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Father back after 3 years!
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timsgurlfurlife
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If a chick wants to open up for any man than she is just looking for money to support her self not the child! That is just my opinion is that ok??? And I got custody of my kids because yet again a loser man didn't deserve them.(And I am not saying that all men don't deserve there kids) So analize what you will.)
timsgurlfurlife
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UM WOW.... You must be the hooker that isn't sure who daddy is and ...YEAH nice OOOOOOO Stab now I am bleeding LOL Are you at your Study Hall at School visiting this site cause I think there is an age warning in here 
tigger22472
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wow, see what happens when you leave the computer for just a few hours? It was only on page one of this thread when I left... and to think it go loonier and loonier... even for here I didn't think that was possible.
Father back after 3 years
Let me just clear some things up...this child was never hidden are taken. The mother hardly knew the guy, a hugh mistake, yes he is the dad she knows that, but he does not for sure, he sleeps around and has a record of stalking females on file in Ca. This the mother found out before telling him she was pregant. Hoping to work out something with him without marriage after finding out all of this. Once the mother told him she was pregant he did nothing but scare her, she was afraid. To avoid the abuse the parents had a meeting without father and mother to work something out.
The baby's fathers, father said he had no money and was not ready to take care of a child. The mother of the child, wanted the father to prove he wanted to be a part of all this so ask for a DNA test to prove his willingness, or sign off his rights. His parents and the father refused at that time. Mother consulted with a attorney in CA. to confirm all of this. The child was born with mothers name, father did nothing but cause
problems. Knowing all he had to do is get DNA testing. We know he did not do that cause of the child support he could not afford. Also at that time mothers, mother was going though possible third
cancer, that is why the move to Florida. All family in Fl. did not want to go though it again so far away. The father of the child knew of this, but continued to cause problems, threats etc. But never stopping by the home to talk or anything. The mother of the child knew she could not make it on her own with no family in Ca. and did not want to leave her own mother at this time. So the only thing for her to do was move with the family
The father of the child had every opportunity to come see the mother and the baby before they moved. At the time of seeing my daughter this young man was seeing two other women, one more possibly pregant (not sure, do not want to know), stalking another, whom my daughter talked with in person at length about this guy. She had nothing very good to say about him.
I realize he is still the father and my daughter wants her son to know his dad
but any more that that he will have to work for, show he wants to be apart of it all and that means $. Children aren't cheap and take alot of time, so she has given up her friends, a career, and lets not talk about several ER visits with no insurance. Yes, he will get a DNA test and he will take the proper steps to show he is ready to be a father to this child.....custody is a whole other subject......
grandma
Let me just clear some things up...this child was never hidden are taken. The mother hardly knew the guy, a hugh mistake, yes he is the dad she knows that, but he does not for sure, he sleeps around and has a record of stalking females on file in Ca. This the mother found out before telling him she was pregant. Hoping to work out something with him without marriage after finding out all of this. Once the mother told him she was pregant he did nothing but scare her, she was afraid. To avoid the abuse the parents had a meeting without father and mother to work something out.
The baby's fathers, father said he had no money and was not ready to take care of a child. The mother of the child, wanted the father to prove he wanted to be a part of all this so ask for a DNA test to prove his willingness, or sign off his rights. His parents and the father refused at that time. Mother consulted with a attorney in CA. to confirm all of this. The child was born with mothers name, father did nothing but cause
problems. Knowing all he had to do is get DNA testing. We know he did not do that cause of the child support he could not afford. Also at that time mothers, mother was going though possible third
cancer, that is why the move to Florida. All family in Fl. did not want to go though it again so far away. The father of the child knew of this, but continued to cause problems, threats etc. But never stopping by the home to talk or anything. The mother of the child knew she could not make it on her own with no family in Ca. and did not want to leave her own mother at this time. So the only thing for her to do was move with the family
The father of the child had every opportunity to come see the mother and the baby before they moved. At the time of seeing my daughter this young man was seeing two other women, one more possibly pregant (not sure, do not want to know), stalking another, whom my daughter talked with in person at length about this guy. She had nothing very good to say about him.
I realize he is still the father and my daughter wants her son to know his dad
but any more that that he will have to work for, show he wants to be apart of it all and that means $. Children aren't cheap and take alot of time, so she has given up her friends, a career, and lets not talk about several ER visits with no insurance. Yes, he will get a DNA test and he will take the proper steps to show he is ready to be a father to this child.....custody is a whole other subject......
grandma
Silverplum
Senior Member
What career did she give up??
Silverplum
Senior Member
Well, aren't you a sweetie this morning? 
Amazing, what a pleasant remark can do to improve one's day!
I've been on vacation! (And a business trip before that, but it wasn't interesting.)
Amazing, what a pleasant remark can do to improve one's day! I've been on vacation! (And a business trip before that, but it wasn't interesting.)
This is all very interesting information to me.
In Pennsylvania(and yes I know we're not dealing with Pennsylvania) if you go through the courts and either party asks for a paternity test, it will be granted but if one party doesn't show up for the test then they are automatically considered the parent. This doesn't seem to be the case in CA I guess. Maybe it should be because a lot of OP's issues would have been solved 3 years ago.
In Pennsylvania(and yes I know we're not dealing with Pennsylvania) if you go through the courts and either party asks for a paternity test, it will be granted but if one party doesn't show up for the test then they are automatically considered the parent. This doesn't seem to be the case in CA I guess. Maybe it should be because a lot of OP's issues would have been solved 3 years ago.
timsgurlfurlife
Member
Hmmmmm... I actually have to agree with ALL the seniors here. Until the father files for something and or gets the PT done he has no rights to that child and the mother is not obligated to do anything for the father concerning the child.
Grandma;
Your daughter "...wants her son to know his dad...."? Why on earth would she want her child to know this creep if he is as bad as you say? Something doesn't fit in this picture. Has she been keeping contact with him, maybe some spark in her heart or loins? Your daughter needs to get her life straight and if she wants to have a FATHER for this boy...the best possible of all scenarios....she needs to meet and marry someone who will be a FATHER and not just some sperm-donating paycheck who drops in once in awhile to see how they are doing.
The sperm donor is going to have to ante up for all the tests and court hearings. If you're telling the whole truth, there's no way he will do that. Go on with your lives and stop talking to him until he steps up.
Unless the other side of the story is quite different.........?
Your daughter "...wants her son to know his dad...."? Why on earth would she want her child to know this creep if he is as bad as you say? Something doesn't fit in this picture. Has she been keeping contact with him, maybe some spark in her heart or loins? Your daughter needs to get her life straight and if she wants to have a FATHER for this boy...the best possible of all scenarios....she needs to meet and marry someone who will be a FATHER and not just some sperm-donating paycheck who drops in once in awhile to see how they are doing.
The sperm donor is going to have to ante up for all the tests and court hearings. If you're telling the whole truth, there's no way he will do that. Go on with your lives and stop talking to him until he steps up.
Unless the other side of the story is quite different.........?