Does anyone have to agree to adoption if man on birthcertificate isnt the father?

[Proserpina]

I know you weren't asking me, but the part i don't understand is:


Unless the mother is dead, that child STILL has a mother, i would NOT let this happen, a child is equal parts Mother & Father....No child deserves to lose part of themselves like that....If my daughters mother walked away right now, I would make DAMN sure daughter would still get to see her, even if i had to drive her across the country myself! THAT is what a Responsible parent does! A responsible parent does everything they can to make things right for their child and part of that sometimes means doing everything possible to make sure they have a relationship with the other parent

There is NO WAY i would EVER marry a women who cared so little about her children that she didn't make sure they had a relationship with their father! IMO, that's child abuse

Not that you need to worry about finding a woman to marry any time soon, but has it occurred to you that having jack to do with the other parent might just be in the child's best interest?

 

[milmom]

And ignoring the point of the post to pick out off topic details to argue against....Meh, I'll just let that go

Have you EVER heard a non-custodial father or mother say "Man, i wish i had LESS time with my kids"

By actions, yes. My ex husband went two years having visited or daughter once for two hours. 10 months went by without so much as a phone call, letter, etc. He refused to take her for six months while I had a military obligation. She stayed with my mother because her father didn't want her. Stop taking.

 

[longislandguy]

By actions, yes. My ex husband went two years having visited or daughter once for two hours. 10 months went by without so much as a phone call, letter, etc. He refused to take her for six months while I had a military obligation. She stayed with my mother because her father didn't want her. Stop taking.

I'd LOVE to hear what he has to say about what actually happened...One side of an argument is just that....only one side

 

[longislandguy]

Not that you need to worry about finding a woman to marry any time soon, but has it occurred to you that having jack to do with the other parent might just be in the child's best interest?

No, it is NEVER in the childs best interest to take away their parent,absolutely not...Supervised visitation, sure, limited visitation, understandable...But, NOTHING....No, just no, that is NEVER ok...i can't even, just no, its not ok to even think about IMO....That is child abuse

 

[milmom]

I'd LOVE to hear what he has to say about what actually happened...One side of an argument is just that....only one side

It wouldn't matter, you obviously are to obstinate to hear anything other than what you want to. I know it's hard to believe a parent wouldn't want to see their child, I've been trying to figure my ex out for years. Luckily I don't care who you choose to blame. Good day.

 

[Proserpina]

No, it is NEVER in the childs best interest to take away their parent,absolutely not...Supervised visitation, sure, limited visitation, understandable...But, NOTHING....No, just no, that is NEVER ok...i can't even, just no, its not ok to even think about IMO....That is child abuse

Quoting before you delete it.

You're happy with the idea that a 5 year old sexual abuse victim should be made to visit with the parent who abused him/her?

What a very odd reasoning process you have.

 

[longislandguy]

Quoting before you delete it.

You're happy with the idea that a 5 year old sexual abuse victim should be made to visit with the parent who abused him/her?

What a very odd reasoning process you have.

Legally, that person(I wouldn't call them a parent) can't be around that child anymore.....What we are talking about is one parent keeping a child away from another parent....legal issues are completely different things...Even if CPS, the courts, the law, etc., is a bit different then some 'parent' keeping a child away from their parent....That's parental alienation and Child Abuse IMO

And please stop trying to twist my words...you know darn well that's not what i meant...The law is the law....

 

[Proserpina]

Legally, that person(I wouldn't call them a parent) can't be around that child anymore.....What we are talking about is one parent keeping a child away from another parent....legal issues are completely different things...Even if CPS, the courts, the law, etc., is a bit different then some 'parent' keeping a child away from their parent....

And please stop trying to twist my words...you know darn well that's not what i meant...The law is the law....

Nope, not twisting your words.

You don't need my help there.

 

[Ladyback1]

No, it is NEVER in the childs best interest to take away their parent,absolutely not...Supervised visitation, sure, limited visitation, understandable...But, NOTHING....No, just no, that is NEVER ok...i can't even, just no, its not ok to even think about IMO....That is child abuse

You have NO Freaking idea....NONE!

It would be a blessing for my children (and yes, they are MINE---seeing as how their father wants NOTHING to do with them. And hasn't since Christmas 2010. Hasn't called, hasn't emailed, hasn't acknowledged their birthdays or any major holiday. And this with me offering to PAY for him to travel the 4 hours to spend time w/ the boys. He refuses because it would be disruptive for his "new" family--and that's not my take on things! He actually said that in court papers regarding contempt due to his not paying his 1/2 of medical expenses. Sure, he's going to tell you that I alienated the children from him....I didn't have to. He did it all by himself, when he allowed his girlfriend to shove the oldest because she was angry at him)...if my significant other was allowed to adopt them.

 

[stealth2]

You CAN make it as easy as possible....I've never met a father or mother who said to me "Man, i wish i could see my kids less", usually, it's "This *^%^ is yelling and cussing and threatening me everytime i call to see my kids, I GIVE UP" or "I don't know what to do, I wish i could see my kids more, but ex won't work with me"

I'm not going to say 100%, because nothing is 100%, but if there is a child not seeing one of their parents....It's always been GLARINGLY obvious to me where to look to find blame...the other parent...parental alienation is a lot more then just calling the other parent names infront of the child...

You have not walked in everyone's shoes.

 

[stealth2]

Legally, that person(I wouldn't call them a parent) can't be around that child anymore.....What we are talking about is one parent keeping a child away from another parent....legal issues are completely different things...Even if CPS, the courts, the law, etc., is a bit different then some 'parent' keeping a child away from their parent....That's parental alienation and Child Abuse IMO

And please stop trying to twist my words...you know darn well that's not what i meant...The law is the law....

You really have no clue. My ex has not spoken to our youngest in abt 5 years, and it has nothing to do with me,

 

[Ladyback1]

I'd LOVE to hear what he has to say about what actually happened...One side of an argument is just that....only one side

And I love to hear what your child's mother has to say about you....although I can probably guess! Since we are assuming things about other posters (and effectively calling them liars!): I have to assume you are even more of an arrogant twit in real life, regardless of what you say. I also have to assume you are a vindictive little sleaze who will do anything, ANYTHING, to make himself happy or appear to be a better person than you really are.

And....have I mentioned your EXTREMELY unhealthy and downright creepy obsession with your FEMALE child??

In fact, I'm pretty sure you are a narcissist who has only his best interest in mind. As evidenced by your repeated and CONSTANT crowing about how you "beat" your Ex in court, and what a good "Daddy" you are...

 

[Rwedunyet]

No, it is NEVER in the childs best interest to take away their parent,absolutely not...Supervised visitation, sure, limited visitation, understandable...But, NOTHING....No, just no, that is NEVER ok...i can't even, just no, its not ok to even think about IMO....That is child abuse

Ya know, my brother says the same thing. From his cell in prison.....where he sits every time his son visits the therapist who is trying to correct the damage done by my brother.

Ironic twist, isnt it?

Ya know, when I first came to this site, the "jaded" harsh attitudes of some of the seniors here really grated my nerves. Longislandguy, thank you ever so much for making it clear WHY they feel that way.

 

[mmmagique]

Another one jumps the tracks thanks to the poster of many names. (seriously, why is he allowed to keep coming back?) He killed this thread and many others.

 

[Ohiogal]

I'd LOVE to hear what he has to say about what actually happened...One side of an argument is just that....only one side

Actually I have had parents say they want less time with their children and mean it. So much so that they begged the court to terminate their rights.