with name calling and a flame war.

He is divisive and argumentative with need-to-be-right attitude, "searching for the truth", flaming discussion, and sometimes insulting people or provoking people to insult him. Troll is usually an expert in reusing the same words of its opponents and in turning it against them.

Now please do us all a favor. Get yourself some serious help and find out exactly what makes you so darn angry. A little confusion would only warrant someone to ask a few question. It would send you off into a tail spin lashing out insults and put downs. You are very unstable and mental help should be your first and only concern. Good day Troll

 

[rmet4nzkx]

Maybe you should spend your time getting some air and a life. While you are at it stop being an internet troll. Just in case you are unaware of what that is **************let me make sure I am being UNDERSTOOD. Not my fault if you have difficulty reading!

An "Internet troll" or "Forum Troll" is a person who posts outrageous message to bait people to answer. Forum Troll delights in sowing discord on the forums. A troll is someone who inspires flaming rhetoric, someone who is purposely provoking and pulling people into flaming discussion. Flaming discussions usually end with name calling and a flame war.

He is divisive and argumentative with need-to-be-right attitude, "searching for the truth", flaming discussion, and sometimes insulting people or provoking people to insult him. Troll is usually an expert in reusing the same words of its opponents and in turning it against them.

Now please do us all a favor. Get yourself some serious help and find out exactly what makes you so darn angry. A little confusion would only warrant someone to ask a few question. It would send you off into a tail spin lashing out insults and put downs. You are very unstable and mental help should be your first and only concern. Good day Troll

" The lady doth protest too much, methinks." Shakespeare
Now why are you afraid to go to court for a modification and how does that make anyone but you a troll, just because you don't like the valid and accurate advice you have received?

 

[CarrieT]

It is nice of you to make such a rude comment when you do not know my life or the value of my role as a mother to be home. No where did I state that I wouldn't pay this tuition I simply stated it is a struggle. As you can tell by my comments I am more interested in what benefits my children rather then what benefits ME. Something most parents fail to do when families split up and divorce. I am all about being fair. The education of my child is more important and if it was not then I would not have done it so for many years. My being home is not an excuse for anything. Why don't you tell all the parents who choose to stay home with their children that they do so because they are refusing to give up control of them. I hardly think a 2 year old and 11 year old need to be running the streets or stuck in daycare for 11 or 12 hours a day. I do not live a cushy life style. Honey there are no diamonds on my fingers and no spa days to pamper myself. I live a lifestyle that is frugal to most and I go without so that I can be 100 percent available to my children. Every parent should be where they are needed. I am needed at home. Honey you need to direct your anger at another person or seek to find out why you had to lasy out at someone you DO NOT know. I love my children and the importance of being home is both a value to them and my husband and my ex husband who knows I am fully involved in my 11 year old's education and I pick up the slack where he can't be available. You better think twice before you make such a judgment on someone. Maybe you should ask a few questions about my life and you might not be so quick to judge me or anyone else on this earth.

You are getting awfully defensive towards those posters who are trying to HELP you by answering the questions you bring up. The ONLY thing anyone can go on is what YOU choose to 'share'. Its not our responsibility to ask questions in order to get you to tell us about your life. Its YOUR responsibility to present your 'case' and ask the right questions in order to receive the correct and applicable answer.

As Stealth said:
<< Maybe you could spend a little more time in making yourself understood>>

As I say:

Instead of writing posts which are snide and rude to veteran and knowledgeable posters.

Carrie

 

[CarrieT]

An "Internet troll" or "Forum Troll" is a person who posts outrageous message to bait people to answer. Forum Troll delights in sowing discord on the forums. A troll is someone who inspires flaming rhetoric, someone who is purposely provoking and pulling people into flaming discussion. Flaming discussions usually end with name calling and a flame war.

He is divisive and argumentative with need-to-be-right attitude, "searching for the truth", flaming discussion, and sometimes insulting people or provoking people to insult him. Troll is usually an expert in reusing the same words of its opponents and in turning it against them.

Exactly
That is why it is best that YOU.... Take a hike

Just my opinion, humble though it may be lol

Carrie

 

[SDAVIS]

Lol

I am sure you would agree that this post:

She's making excuses NOT to work so she can micro-manage her kids lives and prevent giving up any control over them.

