What is the name of your state? MS
Good evening. I came across an interesting piece of info this evening, and I'm not quite sure what to do with it, or even if I can or should do anything with it.
Brief recap. I have custody of mine and my ex-wife's 3 children. I recently filed a complaint to increase child support, she was served April 16th and started talking smack about filing for custody.
The kids were with her this weekend. Last night, my wife and I were in our bedroom with the door closed, comparing health insurance plans that we can chose from. I thought I saw a shadow under the door, so I opened the door, and my 11 year old daughter had her ear up to the door. I didn't really make much of it, just told her that we don't do that.
Today, my wife and I had a family meeting to go over some things with the kids. We are going to be moving into our new house soon, and my wife was hired at a full-time job today and starts next week. Up until now, my wife has stayed at home, and as such, did all the cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc. Now that she will be working full-time, me and the kids need to help out around the house more, so we sat down to talk about, assign duties, etc.
My wife has been washing, folding, and putting away everyone's laundry, but now that she will be working full-time, she and I decided that the 2 older girls (14 and 11) can be responsible for folding and putting away their own laundry. My wife will still wash and dry it, but each girl will have a "clean clothes basket" and when it is given to them, they need to fold and put away their clothes.
So, we explain to them that that is how it is going to work from now on. The 11 year old starts whining that she doesn't want to put away her clothes. Then she says, "If you start making me do my own laundry, I'm gonna tell mom so she can use it for the custody thing."
My jaw dropped, and I had to walk away before I said something I couldn't take back. I stepped out back to cool off, and my 14 year old came out there and said she needed to talk to me.
She told me that over the weekend, her mom talked to them, and told them that I had filed in court against her and "was dragging her through the mud, and she was filing to get custody." My daughter then said that their mom told them that they needed to help her, and tell her everything that goes on in our house so that she can use it in the custody thing so that they can come live with her. She (older daughter) told me that she told her mom that she wants no part of it, and her mom said, "That's ok, you'll be my little spy, won't you, (younger daughter)?" Younger daughter said sure. She thinks its exciting, and it's no secret that if given the choice she would go live with her mom.
So now I am confounded. If my ex files for custody, I feel that the judge needs to know what she is doing, and that she is involving the kids.
But how do I get this in? Short of my older daughter talking to the judge and telling him all of this, I have no proof.
My older daughter told me that she is sick of her mom putting them in the middle and wants to talk to the judge, but I don't want that. She doesn't need to be involved.
What do I do?
Good evening. I came across an interesting piece of info this evening, and I'm not quite sure what to do with it, or even if I can or should do anything with it.
Brief recap. I have custody of mine and my ex-wife's 3 children. I recently filed a complaint to increase child support, she was served April 16th and started talking smack about filing for custody.
The kids were with her this weekend. Last night, my wife and I were in our bedroom with the door closed, comparing health insurance plans that we can chose from. I thought I saw a shadow under the door, so I opened the door, and my 11 year old daughter had her ear up to the door. I didn't really make much of it, just told her that we don't do that.
Today, my wife and I had a family meeting to go over some things with the kids. We are going to be moving into our new house soon, and my wife was hired at a full-time job today and starts next week. Up until now, my wife has stayed at home, and as such, did all the cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc. Now that she will be working full-time, me and the kids need to help out around the house more, so we sat down to talk about, assign duties, etc.
My wife has been washing, folding, and putting away everyone's laundry, but now that she will be working full-time, she and I decided that the 2 older girls (14 and 11) can be responsible for folding and putting away their own laundry. My wife will still wash and dry it, but each girl will have a "clean clothes basket" and when it is given to them, they need to fold and put away their clothes.
So, we explain to them that that is how it is going to work from now on. The 11 year old starts whining that she doesn't want to put away her clothes. Then she says, "If you start making me do my own laundry, I'm gonna tell mom so she can use it for the custody thing."
My jaw dropped, and I had to walk away before I said something I couldn't take back. I stepped out back to cool off, and my 14 year old came out there and said she needed to talk to me.
She told me that over the weekend, her mom talked to them, and told them that I had filed in court against her and "was dragging her through the mud, and she was filing to get custody." My daughter then said that their mom told them that they needed to help her, and tell her everything that goes on in our house so that she can use it in the custody thing so that they can come live with her. She (older daughter) told me that she told her mom that she wants no part of it, and her mom said, "That's ok, you'll be my little spy, won't you, (younger daughter)?" Younger daughter said sure. She thinks its exciting, and it's no secret that if given the choice she would go live with her mom.
So now I am confounded. If my ex files for custody, I feel that the judge needs to know what she is doing, and that she is involving the kids.
But how do I get this in? Short of my older daughter talking to the judge and telling him all of this, I have no proof.
My older daughter told me that she is sick of her mom putting them in the middle and wants to talk to the judge, but I don't want that. She doesn't need to be involved.
What do I do?
to keep a journal of what time I get home from work each day and tell her.