Feeling Helpless against Shared Parenting

[Hopesrising]

What is the name of your state? Ohio

I have shared parenting with my ex husband, I am the residential parent. My ex does as he will- today he picked up the kids from school without my knowledge or consent. He is also trying to get custody in that the girls aren't doing well in school (B & C's). I believe one child has a learning disability but is not diagnosed as of yet. I am a single parent who attends school full-time, I do not do drugs, date, or drink. The only case he has against me is that the girls aren't doing well in school, and that he feels they shouldn't attend daycare. He feels they would be better off with his wife. (He works constantly and is home late at night).

Please help. HE is constantly doing as he wishes and I feel powerless to do anything. I have little money for an attorney.

Thank you.

 

[FLFamof5]

Scheduled visitation

Do you have a scheduled visitation plan included in your court order?

 

[LdiJ]

What is the name of your state? Ohio

I have shared parenting with my ex husband, I am the residential parent. My ex does as he will- today he picked up the kids from school without my knowledge or consent. He is also trying to get custody in that the girls aren't doing well in school (B & C's). I believe one child has a learning disability but is not diagnosed as of yet. I am a single parent who attends school full-time, I do not do drugs, date, or drink. The only case he has against me is that the girls aren't doing well in school, and that he feels they shouldn't attend daycare. He feels they would be better off with his wife. (He works constantly and is home late at night).

Please help. HE is constantly doing as he wishes and I feel powerless to do anything. I have little money for an attorney.

Thank you.

I really, really, really hate parents that act like your ex. Arbitrarily/unexpectedly picking up the kids from school/daycare, without communicating FIRST with the other parent whose day it is, is the biggest violation in the world as far as I am concerned. Heck yes, if dad is available why not....but its assinine and inconsiderate not to call mom first.

If all he has is the kids making B/C grades and the fact that his wife could be a stay at home....then he is unlikely to get very far with custody. It needs more of a change in circumstance than that....particularly if dad normally works late hours.

Even if you can't afford an attorney you can represent yourself. Its not the best choice, but it is a viable choice.

 

[heartbrokenmom2]

What A Joke!

I hate KNOW IT ALLS LIKE YOUR EX! i mean sincerely, if your going to school, full time, how about if you work full time? how is that any different! B & C isnt BAD its not terrific but its NOT BAD, talk to me when you have F's or D's,
thats not a custody case...... if you neglected food or clothes or saftey then i can say you have a problem,not with b & c's!

Besides, the step mom is not a party to this case! THE STEP MOM HAS NO PRECIDENCE? she is just married to him but she is not the MOM

Lastly, the fact that he works late hours is against him, i mean how old are the kids where do they want to live, what is their take... also DID HE START ANY COURT PROCEEDINGS YET??? if not beat him to it, start a custody proceeding to instill set visitation,,,, he SHOULD not be picking up hte kids with out first consulting you because if the children live with you,,,,, legally you are considered to have PRIMARY custody in not so many words... get it?

How old are the kids

 

[casa]

What is the name of your state? Ohio

I have shared parenting with my ex husband, I am the residential parent. My ex does as he will- today he picked up the kids from school without my knowledge or consent. He is also trying to get custody in that the girls aren't doing well in school (B & C's). I believe one child has a learning disability but is not diagnosed as of yet. I am a single parent who attends school full-time, I do not do drugs, date, or drink. The only case he has against me is that the girls aren't doing well in school, and that he feels they shouldn't attend daycare. He feels they would be better off with his wife. (He works constantly and is home late at night).

Please help. HE is constantly doing as he wishes and I feel powerless to do anything. I have little money for an attorney.

Thank you.

Last time I checked Bs and Cs were passing grades. He can certainly volunteer some extra time or money towards tutoring if he'd like

Check Ohio Family Law Codes online- search "Change of Circumstance" and if you don't meet those guidelines...tell your X to pack a lunch, he'll need it on this exploration

Re; school: If the father is violating the court ordered visitation schedule, document it in case you need to file contempt. I would be very upset that my children were not where I thought they were during My parenting time...that's unnerving!

 

[Hopesrising]

thank you!

Ill have to look up "change of circumstance". The children are 10 and 7. The visitation order is a standard order but at the end there's a clause saying "or as agreed upon". It is because of that clause that I am having trouble keeping to an agreed upon schedule. He feels he can change them as he wishes. I have had city policy and sherriff departments tell me they cannot force him to give the children back.

Thank you for your help.