Father needing answers

[angelmychael]

What is the name of your state?SC
I have two sons ages 6 and 3.Thier mother died last may after a nearly two year long battle with cancer.The mother and I never married ,however we lived as if we were for four years.We separated and child support was established along with paternity.She allowed me to keep my children on weekends at my apartment in the city.when the lease ran out on the apartment i moved in with my girlfriend .I didnt keep my children at her home, because she was deeply involved with drugs and i knew it wasn't safe for them there.I still spoke to them on the phone every other day.
i even took them to the beach for a weekend.Thier mother and i spoke regularly and i even came to the house to make some repairs.She and her knew boyfriend took the kids to the beach one weekend.We were supposed
to get together when she returned.However when she got back she became violently ill.She was admitted into the i.c.u. in rome, ga.There they diagnosed her with cancer.I found out from her work when i was unable to reach her at her home.I went to the hospital and was turned away.Her mother had told the hospital staff to not allow anyone that wasn't immediate family.Her mother then got temporary custody of the children without my knowledge and took them out of the state.That was 18 months ago. I have only been able to see and speak to my children twice since that time.Not that i have not tried.Every time i attempted to see or speak to them i had been threatned with charges.The grandmother even got the mother to try to get a temporary protective order on me against my children.I moved back to mine and thier mothers home town in south carolina to have my youngest son with my new wife.I sent child support and letters to my children in georgia.I called to see if they arrived there but never got an answer.Then there was a news report on the tv one night.The story was about my childrens mother's cancer returning and how she was back in south carolina.I was able to speak to her one last time before she died.I contacted the grandmother when missy(the mother) died to tell her i was coming to get my sons .She said they were out of town on vacation.She then went to the court house and told the judge she didnt know where i lived to get an emergency temporary custody order without the required notification .I had to go through the pro bono program.And it took three months before i was appointed an attorney.It then took another three months to get a temporary custody hearing.While i was waiting to go before the judge some one brought me the papers they were suppossed to have served me with when the first hearing was done.In it was many untrue allegations for which they had no evidence.Thier lawer stated them aloud to the judge anyway.I am in the process of getting documents disproving the allegations right know.The judge granted her temporary custody and gave me no visitation until an assement was made of my home and life by a guardian at litum.I took a hair follicle drug test and passed it.They are requesting a psychological evaluation and hiv test.I have been arrested in the past.But i am not a felon.I have a good job and a nice home.My fifteen month old son is happy and healthy and well cared for.However the grandmother has been a teacher in this town for 16 years.She owns her home and had 84 character affidavits on her behalf.Mostly from fellow teachers ,administraters, ect.Her family has written statement reguarding me although i never met any of them.Accusing me of domestic violence, abandonment.I never abandoned my family they were stolen from me.and i never abused thier mother ever.She is firm in this community I moved away from here with melissa seven years ago.Also she considerably more money than i do.I am a fit parent of that I am not conscerned.But considering the other factors do you think i have any chance of having my sons with me again.Further can i ask that my sons speak with a child psycologist and a report made to the court.They have repeatedly written that i beat thier mother in front of them, and that I am responcible for them having nightmares and other nonsense.How do I reveal the truth.I believe she thinks her credibility will make her lies seem true.If anyone reads this and has had similar things happen .or knows about the laws reguarding ths matter or even some words of support please share . Thank you for hearing my story

 

[candi4687]

Are you now married to the woman that had a drug issue? I understand how these allegations come about but you have to be the one to prove them wrong. If you are the biological father then you should have all rights to your children depending on the outcome of the findings of the court about the home situation and the drug issue. They can't just keep your kids from you because she knows many people that like her, the court just does not work this way. THANK GOD!! Messed up I will be the first to admit but it has not got that bad yet. Hard to say about what your children accuse you of but since they are so young it would be easy for someone burn this in their little head. Either way we can't tell on here from just reading a minute of your side. Good Luck and remember most of all that your children have been through So0o0o much and NEVER take anything out on them even if they did falsely accuse you of things! Nothing else call them as often as you can and reassure them how much you love and miss them if you really feel this way. May be best that IF you do this to record what is said so that no further allegations can be brought against you on the calls.

 

[candi4687]

Just something to look over:

Children's Bill of Rights:
*The right not to be asked to "choose sides" or be put in a situation where I would have to take sides between my parents.
*The right to be treated as a person and not as a pawn, possession or a negotiating chip.
*The right to freely and privately communicate with both parents.
*The right not to be asked questions by one parent about the other.
*The right not to be a messenger.
*The right to express my feelings.
*The right to adequate visitation with the non-custodial parent which will best serve my needs and wishes.
*The right to love and have a relationship with both parents without being made to feel guilty.
*The right not to hear either parent say anything bad about the other.
*The right to the same educational opportunities and economic support that I would have had if my parents did not divorce.
*The right to have what is in my best interest protected at all times.
*The right to maintain my status as a child and not to take on adult responsibilities for the sake of the parent's well being.
*The right to request my parents seek appropriate emotional and social support when needed.
*The right to expect consistent parenting at a time when little in my life seems constant or secure.
*The right to expect healthy relationship modeling, despite the recent events.
*The right to expect the utmost support when taking the time and steps needed to secure a healthy adjustment to the current situation.

