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cyjeff

Senior Member
No I stopped paying it because we now have our daughter...I have the house note, car note and other things that need taking care of. He is still in school but that's what being a wife is all about supporting your man. And yes, I told him he needs to figure out what he will do becuase I can't do it all by myself.

And you think his child is going to stop eating and such because it is inconvenient right now?

Listen, I agree with everyone else.

Nothing will get your hubby out of paying his COURT ORDERED support.

Notice the words "COURT ORDERED". Not suggested. Not guidelines to be worked out as time goes on.... not "if you think you can afford it"... words with the force of law upon your husband.

Kick him to the curb and be done with his drama...

Though I wonder what your posts will be like when he isn't paying child support to YOU either....
 


Your marriage is only going to last until he gets out of school. Or until you force him to get a job. Then he will file for divorce and most likely sue for alimony. At least that is what the FA Crystal Ball is telling me.


I predict she will be back at some point looking for help collecting her child support, because his "new wife" doesn't think he should pay...:D
 

wileybunch

Senior Member
Even though we think it's a dumb question, I think it's a legit question to ask if the things a parent gives to the child counts toward child support, especially if the parent is new to the whole paying child support thing.

But, this situation just goes into every nook and cranny of trying not to accept responsibility, enabled by a self-described well educated 36yo wife who comes here continually airing her husband's dirty linen, apparently not even realizing how disgusting he comes off.

I think OP should be ignored on these matters from now on.
If she has custody/visitation issues of her own, fine, come post about them.

As for the child of her husband ... HE needs to come here from now on to post his own "dilemmas".
 

Ohiogal

Queen Bee
And you think his child is going to stop eating and such because it is inconvenient right now?

Listen, I agree with everyone else.

Nothing will get your hubby out of paying his COURT ORDERED support.

Notice the words "COURT ORDERED". Not suggested. Not guidelines to be worked out as time goes on.... not "if you think you can afford it"... words with the force of law upon your husband.

Kick him to the curb and be done with his drama...

Though I wonder what your posts will be like when he isn't paying child support to YOU either....

Cyjeff you need to get caught up on this. Done with his drama?????
Her first post from her first thread (https://forum.freeadvice.com/child-custody-visitation-37/problems-bio-mom-388706-p2.html:
Problems with Bio Mom
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What is the name of your state? GA

Hi, I'm the wife of the father of one child. I love my husband and will DO ANYTHING for him. I will stand by him 100% no matter what. Well, the mom has a problem with me being present at every pick up and drop off of my step son. She also has a problem with me listening to their conversations over the phone reguarding my step son. I do this because I think she wants my husband back (they were never married). My husband knew she was pregnant but left her because he wasn't sure it was his.

As a result she tells my husband that she will not communicate with him if I'm around in their face or listening on the phone, can she do this? She said all communication will be nil if this continues. She do not like it when my husband immediately hand my step son to me to take care of when she drops him off for visitation. I will admit, I feed, change, rock to sleep and nurture my step son. Bio mom said this is dad's visitation not mine, but I disagree because he's my child also because I'm married to my husband. Can we take her to court to seek custody because we are married and she is not? She's a single mother that's no stability for a child.
 

truebluemd

Senior Member
Even though we think it's a dumb question, I think it's a legit question to ask if the things a parent gives to the child counts toward child support, especially if the parent is new to the whole paying child support thing.

But, this situation just goes into every nook and cranny of trying not to accept responsibility, enabled by a self-described well educated 36yo wife who comes here continually airing her husband's dirty linen, apparently not even realizing how disgusting he comes off.

I think OP should be ignored on these matters from now on.
If she has custody/visitation issues of her own, fine, come post about them.

As for the child of her husband ... HE needs to come here from now on to post his own "dilemmas".

Its all too obvious that dad is not as worried about paying his CS like SM is, and thats because he put that burden on SM.
 

wileybunch

Senior Member
Where's the post where the child's mom either posted here or the s'mom posted a letter from the child's mom (I can't recall which it was). That was an eye opener ....
 

jbowman

Senior Member
I honestly dont even believe this poster anymore. It cant possible be real. If someone is as stoopid as this woman, I am completely horrified by society.
 

