Enforced Visitation
First of all, let me answer Missychelle26. Believe me, I am not going to say a word in court!!! Could my son pay for the lawyer, NO. HE is spending every dime he has on getting a nice place to live and a nice place for his son to visit, if he gets visitation. Am I running my mouth now??? Yes, Yes!!! The mother thinks the most important thing about this is WHO is going to win!!! This is not a win, win situation!!!! This is only what is best for the child!! Period!!! Am I nosy??? YES, YES!!!!! There is no way to explain on a "post" what I have put into this child and into this mother for the last 5 years. I have no idea where my son found her, but, his lifestyle and her lifestyle are soooooooo different. I don't know how to even explain it. But, she has no idea how to be 'socially excepted' in anyway. (I am sure I am going to get bashed (posted) for that.) But, she is 'street wise' and she knows the ropes on all of this 'going to court' stuff. She has been SEVERAL times and she is tough when it comes to this and let's me know that she is. I only know to do what I (excuse me) my son, thinks is best. The reason I use "I", "we", "me" is because "i" (little letter), have been there for them unconditionally with no questions asked. AND----- Yes, you are so right. The Abuse. It is horrible and I know that! But, I have read and read and read EVERYTHING that I can on Child Protective Services and YOU CANNOT go with a picture of "one" bruise, "one" thump on the head or "what I have heard or seen". You may come up with something so horrendous that they will take the child out of the home for a while. BUT they will send them right back to their abuser to "keep the family" together. I know about the penalty---- $5,000 fine or imprisonment!!!! "IF", and do not take that literally or final decision, I (another I) go to CPS, this person will show a PATTERN of abuse that they or she cannot deny!!! Do not judge me (another me) about that, it is killing this person. But please read snostar's statement!!!!! NO ONE agrees with this person NOT REPORTING THIS, but IN THE CURRENT PROCEEDINGS IN COURT, IT OFTENS HAPPENS THAT IT HELPS THE MOTHERS CASE. I may have no rights, no business running my mouth, I may be nosy, WHATEVER!!!!!! But, I love that little boy soooo much that I will 'suffer' and pay the consequenses. And NO, the son cannot talk to her---she just screams and hollers at him. (No, I have not answered your question about going to CPS, I am not going to answer that- YET!!)
Well,I think I have answered the "I' , "We", "me" questions. I am tryng my best to get "I', "ME" out of this. But, Missychelle26 is SO RIGHT, when she said "the poster is more concerned with keeping the child in HER life"!! I cannot imagine not seeing this child-- I know I have no rights, I know that I am so concerned, I know that I am nosy, BUT I know that when this child is with "his paternal" family---that he will FEEL safe, comfortable and LOVED!!!! I SUPPORT GRANDPARENTS RIGHTS!!!!! Can you tell????????? I am not trying to intervene with the sons visitation--- the child just needs to "FEEL" safe, loved and comfortable when he is with is "new" father and I have to make sure that he is --Period!!!
Okay, send them on!! I am ready for your posts!!! (I think). I WAS going to get off of this when it got "so hairy" but, I am going to plead my case. to yall . BUT I AM GOING TO KEEP MY MOUTH SHUT IN COURT!!! But, you are really good help. Thanks!!
