Fed up...Ex allowed new girlie friend to send vile messages to me on his phone

[cyjeff]

I would be careful when it comes to defamation.

Oh, you took those questions together?

I meant them as separate and divisible inquiries.

One, "you didn't sleep with him, did you?"

and

Two, "I hope you have an excellent doctor."

The first because he is hung like a hamster and I wanted to giggle (and I am entitled to my opinion.) The second is because I hope everyone has an excellent doctor. Good health is important.

 

[Raisingmaddy]

Oh, you took those questions together?

I meant them as separate and divisible inquiries.

One, "you didn't sleep with him, did you?"

and

Two, "I hope you have an excellent doctor."

The first because he is hung like a hamster and I wanted to giggle (and I am entitled to my opinion.) The second is because I hope everyone has an excellent doctor. Good health is important.

Haha, Good one

 

[Raisingmaddy]

New question

My children and I lived with my ex fiancee for the last five years, unfortunately things didn't work out and I just recently moved out with my children. He is a great guy, and had an amazing relationship with my children. Even though we weren't married, he was just like a step-father to them, and a really great one.

Since we have moved the children have chosen to continue a relationship with him, he was in their lives for the last five years and they truly love him. He will come and pick them up and take them shopping, have movie nights with them and sometimes they stay the night and sleep in their old bedrooms.

My ex-husband has always been jealous of him for some reason and he called me yesterday and told me he doesn't "think it is appropriate for the children to spend ANY time with him anymore since I am no longer living there" He absolutely wants to make it so they never get to see him again.

I think it's absolutely ludicrous that he is doing this. It's not like he is someone I dated for a couple months or anything like that, it was five years and the kids love him dearly. My ex-husband told me he is going to "follow thru on this and make sure they don't see him anymore because it's inappropriate"

In all honestly he is jealous of him, even though he has NO reason to be. Do you think I have anything to worry about? Can he make it so they don't see him anymore? This person is absolutely the picture of a model citizen, never had ANY criminal anything, owns his home, an all around great guy.

What do you all think?

 

[Ohiogal]

My children and I lived with my ex fiancee for the last five years, unfortunately things didn't work out and I just recently moved out with my children. He is a great guy, and had an amazing relationship with my children. Even though we weren't married, he was just like a step-father to them, and a really great one.

Since we have moved the children have chosen to continue a relationship with him, he was in their lives for the last five years and they truly love him. He will come and pick them up and take them shopping, have movie nights with them and sometimes they stay the night and sleep in their old bedrooms.

My ex-husband has always been jealous of him for some reason and he called me yesterday and told me he doesn't "think it is appropriate for the children to spend ANY time with him anymore since I am no longer living there" He absolutely wants to make it so they never get to see him again.

I think it's absolutely ludicrous that he is doing this. It's not like he is someone I dated for a couple months or anything like that, it was five years and the kids love him dearly. My ex-husband told me he is going to "follow thru on this and make sure they don't see him anymore because it's inappropriate"

In all honestly he is jealous of him, even though he has NO reason to be. Do you think I have anything to worry about? Can he make it so they don't see him anymore? This person is absolutely the picture of a model citizen, never had ANY criminal anything, owns his home, an all around great guy.

What do you all think?

He is a legal stranger. he has no legal rights to see the children -- only what you allow and only on YOUR time.

 

[Raisingmaddy]

He is a legal stranger. he has no legal rights to see the children -- only what you allow and only on YOUR time.

That's just it, I want him to be able to see the children, on my time. My ex husband thinks he can make it so it is not possible just because he is jealous of him.

 

[Isis1]

That's just it, I want him to be able to see the children, on my time. My ex husband thinks he can make it so it is not possible just because he is jealous of him.

tell dad to pound sand. unless he can prove the children having a friend you are not sleeping with is a danger to them, he won't win.

he can take you to court, but make sure you request that he pay your legal fees for wasting the courts time.

 

[Zigner]

Thanks for the response, unfortunately that is my only phone right now and I really can't afford to get another one. Because it is my only phone I don't think I can change my number and not allow Dad to have it.

Prepaid phones can be had for under $10 at Walmart...

 

[iluvmyson]

i agree

i agree with the person who said just act like you didn't see them. I would document it. keep copies of times and dates in case it gets worse. but give them not the childish energy they seek. i know it is hard when another person is insulting you. But you know the things they say are not true. so give no energy to it. or yes i like the funny silly retorts of making sure you have a good doctor. they are uniting against you. i know it hurts... been there. the other approach is to turn them on each other. like what the other person said of letting her know she is the flavor of the week. it truly is sad the hurtful things people do.