Don't Want Dad's New Wife At The Visits?

[DREAMME08]

What is the name of your state? I LIVE IN CALIFORNIA. MY DAUGHTER IS 2 YEARS OLD. HER BIOLOGICAL FATHER HAS MAYBEY SEEN HER A FEW TIMES. HE REMARRIED WHEN I WAS SEVON MONTHS PREGNANT, AND OUR FRIENDSHIP WAS OVER ALONG WITH ALL TYPE OF COMMUNICATION WE HAD. OVER THE NEXT 2 YEARS, HE HAS SEEN OUR DAUGHTER MAYBE THREE TIMES, AND ON ALL OCCASIONS, HE AND HIS WIFE HAVE TRIED TO KEEP HER, AND IT TOOK ME TAKING THE POLICE TO GET HER BACK. HER DAD HAS ALWAYS HAD VISITATION RIGHTS WITH HER, BUT NOT ONCE HAS HE SHOWED UP FOR THEM. JUST RECENTLY HE FILED TO GO BACKINTO COURT, BUT DIDN'T SHOW AND I WON SOLE PHYSICAL AND SOLE LEGAL CUSTODY OF OUR DAUGHTER. HE HAS SUPERVISED VISITS ONCE A WEEK ,BUT AGAIN DOES NOT EVER SHOW. THIS WAS IN DECEMBER JUST PAST. LAST WEEK I RAN INTO HER DAD WHO WAS BY HIMSELF, AND HE STATED HE DIDN'T WANT TO FIGHT ANY MORE, WANTED TO SEE HIS DAUGHTER, COULD WE COME UP WITH A VISITING SCHEDULE? I WANT TO KNOW IF WE HAVE TO GO BACK INTO COURT, OR SINCE I HAVE SOLE CUSTODY, DO I GET TO MAKE THE DECISION. I ALSO WANT TO KNOW IF SINCE EVERYTIME HIS WIFE IS AROUND ALL WE DO IS ARGUE AND FIGHT, AND SINCE HE IS A TOTALLY DIFFRENT AND BETTER PERSON WHEN SHE IS NOT AROUND, CAN I HAVE IT MADE WHERE SHE IS TO STAY AWAY FROM ALL VISITS?

 

[BelizeBreeze]

Turn Off The Damn Capsssssssssssssssssssssssssss!!!

 

[glowgirl]

I would first tell him that if he is sincere in wanting to see his child than he needs to prove to you that he can be consistant in the visits and continue the supervised schedule until you see an improvement. If you feel he has changed his ways so to speak than perhaps the two of you can still sit down and make a scheudle but then I would take it to court and make it a formal order. Not sure how to help with new wife question. I see it as a problem between the adults. Is she being inappropriate with the child?

 

[BelizeBreeze]

I would first tell him that if he is sincere in wanting to see his child than he needs to prove to you that he can be consistant in the visits and continue the supervised schedule until you see an improvement. If you feel he has changed his ways so to speak than perhaps the two of you can still sit down and make a scheudle but then I would take it to court and make it a formal order. Not sure how to help with new wife question. I see it as a problem between the adults. Is she being inappropriate with the child?

What kind of crap is that? There is a court order for supervised visitation already on the table. Therefore, "SHE" doesn't have a word to say about anything. Either abide by the court order or face contempt. And one thing every newbie seems to forget here. Custody and Visitation are two separate issues. Just because our poster has custody, does not mean diddley when it comes to visitation.

ONLY the existing court order controls visitation. And, if the new wife is not expressedly forbidden from being at the visitation, then she has every right to be there.

Either suck it up or go back to court.

Geeeez people, I leave for some peace and quiet and come back to the same old crap!

 

[nextwife]

CPs remarry all the time, and nobody gets to tell THEM their spouse can or can't be around the child (with the obvious exception of a CRIMNAL history that would make them a danger to a child). Even when they are jerks and interfere with NCPs visitation.

 

[rmet4nzkx]

OP has more serious problems than using all caps and problems if she goes back to court to fight to exclude the stepmom from visitation. Currently she has an order, if dad wants to see his child it is supervised visitation, apparently she was evicted without proper notice and may have housing issues which would possibly become an issue in court if she doesn't have a stable place to stay so she may want to think twice before tryng to excluse the stepmom from visitation.
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