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[winn dixie]

Wow...I would have never thought of going for sole custody...and keeping the visitation....I live in Florida...and was told they always do the shared parental responsibility...except in cases of abuse and stuff.....

It doesnt bother me for him to have access to medical and school records and stuff...I mean he is their Dad....Did your sole custody change that?

It does say in the parenting agreement that if we cannot agree on a decision that the decision rest with me unless overturned bya court...basically that if he doesn't approve of my parenting decision that he has to take me to court.

On the flip side I have asked him to please back me up on even the smallest decisions and he doesn't...such as no movies rayed pg13 and higher....they are 5 and 7...there are certain people on tv and shows I don't allow them to watch and that is all he will by them and let them watch when they are with him...it's like he goes out of his way to aggravate me!!! But boy if I disagree with him he flips out....I have come to terms that I can't stop him from buying certain toys and movies that I don't allow....I mean really what can one do.

What is sad is the kids are very confused by it and ask me why they can or cannot here and they can or cannot there. the only answer I can think to give them is to say that bothe mommy and daddy are adults and sometimes we have seperate rules and adults can make their own rules....I don't want to say anything negative about their Dad....but I can see they sense the tension

thanks so much

 

[stealth2]

Well, yeah - most of the time parents WILL have different rules. That actually doesn't have to be all that confusing to kids. The judge is not going to micromanage what movies the kids can watch when with him.

 

[winn dixie]

I am not so much concerned with the movies and or toys although I think rated R movies are not suitable for children of this age. I have learned that somethings can't be stopped and thus have not pushed the issue with my ex.

I am however tired of his attitude of trying to bully me by using my friends, family, husband, employers...school official daycare officials and the list goes on.

I think it is ridiculous that after 5 years he just makes a scene where I work, where the kids go to school or daycare calling my husbands boss, calling my husband.....I just want to live in peace...at first I wrote it off to a new diviorce and then I wrote it off to a new marriage....but I have been remarried for 3 years.

when does his insanity end!!!!!!!!?

 

[LdiJ]

I am not so much concerned with the movies and or toys although I think rated R movies are not suitable for children of this age. I have learned that somethings can't be stopped and thus have not pushed the issue with my ex.

I am however tired of his attitude of trying to bully me by using my friends, family, husband, employers...school official daycare officials and the list goes on.

I think it is ridiculous that after 5 years he just makes a scene where I work, where the kids go to school or daycare calling my husbands boss, calling my husband.....I just want to live in peace...at first I wrote it off to a new diviorce and then I wrote it off to a new marriage....but I have been remarried for 3 years.

when does his insanity end!!!!!!!!?

Unfortunately it may never end....there are just some people who are always going to be that way. What you have to learn to do is not allow it to upset you. Once he realizes that he can no longer upset you...its more likely he will back off.

Believe me I DO understand about the PG 13 movies etc.