Do I have to send my child?

[stealth2]

Thanks - cause you're right - I'm very, very far from being "jealous" of the new fiancee. Remember, she is NOT NOT NOT a stepmom yet. You all have referred to her as that, but she isn't.

I wasn't going into a huge, lengthy background into why I feel the way I do...I was kind of trusting that you would trust my judgment of character. However, with the response I got, I see most people probably responded from what they know or have experienced.

I do feel lots of you border on rudeness. There are ways of writing things down that are not offensive. Some of you have been very offensive to me, and I've chosen not to reply in kind. There's no point.


As far as stepmom picking my son up or my ex not spending time with my son during his visits, I did check with my lawyer when this first happened. My ex was going away for the weekend, and, of course, I didn't want my son spending the weekend with "her"! Since she has nothing to do with anything.

Alas, I was wrong. It is HIS visitation. If he choses to have a babysitter the entire time, he can do so. That's the rules.

Thanks again for all your input. I really do value it.


Badhead

Is this even your thread? The OP specifies a stepmother. So who the heck cares about your situation in THIS thread? Jaysus!

 

[Gonwin]

Nextwife...

The original post did not say anything about a loving grandma or a close relative or friend of the family picking up her son. SHE SAID that this gal is crazy and she even mentioned her calling the cops on her. Not exactly the kind of person I'd want spending the weekend (alone) with my child. I know there are many wonderful stepparents who adore their stepchildren. BUT, there are also POWER hungry and abusive stepparents who don't care a lick about their stepchildren.

You have to realize that although your situation might have been wonderful for your child - not every child has been blessed with that same experience. Some children are forced to spend time with random people the father/
mother sets up to watch them. How can that ALWAYS be a good experience for the children? I think you need to be open to seeing both sides of this issue.

 

[stealth2]

The original post did not say anything about a loving grandma or a close relative or friend of the family picking up her son. SHE SAID that this gal is crazy and she even mentioned her calling the cops on her. Not exactly the kind of person I'd want spending the weekend (alone) with my child. I know there are many wonderful stepparents who adore their stepchildren. BUT, there are also POWER hungry and abusive stepparents who don't care a lick about their stepchildren.

My kids' father and stepmom think I'm crazy, too. The feeling's mutual. What we each may "think" about the other does not permit either party to go against the court-ordered visitation. If she feels the woman is a danger to the child, she needs to file for a modification of the order. If she can't prove it, she's going to be sending the kid with step-mom if that's who shows up to pick the kid up. It really is that simple.

 

[haiku]

round and round and round we go..........