I also posted this on the divorce forum, we're looking for ideas on what to do next.
Hello everyone, I am starting to research my mom's situation and will try to be brief. She has fairly advanced Alzheimer's Disease. My stepdad refused to care for her. She's incontinent, wasn't getting her medicine, not eating, and not changing clothes or being bathed. They've been married 30 years and he said it is the responsibility of her children to take care of her. He and mom are well off finanially with a paid for house in California, good retirement income, and a good savings account. He considers it all to be his money, except for her $400 a month social security. We called adult protective services, they threatened to prosecute him and he agreed to pay for her care provided we found the cheapest place possible. I found a wonderful place near me in Arizona. He told my brother today that he needs to find a good looking woman to move in with him because he needs sex and someone to keep the house clean. He is 85, almost blind, almost deaf and has other ailments. If a woman will move in with him it will just be to take advantage of him. We need to make sure my mom is protected and that there are assets available to care for her rather than it being squandering it on a new "girlfriend".
The only thing we can think of is getting conservatorship over her and filing for divorce on her behalf. CA and AZ are community property states so we should be able to care for her for the rest of her life.
Any ideas?
Thanks for your input.
Hello everyone, I am starting to research my mom's situation and will try to be brief. She has fairly advanced Alzheimer's Disease. My stepdad refused to care for her. She's incontinent, wasn't getting her medicine, not eating, and not changing clothes or being bathed. They've been married 30 years and he said it is the responsibility of her children to take care of her. He and mom are well off finanially with a paid for house in California, good retirement income, and a good savings account. He considers it all to be his money, except for her $400 a month social security. We called adult protective services, they threatened to prosecute him and he agreed to pay for her care provided we found the cheapest place possible. I found a wonderful place near me in Arizona. He told my brother today that he needs to find a good looking woman to move in with him because he needs sex and someone to keep the house clean. He is 85, almost blind, almost deaf and has other ailments. If a woman will move in with him it will just be to take advantage of him. We need to make sure my mom is protected and that there are assets available to care for her rather than it being squandering it on a new "girlfriend".
The only thing we can think of is getting conservatorship over her and filing for divorce on her behalf. CA and AZ are community property states so we should be able to care for her for the rest of her life.
Any ideas?
Thanks for your input.