 

[jslopez711]

Children's Bill of Rights:
*The right not to be asked to "choose sides" or be put in a situation where I would have to take sides between my parents.
*The right to be treated as a person and not as a pawn, possession or a negotiating chip.
*The right to freely and privately communicate with both parents.
*The right not to be asked questions by one parent about the other.
*The right not to be a messenger.
*The right to express my feelings.
*The right to adequate visitation with the non-custodial parent which will best serve my needs and wishes.
*The right to love and have a relationship with both parents without being made to feel guilty.
*The right not to hear either parent say anything bad about the other.
*The right to the same educational opportunities and economic support that I would have had if my parents did not divorce.
*The right to have what is in my best interest protected at all times.
*The right to maintain my status as a child and not to take on adult responsibilities for the sake of the parent's well being.
*The right to request my parents seek appropriate emotional and social support when needed.
*The right to expect consistent parenting at a time when little in my life seems constant or secure.
*The right to expect healthy relationship modeling, despite the recent events.
*The right to expect the utmost support when taking the time and steps needed to secure a healthy adjustment to the current situation.

And these are into law WHERE???????????????????????

(I understand you but you must understand the forum)

 

[casa]

What is the name of your state?SC
I have two sons ages 6 and 3.Thier mother died last may after a nearly two year long battle with cancer.The mother and I never married ,however we lived as if we were for four years.We separated and child support was established along with paternity.She allowed me to keep my children on weekends at my apartment in the city.when the lease ran out on the apartment i moved in with my girlfriend .I didnt keep my children at her home, because she was deeply involved with drugs and i knew it wasn't safe for them there.I still spoke to them on the phone every other day.
i even took them to the beach for a weekend.Thier mother and i spoke regularly and i even came to the house to make some repairs.She and her knew boyfriend took the kids to the beach one weekend.We were supposed
to get together when she returned.However when she got back she became violently ill.She was admitted into the i.c.u. in rome, ga.There they diagnosed her with cancer.I found out from her work when i was unable to reach her at her home.I went to the hospital and was turned away.Her mother had told the hospital staff to not allow anyone that wasn't immediate family.Her mother then got temporary custody of the children without my knowledge and took them out of the state.That was 18 months ago. I have only been able to see and speak to my children twice since that time.Not that i have not tried.Every time i attempted to see or speak to them i had been threatned with charges.The grandmother even got the mother to try to get a temporary protective order on me against my children.I moved back to mine and thier mothers home town in south carolina to have my youngest son with my new wife.I sent child support and letters to my children in georgia.I called to see if they arrived there but never got an answer.Then there was a news report on the tv one night.The story was about my childrens mother's cancer returning and how she was back in south carolina.I was able to speak to her one last time before she died.I contacted the grandmother when missy(the mother) died to tell her i was coming to get my sons .She said they were out of town on vacation.She then went to the court house and told the judge she didnt know where i lived to get an emergency temporary custody order without the required notification .I had to go through the pro bono program.And it took three months before i was appointed an attorney.It then took another three months to get a temporary custody hearing.While i was waiting to go before the judge some one brought me the papers they were suppossed to have served me with when the first hearing was done.In it was many untrue allegations for which they had no evidence.Thier lawer stated them aloud to the judge anyway.I am in the process of getting documents disproving the allegations right know.The judge granted her temporary custody and gave me no visitation until an assement was made of my home and life by a guardian at litum.I took a hair follicle drug test and passed it.They are requesting a psychological evaluation and hiv test.I have been arrested in the past.But i am not a felon.I have a good job and a nice home.My fifteen month old son is happy and healthy and well cared for.However the grandmother has been a teacher in this town for 16 years.She owns her home and had 84 character affidavits on her behalf.Mostly from fellow teachers ,administraters, ect.Her family has written statement reguarding me although i never met any of them.Accusing me of domestic violence, abandonment.I never abandoned my family they were stolen from me.and i never abused thier mother ever.She is firm in this community I moved away from here with melissa seven years ago.Also she considerably more money than i do.I am a fit parent of that I am not conscerned.But considering the other factors do you think i have any chance of having my sons with me again.Further can i ask that my sons speak with a child psycologist and a report made to the court.They have repeatedly written that i beat thier mother in front of them, and that I am responcible for them having nightmares and other nonsense.How do I reveal the truth.I believe she thinks her credibility will make her lies seem true.If anyone reads this and has had similar things happen .or knows about the laws reguarding ths matter or even some words of support please share . Thank you for hearing my story

I think a GAL being assigned to your sons may be a good opportunity in this case. If you can afford it, ask for evaluations also.

I hope in your case, the kids get to at least continue to have a relationship with you- now that mom is passed away, they may need you more than ever. The grandmother may just be upset with grief over losing her daughter and clinging to what's left of her (the children) for dear life.

What a nightmare for you. Do you have an attorney? You really need one to combat these false allegations

Best of luck to you!

 

[angelmychael]

The children didnt make accusations. The grandmother is saying they did.
I am married to a different woman.Two years now I have been broken up with the woman with the drug problems.

 

[rm1759]

Angelmychael, I would like to learn more about your situation, could I send you a PM?