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My friend has lived with her brother & sister-in-law for about a year. Her adopted parents live in Texas. The situation at the house was unstable and just in the last few months they basically kicked her out of the home. The sister-in-law is very controlling and unstable. My friend was under 18 at the time - just turned 18 this month. Before she was 18 they told her to leave the house and go to Texas to her mom & dad's - this was about 9:00 p.m. one night out of the blue and they told her to take a cab to the bus station and get on a bus.
She found a woman from church to live with for a few days and was in contact with parents. Since then she has moved in with a family who takes in foster children and she has turned 18 now. She finally been settled down in one place and had a job and going to school. She is a senior and wanting to finish out her year to graduate and not keep moving around all the time. Her brother's house was very verbally abusive and unstable so she did not wish to go back there.
However, when they made her leave she has left behind her birth certificate, social security card, TV, DVD, Playstation 2, some personal memontos from her grandfather, clothes & money.
The sister in law is very controlling and she has the say in the house and has to have the power over her husband & everyone. She is telling my friend's mother & father lies about my friend. My friend has tried numerous times in the last 2 months to get her things back and her brother wants her to have them. Her father said to call her brother and get with him to get the things back. They keep saying she can come get her things and then when she calls to come get them - it isn't a good time for the sister in law. She is not currently working through all of this and is unable to get a job because she has no I.D. except driver's liscense. She has no car and is wanting to get her life together. She had $800 saved up to get a car. She has never caused them any grief that wasn't brought on by the sister in law making up lies.
Last night she called her brother and he said they would be home around 8:45pm to 9:00pm and she could come over then to get her things. We called police to see if we could get an escort to the house and they said no, it was a civil case. We knew it would be abusive because the way this woman is. Everytime the sister in law finds out she's called her brother she gets furious and tells her if she calls him again she'll throw all her things in the trash. So we proceeded over to their house (w/vehicle to carry everything to her new house) and the sister in law said we could not come in and get them. We pleaded and told her she's been trying to get these things for 2 months now and her life is on hold because of it. The brother did not even come to the door - I'm sure she threatened him to not help us. She said her mother wanted her to throw all these things in the trash (she wanted to hurt my friend). She makes up lies to her mom and is putting a wedge between them with lies. I called the police from my car in front of the house and they cam and asked if we could go in and they said she was being stubborn and wouldn't let us in. They said we would be better off taking them to Small Claims Court to get her things because like we told them - she keeps saying tomorrow, next week, such an such time and then that's not a good time for her.
I can't believe with all the identify theft going on that something can't be done about this. My friend is without her I.D. which this unstable woman has and we can't get her things back.
She also had $800 cash but they said they gave it to her mother - we will check that but I doubt it. What would someone want to do with another person's I.D. ? Very crazy! My friend has been very calm and just asked over and over to get her things and they refuse. Can you please help with advise what to do?
My friend has lived with her brother & sister-in-law for about a year. Her adopted parents live in Texas. The situation at the house was unstable and just in the last few months they basically kicked her out of the home. The sister-in-law is very controlling and unstable. My friend was under 18 at the time - just turned 18 this month. Before she was 18 they told her to leave the house and go to Texas to her mom & dad's - this was about 9:00 p.m. one night out of the blue and they told her to take a cab to the bus station and get on a bus.
She found a woman from church to live with for a few days and was in contact with parents. Since then she has moved in with a family who takes in foster children and she has turned 18 now. She finally been settled down in one place and had a job and going to school. She is a senior and wanting to finish out her year to graduate and not keep moving around all the time. Her brother's house was very verbally abusive and unstable so she did not wish to go back there.
However, when they made her leave she has left behind her birth certificate, social security card, TV, DVD, Playstation 2, some personal memontos from her grandfather, clothes & money.
The sister in law is very controlling and she has the say in the house and has to have the power over her husband & everyone. She is telling my friend's mother & father lies about my friend. My friend has tried numerous times in the last 2 months to get her things back and her brother wants her to have them. Her father said to call her brother and get with him to get the things back. They keep saying she can come get her things and then when she calls to come get them - it isn't a good time for the sister in law. She is not currently working through all of this and is unable to get a job because she has no I.D. except driver's liscense. She has no car and is wanting to get her life together. She had $800 saved up to get a car. She has never caused them any grief that wasn't brought on by the sister in law making up lies.
Last night she called her brother and he said they would be home around 8:45pm to 9:00pm and she could come over then to get her things. We called police to see if we could get an escort to the house and they said no, it was a civil case. We knew it would be abusive because the way this woman is. Everytime the sister in law finds out she's called her brother she gets furious and tells her if she calls him again she'll throw all her things in the trash. So we proceeded over to their house (w/vehicle to carry everything to her new house) and the sister in law said we could not come in and get them. We pleaded and told her she's been trying to get these things for 2 months now and her life is on hold because of it. The brother did not even come to the door - I'm sure she threatened him to not help us. She said her mother wanted her to throw all these things in the trash (she wanted to hurt my friend). She makes up lies to her mom and is putting a wedge between them with lies. I called the police from my car in front of the house and they cam and asked if we could go in and they said she was being stubborn and wouldn't let us in. They said we would be better off taking them to Small Claims Court to get her things because like we told them - she keeps saying tomorrow, next week, such an such time and then that's not a good time for her.
I can't believe with all the identify theft going on that something can't be done about this. My friend is without her I.D. which this unstable woman has and we can't get her things back.
She also had $800 cash but they said they gave it to her mother - we will check that but I doubt it. What would someone want to do with another person's I.D. ? Very crazy! My friend has been very calm and just asked over and over to get her things and they refuse. Can you please help with advise what to do?