Facebook for Child ??

[Pearl72]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Colorado

I just wondered if getting a facebook page for my daughter is considered a MAJOR decision, and that me and her father need to agree to let her have one? I got her one so that she can stay in touch with my side of the family, as when they have tried to send stuff to her, or call - the stuff is returned to sender, and they don't answer the phone. He is demanding that I take it down and if they want to contact our daughter, they know his address and can call her at any time. Any thoughts? Also, said daughter is 9.

 

[stealth2]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Colorado

I just wondered if getting a facebook page for my daughter is considered a MAJOR decision, and that me and her father need to agree to let her have one? I got her one so that she can stay in touch with my side of the family, as when they have tried to send stuff to her, or call - the stuff is returned to sender, and they don't answer the phone. He is demanding that I take it down and if they want to contact our daughter, they know his address and can call her at any time. Any thoughts? Also, said daughter is 9.

Do you realize that Facebook's ToS requires users to be 13 or older? Dad is right in objecting. You are way out of line with this one.

# Registration and Account Security

Facebook users provide their real names and information, and we need your help to keep it that way. Here are some commitments you make to us relating to registering and maintaining the security of your account:

1. You will not provide any false personal information on Facebook, or create an account for anyone other than yourself without permission.
2. You will not create more than one personal profile.
3. If we disable your account, you will not create another one without our permission.
4. You will not use your personal profile for your own commercial gain (such as selling your status update to an advertiser).
5. You will not use Facebook if you are under 13.
6. You will not use Facebook if you are a convicted sex offender.
7. You will keep your contact information accurate and up-to-date.
8. You will not share your password, (or in the case of developers, your secret key), let anyone else access your account, or do anything else that might jeopardize the security of your account.
9. You will not transfer your account (including any page or application you administer) to anyone without first getting our written permission.
10. If you select a username for your account we reserve the right to remove or reclaim it if we believe appropriate (such as when a trademark owner complains about a username that does not closely relate to a user's actual name).

 

[LdiJ]

Do you realize that Facebook's ToS requires users to be 13 or older, right? Dad is right in objecting. You are way out of line with this one.

I agree. I sympathize with why you did it, if dad is not cooperating with communication from your side of the family, but its a legitimate gripe on dad's part because she is not old enough to use facebook. On top of that, he can simply restrict her to no use of the internet at all, unsupervised, at his home, so its a wasted effort even if a 9 year old could have a facebook page.

 

[txmom512]

Oh please... My niece has had a facebook since she was 9... Her parents have her password & keep a close eye on it. It's a great way to keep in touch with family.

Neice loves to play the games & put pics and her news on it, and family loves hearing about what she's got going on and seeing her pics.

With close supervision, facebook doesn't have to be this evil dangerous thing. It can be okay...

If you don't like facebook, there's are other sites, like fbfkids.com - sites like facebook but for younger kids.

 

[Proserpina]

Oh please... My niece has had a facebook since she was 9... Her parents have her password & keep a close eye on it. It's a great way to keep in touch with family.

Neice loves to play the games & put pics and her news on it, and family loves hearing about what she's got going on and seeing her pics.

With close supervision, facebook doesn't have to be this evil dangerous thing. It can be okay...

If you don't like facebook, there's are other sites, like fbfkids.com - sites like facebook but for younger kids.

Where did this come from?

All the previous posters did was point out Facebook's TOS....they said NOTHING about Facebook being evil or dangerous.

BOTH of the previous posters were correct.

 

[meldresler]

My 9 year old is on facebook, I watch it closely - she plays games, is on there with her teachers, friends, neighbors, family, joins dog clubs. BUT since facebook terms of reference require users to be 13 years of age, if someone wants to make a case against, it would be fairly straight-forward (sadly, sorry to say).

 

[milspecgirl]

it is not considered a major decision, but he can state that she cannot access it at his house- which makes it a moot point anyways

 

[CourtClerk]

For all those parents who allow their children less than 13 years old to have their own facebook pages, I just have a question for you:

What lessons are you teaching your child(ren) about truth, honesty, integrity and following the rules?

 

[stealth2]

Oh please... My niece has had a facebook since she was 9... Her parents have her password & keep a close eye on it. It's a great way to keep in touch with family.

Neice loves to play the games & put pics and her news on it, and family loves hearing about what she's got going on and seeing her pics.

With close supervision, facebook doesn't have to be this evil dangerous thing. It can be okay...

If you don't like facebook, there's are other sites, like fbfkids.com - sites like facebook but for younger kids.

Oh please, yourself. No one said a thing about FB being terrible or evil or anything. FB - like most sites - have terms of service which one agrees to when registering. When OP (and your sister/brother) registered the child, she violated those terms of service. If Dad wants that account removed, as the custodial parent, he has every right to contact FB and ask that it be removed on the basis of the child being 9.

Try taking your brain out of the box you keep it in and placing it back in your skull before posting, k?

 

[divona2000]

Dad is absolutely correct.
Facebook (heck, any internet site) is not a 'safe place' for a 9 year old, or any child, to be.
I am one of those who constantly patrols the site for violations, and have turned in accounts of: child pornographers who had posted photos of nude sexual acts between small children; photos of dogs and cats tortured, burned alive, or killed in crush videos; videos of dog fights and sales ads for these bloody dogs; photos of adults genitalia; child molesters seeking victims and promoting how to abuse the innocent...
All of these were either in profiles or posted on others profiles, with or without the owner's permission.
All were available for anyone and everyone to see.
Parents who scoff and claim they can 'supervise' their child online, either on FB or elsewhere, are lying to themselves. It only takes a second to see the horror of 20 photos of a living kitten being set on fire pop up on the screen.

...and I agree with CC, if FB says 13 yrs, and you say at 9 yrs it's ok, what lesson does that teach your child about breaking the rules when the child wants to?

 

[sometwo]

Parents who scoff and claim they can 'supervise' their child online, either on FB or elsewhere, are lying to themselves. It only takes a second to see the horror of 20 photos of a living kitten being set on fire pop up on the screen.

not necessarily if you have things blocked. Sure some things I guess could get through but when your living the the internet guy he does a pretty good job.

 

[stealth2]

For all those parents who allow their children less than 13 years old to have their own facebook pages, I just have a question for you:

What lessons are you teaching your child(ren) about truth, honesty, integrity and following the rules?

Ditto this.

 

[CJane]

It isn't just facebook's TOS that requires children to be 13... it's federal law.

If the issue is communication with family and friends, set her up an email address, or have items sent to your house/calls made when she's with you.

 

[Pearl72]

Thanks for all the feedback, both good and negative - and thanks for the alternative ideas. Your right, i do wish to teach my daughter the right thing to do, such as following rules, etc - and following the letter of the law.

It has since been shut down (the fb page).

For anyone that cares to know, we went to mediation and court - and I will have 50/50 or close to it - roughly 49/51 once I move to the area that My daughter and her dad live in.

 

[Isis1]

Thanks for all the feedback, both good and negative - and thanks for the alternative ideas. Your right, i do wish to teach my daughter the right thing to do, such as following rules, etc - and following the letter of the law.

It has since been shut down (the fb page).

For anyone that cares to know, we went to mediation and court - and I will have 50/50 or close to it - roughly 49/51 once I move to the area that My daughter and her dad live in.

Way to go Pearl!