Does mental illness affect custody?

[triviafreakdad]

Bris , thanks for your help , I'm sorry if I seem combative but these are trying times . Hope to argue with you again in a better setting .

 

[brisgirl825]

Bris , thanks for your help , I'm sorry if I seem combative but these are trying times . Hope to argue with you again in a better setting .

No problem. I have been in your situation, kind of, and I know how emotional these issues are.

Keep us updated. I'll be sending positive energy.

 

[triviafreakdad]

Thank you from me and my anklebiters !!

 

[betterthanher]

4 days to 3 .

Well seeing how there are only 7 days in a week...

Just to re-affirm what others have suggested: DO NOT SETTLE FOR ANYTHING LESS THAN 50/50.

You/your attorney should be putting your ex in a corner where she would have to defend anything less than 50/50 is not in the child's best interest. You should be pressing for equal access to the child. If your ex isn't willing to do that, then your attorney should be pushing for you to be the prim a r y residential parent and you will MAKE SURE the other parent has equal access.

 

[Zephyr]

To Claify here, mom addmitted herself into the hospital because she knew she was depressed from all the emotional and mental stress in her marriage. hubby is the one who refused to share in family and/or marriage counciling as he was in denial that he was part of her depression.

She sees her Dr on a regular bases which is every thirty days. Untill her husband made to much money not to be covered by famly health plus....then the coverage was reduced to child health plus. Because wife was a stay at home mom taking care of four children....two of which were her husbands from a previous marriage...she was unable to afford her counciling, Dad never did anything to provide his wife with the medical insurance she needed to keep up with her therapy. She had to resort to only going once a month for free meds, as she could not just stop taking them.

Mom deserves to have the right to love, teach, raise and care for her children. Depression is not a reason to take children away from a mother.

Dad is having a field day tring to discredit mom here, however if she was so mental why did he trust her to be the daily care giver of his children from his previous marriage? esp. while he worked out of town all summer and was gone 4-5 days a week?

It's a little late to start complaining of his wife now. He is just angry that she left. FTR she has all her counciling reports to provve her depression was caused by mental and emotional abuse by her husband and his parents.

Also for the FTR, a man who views teen porn in a teen girls room to take care of the business he want taking care of with his wif....certianly does not ned to have any children around him. This is the reason she took her 14 yr old daughter and their son and left the home. What kind of mother would She be if she had stayed in the home with her teen daughter after this discovery?

gee, mom, not to be mean but why didn't you go get your own job to pay for the therapy?

 

[LdiJ]

gee, mom, not to be mean but why didn't you go get your own job to pay for the therapy?

Perhaps the cost of daycare for 4 children?

 

[Zephyr]

Perhaps the cost of daycare for 4 children?

2 of which were not her's at LEAST one of which was in school, the whole "he's the big bad meanie who ruined my life, and I am not responsible for any part of it at all" thing....people need to be accountable for some responsiblity for what their life has become

let me amend 2 possibly 3 children in school

 

[lizbeth17]

um?

Are you the mom? I get confused because i tend not to read every single post....

 

[Zephyr]

Are you the mom? I get confused because i tend not to read every single post....

yes she is mom

 

[LdiJ]

Mom never said everyother wekend. Mom said anytime, however she is asking for pri**** phy custody. dad is refusing this IMO because he wants out of child support.....and by having joint phy. custody neither party will be
ordered to pay?

Mom will agree to joint legal

liberal visitation...meaning every weekend if dad so desires, split holidays or rotaing...whichever dad prefers. split cchilds b'day. mother day with mom and fathers dady with dad...ect.

Legal phy custody with mom

right to first refusal

the only thing dad is fighting is the phy custody.....he wants joint phy. cuatody. Mom does not feel it is in the best intrest of her child to do this. due to childs established routine and daily care given primarily by mom everyday. To have this child go back and forth from home to home will only cause stress to the child and confusion......ftr, this has alrady taken place with the two childrn of dads previous marriage. dad has refused counciling for theses children and they still wake with noghtmares and are confused. Shown by acting out and tantrumes..(his children are 8&5...well past the age of tantrums)

Again I ill state IMO dad is only fighting for joint phy....so he can avoid paying child support.

If that is true, then he may be in for a surprize (or mom may be too if he prevails). Even with joint physical custody the parent with the higher income generally still has to pay some child support.

 

[lizbeth17]

strange

it seems kinda ridiculous for both of you to be posting on the same website....unless i have that wrong too...lol