Emancipation, Sexual Harrassment?

[KUBound05]

What is the name of your state? Kansas

Well, I'm not entirely sure what to say, so I'll make it short and sweet. Okay, maybe not so short...and definately not so sweet. My family life has been really bad. From the outside it looks great, FCCLA President, really nice car, nice GPA, but my step-dad, the only guy I know as dad.. has been sexually harrassing me. For a long time it was just uncomfortable. He'd notice how I wasn't wearing a bra and comment on it. And it only got worse from there, when I had to go on a weeklong trip with him. Alone. He told me to get naked but I refused and he then called me names, touched my hind quarters and breasts. I'm 17 years old. As of July 18th.

My mom didn't know a thing about what had happened. She's nieve. But They told me I had to go be with him alone for a longer period of time, only because I had forgotten a little thing, like laundry. Aside from emotional abuse, lately it's getting physical and I handled it. But after my sick step dad started in it's just wrong and I won't deal with it. btw. They drink every night. They go through a 24 pack easily. I'm not a bad kid, but 'dad' has never believed I could go to school at KU and it's jsut really hard.

But they told me I had to go with him in the future alot. I knew what would happen, he'd do it again except, probably more. See he's been abusive to me, and my mother before many times. So that night I called my grandma and she took me to my uncles and we called the police. We did everything by the book. I got to stay with them, but my uncle's recently had a heart attack and he "can't handle the stress" so I'm being passed back and fourth. I had a job for almost a full year. I had to quit because my parents thought I could 'do better' I had gotten several raises by the time they made me quit.

Now I don't want to be called a dumbass, I just want to know, which I'm fairly sure of this but my dad was wrong towards me, I can get him in trouble, but I don't want to. All I wan't is to be left alone so I can finish high school and go to KU ( I have means to pay for college) Am I insane? but I'm here and I can't go back, thats for sure. I have alot of money saved up and I have a roommate that is waiting for me to move in. I can make it on my own, and I'll probably turn out better from it. Do I have a case?

 

[BeenAround]

I'm confused - who are this "They" people you are talking about ? Who is telling you to spend more time with your step-dad ...because of some laundry ??? You lost me there. And where is this place that you are at right now? Are you home living with your parents or not ?

If you are in high school, did you try talking to your guidance counselor about this ?

 

[BelizeBreeze]

I can get him in trouble, but I don't want to. All I wan't is to be left alone so I can finish high school and go to KU ( I have means to pay for college)

Go to the police station and file charges against your step-father for sexual battery. I don't give a damn if you don't want to get him in trouble or not, this man has taken a sacred trust and destroyed it and if you don't stick up for yourself, you are giving every man you ever meet in your life the permission to do with you as they see fit.

Then, when you're at KU, breeze by the ACACIA fraternity house. That's my old stomping ground. I loved my time in Lawrence. It was my first radio gig.

Now, start sticking up for yourself.

 

[lil96]

You need to get out of that situation and make sure he doens't hurt any ever again. If you don'T press charges, who else will he hurt?
KU is a good school, I had friends who went there, Lawrence is really pretty! It's been a while since I was there.
But when the time comes you can try for financial aid, so that will ease up some financial stress

 

[KUBound05]

Well, they is my mom and dad, my parents are really strict and I had to do exactly right even though they weren't right. My other immediate family members say that I wasn't raised right but luckily I turned out good. I mean I haven't even ever had a detention. But anyhow, "They" are my mom and dad. The college thing, I'm part indian so I don't have to worry about the costs, (well not all, I do know living by yourself is hard) besides, it's not by myself. ANYWAY sorry getting off track. So I can go to the police? I haven't went back home and I'm not going to. I just don't want to be put in a foster home. But your right, he shouldn't get away with it. Do you think I'd be put in a foster home, even though I'm so close to being 18?

 

[FarmerJ]

A foster home would not be that bad , Your county would have social services likely assign to you a case worker who will oversee your well being and if needed a gaurdian ad litem who can see to it that your interest are being served . . the other posters are right about the letting it go thing , If you dont file police reports he will likely do the same things again to another juvenile . at least in a foster home you can work on finishing your HS education and continue to make plans for college .