Ex now wants custody

[stealth2]

The short conversation took place after court, outside in the parking lot. There wasn't anyone around but the two of us, not even the attorneys. It was NOT said in front of the judge. "Your loss" was meant as him not wanting to see his daughter.

And it was still foolish on your part. Trust me.

 

[LdiJ]

Hello again!

So much has happened since my last post. My ex's wife now has a restraining order against her and is not allowed within 100 feet of my daughter, her daycare, or her school. Shortly after the venue was changed, she showed up on my doorstep. When I answered, she began screaming about how my "kid" was screwing up her life and that my daughter should "just go away". I ordered her off my property and she refused, so I called the police. They removed her from the premisis and advised her not to return. 1 week later, she showed up at my daughter's daycare and tried to pick her up. She's not on the pick-up list so they called me right away. I told them NOT to release her and I was on the way. By the time I got there, the wife was gone. I shudder to think what might have happened if she would have gotten ahold of my daughter! I took my daughter home and on the way tried to call my ex husband. I had been home all of about half an hour when the wife showed up at my door again. I did not answer. She pounded on the door and screamed for about 20 minutes before I called the police AGAIN. The removed her from the property, AGAIN. She came back about 10 minutes later and started throwing rocks at my house from the street. This lasted for about 15 minutes before she left. The next morning, I filed for a restraining order.

Anyway, now to the court hearing. I now have sole legal custody of our daughter. My ex tried to play that he wanted our daughter to live at home with them due to my "cohabitation". The judge threw out that arguement since cohabitation is not illegal in Kentucky. She then proceeded to ask why he was seeking custody when there was an active restraining order on his wife. Then it came out that he was wanting to put her in a facility. This did NOT bode well with the judge! He was asked about his lack of involvement with our daughter and why he wasn't exercising his CO visitation. His response was that he "had children of his own to take care of". Again, did NOT sit well with the judge. I was awarded sole legal and physical custody our our daughter and any visitation is to take place in our community, at my discretion. After court, he looked at me and said "take a good look, sweetheart, you're never going to see this face again". My response was "your loss". As I was walking away, he yelled "congratulations on cutting me out of my kid's life". I responded "no you did that yourself" and walked out the door.

Sorry this is so long, but I thought you might like to know how this played out. Thanks!!!

While I do agree that it would have been better for you to remain silent...I would like to offer my congrats on your obtaining sole legal and physical custody. While its sad for your daughter that dad is choosing not to be a part of her life, its obviously a huge plus that your daughter won't have to deal with psycho stepmom.

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

Thank you for the update.

I can understand your feelings towards dad's comment. I tend to go for silence since I refuse to lower myself to his place in hell.

At least dad showed his cards in court. And make sure that if the wife shows up anywhere that you IMMEDIATELY call the police. They'll have to deal with the X's wife's actions.

 

[mmmagique]

Should "dad" want visitation in the future, please make sure it's supervised. (the judge did leave it up to your discretion, right?)
Step mom's actions and words, alond with "dad's" actions and words are scary. Too many children are seen as disposable by people who should love and protect them. I wouldn't want dad to guilt you into a visitation you may live to regret.