I'm sorry to hear about your situation. If I were you and she was my daughter, I'd probably feel the exact same. Unfortunately, Veronica is right...if there is a court order that says it's dad's time, it's dad's time and you could be held in contempt if you don't make her go. You can always file for a modification of visitation and hope that the Judge might take into consideration your daughter's feelings. It is unfortunate that the law is the same for both good and bad dads. Some dads deserve better, some dads deserve less.
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M
Meursault
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Oh HELL, why not let the child decide. Hell, she could even decide to go shack up with the gardner or YOUR boyfriend. After all, she's old enough to make her own decisions.
And speaking of decisions, why not let her decide when it's time to smoke a little crack and star in the remake of "Debbie does Dallas" or "Long Dong Silver".
Let's not stop there. She's old enough to decide about sex, drugs and rock n roll too. Or taking off and not coming home until 4 a.m.
Hell, why do you even let her stay at home. She's old enough to get a job and an apartment and get on with her own life.
Why not allow her to also decide about taking her own life when it gets too rough or cutting herself or assisted suicide. After all, if she WANTS to do these things it should be o.k. with you.
I need a damn DRINK!!!!!
And speaking of decisions, why not let her decide when it's time to smoke a little crack and star in the remake of "Debbie does Dallas" or "Long Dong Silver".
Let's not stop there. She's old enough to decide about sex, drugs and rock n roll too. Or taking off and not coming home until 4 a.m.
Hell, why do you even let her stay at home. She's old enough to get a job and an apartment and get on with her own life.
Why not allow her to also decide about taking her own life when it gets too rough or cutting herself or assisted suicide. After all, if she WANTS to do these things it should be o.k. with you.
I need a damn DRINK!!!!!
C
Courtney's Mom
Guest
I thought this is where you could come to get advice.... I didn't know I was going to mocked or slammed....... Sorry I even came here..... I've seen how some of you react to people on here.... If you don't like what i or others are asking, or if your "tired of hearing the same question" then don't respond to it, go on to the next topic..... but to get on here and say the things like the previous poster did..... it's just not necessary.......
Oh yeah, if you need a drink so badly--you might want to consider an AA meeting---but then don't go online to an advice forum and ask for help... they won't help you--they will only mock and slam you as a person making you feel worse than you already do about your situation!!!!
I'm outta here..... this isn't helping anything....... what a joke this site is....
Oh yeah, if you need a drink so badly--you might want to consider an AA meeting---but then don't go online to an advice forum and ask for help... they won't help you--they will only mock and slam you as a person making you feel worse than you already do about your situation!!!!
I'm outta here..... this isn't helping anything....... what a joke this site is....
M
Meursault
Guest
Yes I'm an alcoholic and DAMN PROUD OF IT! And most of the regulars here know why. Because I've been sober for 24 years.
And that doesn't change a damn thing. Lady, you have spent hours here trying to justify the fact that your daughter doesn't want to go see her father.
Well, guess what? She HAS TO GO!.. PERIOD. Otherwise, YOUR ASS will be sitting in jail for contempt of court.
Now, want to know why I get so pissy? Because in all the time you've spent here whinning and moaning not once have you realized that your actions are perhaps WHY your daughter doesn't want to go. If children know they can get away with something then they do.
So, you decide. Sit in jail so princess can have her way or teach her that there are some things we do in life, like follow court orders.
It's your kid. THANK GOD it's not mind. Otherwise, her ass would be red.
And that doesn't change a damn thing. Lady, you have spent hours here trying to justify the fact that your daughter doesn't want to go see her father.
Well, guess what? She HAS TO GO!.. PERIOD. Otherwise, YOUR ASS will be sitting in jail for contempt of court.
Now, want to know why I get so pissy? Because in all the time you've spent here whinning and moaning not once have you realized that your actions are perhaps WHY your daughter doesn't want to go. If children know they can get away with something then they do.
So, you decide. Sit in jail so princess can have her way or teach her that there are some things we do in life, like follow court orders.
It's your kid. THANK GOD it's not mind. Otherwise, her ass would be red.
Just a piece of advice to the OP. No matter what your relationship is in the past try calling the step mom. As a mother she will be more understanding to how your daughter feels. Even though there is nothing legally you can do except make her go, you can try and make the best of it. A child learns from the adults and I think your feelings have made a difference to her whether intended or not. Try working it out and I bet it ends up a lot better.