As long as she is "enabled" this cushy life style, she will take full advantage of it.


Is rude, crude, and just plain ignorant.

Decide if you want to ask a few questions. That is up to you. It might save a lot of confusion in the long run. Just like you thought because I was a parent that stayed home with my children I was not employed.

Now what if I said he/she is working outside the home because they are selfish, self absorbed, and neglecting their children. As long as he/she decides that material items and cash "enabled" his/her cushy life style, he/she will take full advantabe of someone else caring for their children.

Think about that way.

 

[stealth2]

Maybe you should spend your time getting some air and a life. While you are at it stop being an internet troll. Just in case you are unaware of what that is **************let me make sure I am being UNDERSTOOD. Not my fault if you have difficulty reading!

An "Internet troll" or "Forum Troll" is a person who posts outrageous message to bait people to answer. Forum Troll delights in sowing discord on the forums. A troll is someone who inspires flaming rhetoric, someone who is purposely provoking and pulling people into flaming discussion. Flaming discussions usually end with name calling and a flame war.

He is divisive and argumentative with need-to-be-right attitude, "searching for the truth", flaming discussion, and sometimes insulting people or provoking people to insult him. Troll is usually an expert in reusing the same words of its opponents and in turning it against them.

Now please do us all a favor. Get yourself some serious help and find out exactly what makes you so darn angry. A little confusion would only warrant someone to ask a few question. It would send you off into a tail spin lashing out insults and put downs. You are very unstable and mental help should be your first and only concern. Good day Troll

You're the one who got pissy at a relatively rational post and reasonable question based on what you posted. My initial post to you was not rude, although you took it to be such.

 

[SDAVIS]

Maybe

The comment I had a problem with was:

She's making excuses NOT to work so she can micro-manage her kids lives and prevent giving up any control over them.

As long as she is "enabled" this cushy life style, she will take full advantage of it.

Maybe in the confusion of it all things got mixed up. That is the only one I thought was rude. Which I am sure you would agree.

You know that if I had said the reverse : Now what if I said he/she is working outside the home because they are selfish, self absorbed, and neglecting their children. As long as he/she decides that material items and cash "enabled" his/her cushy life style, he/she will take full advantabe of someone else caring for their children.

The same reaction would have been given.

My decision to be home and care for my children is personal and one that should only concern my family. Your decision to work is personal is should not concern me.

 

[CarrieT]

I am sure you would agree that this post:

She's making excuses NOT to work so she can micro-manage her kids lives and prevent giving up any control over them.

As long as she is "enabled" this cushy life style, she will take full advantage of it.


Is rude, crude, and just plain ignorant.

.

Rude? Nothing rude there.
So, Nope.

Crude? No profanity I see.
So, Nope.

Just plain ignorant? No evidence that I can determine on that.
So Again, nope.

Mistaken? Maybe. But thats about all Ill allow lol

Carrie

 

[SDAVIS]

Carrie Weirdo

Carrie you are a weirdo. I bet you are a fat and smelly slob who looks at prono all day. Now step away from the computer and get some light. Go get yourself a hobby outside of this forum. Stop trying to bait people into a fight you little troll. Is that rude enough for ya! HA! I am done here. This is the wackiest board I have ever seen. Trying making some friends with those you can actually see face to face. Don't be jealous honey I would be made too if I couldn't get a man. GET A LIFE! I bet I can bait you into a response in 5 seconds flat. You are way too easy! I got you all over this board running back and forth. Easy!

 

[rmet4nzkx]

Carrie you are a weirdo. I bet you are a fat and smelly slob who looks at prono all day. Now step away from the computer and get some light. Go get yourself a hobby outside of this forum. Stop trying to bait people into a fight you little troll. Is that rude enough for ya! HA! I am done here. This is the wackiest board I have ever seen. Trying making some friends with those you can actually see face to face. Don't be jealous honey I would be made too if I couldn't get a man. GET A LIFE! I bet I can bait you into a response in 5 seconds flat. You are way too easy! I got you all over this board running back and forth. Easy!

