Father allowed son to smoke marijuana?

[SingleAZdad]

Escape - I never alluded that drug use was acceptable. I also never suggested that OP shouldn't do what she can to stop his drug use. I stated that she doesn't appear to have confronted the problem head on. She is relying on the court to solve her personal problems. Over and over again, I read stories about how court is the only answer, yet there is never a comment about alternatives. No wonder our courts are backed up.

Doesn't OP have a responsibility to sit with her son and check his homework, review his test scores, talk to him about his daily activities? Poor school grades are only a shock when you aren't envolved.

You seem to advocate putting bars on the windows, lock the front door and start homeschooling to protect him from all those bad influences in the world. I sat with both of my kids and reviewed the Arizona Meth Project web site to show them what drugs do to you. Scared the heck out of both of them. take a look at this site : http://www.arizonamethproject.org/

E2P: If you think that OP was married to a pot smoker and friends with another pot smoker doesn't make it likely that she has smoked herself, well then, I don't know what to say.

 

[stealth2]

That's a far reach!

Only for one with short arms.

 

[escape2paradise]

Escape - I never alluded that drug use was acceptable. I also never suggested that OP shouldn't do what she can to stop his drug use. I stated that she doesn't appear to have confronted the problem head on. She is relying on the court to solve her personal problems. Over and over again, I read stories about how court is the only answer, yet there is never a comment about alternatives. No wonder our courts are backed up.

Doesn't OP have a responsibility to sit with her son and check his homework, review his test scores, talk to him about his daily activities? Poor school grades are only a shock when you aren't envolved.

Sure but what does that have to do with dad smoking pot with his kid and how will that stop dad from doing so?

You seem to advocate putting bars on the windows, lock the front door and start homeschooling to protect him from all those bad influences in the world. I sat with both of my kids and reviewed the Arizona Meth Project web site to show them what drugs do to you. Scared the heck out of both of them. take a look at this site : http://www.arizonamethproject.org/

Really, I don't recall anywhere telling OP to take such harsh measures. I have a 14 yr old girl and I don't home school or lock her away from society. She goes to the school dances, football games, movies the mall.

E2P: If you think that OP was married to a pot smoker and friends with another pot smoker doesn't make it likely that she has smoked herself, well then, I don't know what to say.

My X was a cocaine addict I did not use cocaine. Sometimes, especially when you are young, you hook up with people and they change. They get a job meet new people and venture out to do things they might not do with you. That's what happened to me. Before I knew it, I was working full time, going to college full time and I was stuck supporting a drug addict. Of course the relationship didn't last long after that.

The point I was trying to make, and obviously failed, is that what difference does it make if mom was at some time a pot smoker? I am assuming she doesn't now else she probably wouldn't have the concerns she has about it and the court probably wouldn't have put restrictions on dad either. Since mom possibly smoked pot does that mean she is the pot calling the kettle black or does that mean she has experience and knows it is a bad thing to be doing? I love how people call someone a hypocrite just because they may have one time made the same mistake and then other times they hail a person for overcoming and trying to teach others that it is not good for you. Maybe mom knows this is the wrong path and she wants better for her son.

 

[waitinMd]

sometimes the school can do something to help. They could watch him closely, if he got in trouble for it in school, the parents would have to do something about it. If you ask the school to help, they typically don't hold it against the child. It's common for young adults to experiment with pot. In Maryland we have a police officer in every high school...

If you call child services, they may go out, but if the father/son deny the allegations, they just close the case.

they do have home test kits... buy them at rite aid... how old is your son?