You are the Troll. Why can't you simply take your issue to court?

 

[Bali Hai]

Carrie you are a weirdo. I bet you are a fat and smelly slob who looks at prono all day. Now step away from the computer and get some light. Go get yourself a hobby outside of this forum. Stop trying to bait people into a fight you little troll. Is that rude enough for ya! HA! I am done here. This is the wackiest board I have ever seen. Trying making some friends with those you can actually see face to face. Don't be jealous honey I would be made too if I couldn't get a man. GET A LIFE! I bet I can bait you into a response in 5 seconds flat. You are way too easy! I got you all over this board running back and forth. Easy!

Standing by my assessment. Continue your tirade and YOUR kids (who you are looking out for their best interest I'm sure, will suffer, And as a result, YOU will suffer mom)

 

[CdwJava]

When my children went to a private school, that was a decision that my wife and I chose to make. We cut back on "stuff" and made the deep cuts required for the expense. We did not ask for, nor did we expect anyone else to pay for it.

When we moved to the CA heartland, we made the decision for my wife to stay home with the children. This sucked financially, but was of great benefit to the kids. It was a decision we made knowing full well the financial sacrifice that this would entail.

Life is about decisions. This decision may be just this simple: If education at this private school is so important and the ex-hubbie won't pay for more of it, then you have to suck up the expenses elsewhere in the household budget.

There are benefits and consequences to each choice that benefits the children and the family as a whole. Life is filled with tough choices. This one is no different.

- Carl

 

[nextwife]

When my children went to a private school, that was a decision that my wife and I chose to make. We cut back on "stuff" and made the deep cuts required for the expense. We did not ask for, nor did we expect anyone else to pay for it.

When we moved to the CA heartland, we made the decision for my wife to stay home with the children. This sucked financially, but was of great benefit to the kids. It was a decision we made knowing full well the financial sacrifice that this would entail.

Life is about decisions. This decision may be just this simple: If education at this private school is so important and the ex-hubbie won't pay for more of it, then you have to suck up the expenses elsewhere in the household budget.

There are benefits and consequences to each choice that benefits the children and the family as a whole. Life is filled with tough choices. This one is no different.

- Carl

Carl, what a married couple decides for their OWN lives is their business.

However, poster wants to make her EX responsible for the financial impact of decisions she and her CURRENT husband have made about her staying home to be a SAHM to a child not his. An eleven year old does not need mom to be home all those daytime hours during which they are in school.

FYI- Plenty of kids of moms who work DON"T spend any time in daycare. I bring home a FULL TIME income, and either my hubby or I trade off putting kiddo on theschool bus or meeting her bus at the end of the school day. WE attend all school music programs and school events - BOTH parents. She is supervised by one of us both before and after school.

It is narrow minded and naive to PRESUME that the ONLY way a child can have the time and attention of their parents is for one to stop working. I know many couples who time share and jointly carry the responsibility - this allows BOTH parents to enjoy having parenting time and responsibility, rather than one working so hard they are absent a lot and ultimately drop dead of a heart attack.

 

[CdwJava]

Carl, what a married couple decides for their OWN lives is their business.

However, poster wants to make her EX responsible for the financial impact of decisions she and her CURRENT husband have made about her staying home to be a SAHM to a child not his. An eleven year old does not need mom to be home all those daytime hours during which they are in school.

Perhaps you missed my point, then. My point was that if they (mom and new hubbie) made a decision for mom to stay at home, then they have to figure out how to make the private school thing work. Alternatively, they can choose to send him to public school.

I did not condemn or support anyone's decision to stay home or go to work. Normally, I would be glad to pontificate on the matter, but that was not the issue at hand.

- Carl

 

[Ohiogal]

Perhaps you missed my point, then. My point was that if they (mom and new hubbie) made a decision for mom to stay at home, then they have to figure out how to make the private school thing work. Alternatively, they can choose to send him to public school.

I did not condemn or support anyone's decision to stay home or go to work. Normally, I would be glad to pontificate on the matter, but that was not the issue at hand.

- Carl

I am reading and I think you are both pretty much saying the same thing.