Ohiogal

Queen Bee
Hilights from this poster..

It is ALL about the drama:
01-04-2008, 06:22 PM
stepmom4ever
Member Join Date: Jan 2008
Posts: 218

So what should I do, just stand back and let my husband deal with her yelling antics and threating to take me to court because she says I'm overstepping. I will do just that but I know the problem will persist because I'm his wife now and she's not

and:
01-04-2008, 06:36 PM
stepmom4ever
Member Join Date: Jan 2008
Posts: 218

My husband is okay with me listening on phone calls, infact, he inititated it because he knows how she can start yelling on the phone about things. He wants me to be around for pick up and drop offs.

and:
01-04-2008, 06:58 PM
stepmom4ever
Member Join Date: Jan 2008
Posts: 218

I apologize if it seems that I'm not listening. It's just that my husband and I are married and out of nowhere she calls him to tell him she just gave birth to his child.... Thats why I'm the way I am with this situation.

and:
01-05-2008, 12:08 AM
stepmom4ever
Member Join Date: Jan 2008
Posts: 218

Quote:
Originally Posted by baystategirl
So why the heck are you listening in on phone calls and going to drop off??

Because at first when I found out she had the child, I wanted to see who she was and introduce myself. Besides it's my car and at first I felt like whever my husband go I go. As far as the phone calls I felt as though I needed to know what was being said being as though I didnt know about the child until the child was here. BUT I WILL BUTT OUT OF IT NOW
One of my favorites:

Accountable, how do I do this?

I set a bad tone for the mother, I showed up looking for her on the day she delivered their baby!! All because my husband wouldnt tell me what was going on that day, he was so nervous and out of control that day. Then after the mother returned home, I still forced myself to be present at her home when my husband would pick up and drop off their child.
How can I mend this, she's extremely angry with BOTH of us. Me for intruding and my husband for allowing it cold heardedly.

and lest we forget her excuse post:
I tried to make ammends with the mother of my ex child and she send this in response, can I use this in court?

Tajuana, Jovet's wife,

This is Kim, Elijah's mother! First of all Tajuana, at this point I really don't expect you to understand where I'm coming from because you're not a mother and because of your outlandish antics in times past by forcing your ENTITLEMENT as the WIFE in my face. So, I write you this email because there are some issues that need to be addressed before there is any form of progress between, you, your husband and I . I would have confronted you on this matter earlier, however, it was not the appropriate time to discuss the matter, as I just gave birth to my son when you and your husband were at my bedside unannounced and considering the fact that my anger up until now would have warranted an unhealthy situation between you and I.

I will address the issue of you showing up at the hospital the day I delivered my son requesting information about me (absolutely deplorable). Tajuana, it was in the best interest of you that we did not cross paths at that particular moment, as that would not have been wise. Curious, what were you planning to do? As a real women, you had no business looking for me to find out who I was, your search should have been toward your husband, as he had ANOTHER women pregnant PRIOR to marrying you. You see, I KNEW who my child's father were (which is your hubby), it was your hubby who RAN from responsibility ONCE I told him I was pregnant. He didn't just pick me off some pole in a strip joint, you get my drift?

He CHOSE to leave a pregnant women. He knew I was pregnant and DECIDED to ignore it. " I'm " NOT your problem in this situation. Your husband is the problem.

Yet another issue, showing up at my place of residence with your new hubby completely disrespecting me was an absolute NO, NO. I ALLOWED it only on the strength that Jovet (your hubby) parents were present in my home other wise that would have clearly been an unhealthy situation. This is NOT your battle to fight as this child is between your hubby and I. Your role is to just SUPPORT and LOVE your husband. LEGALLY, you have NOTHING to do with this, I laid with your hubby not YOU, get where I'm going with this (not your business) . If you don't believe me, take it to a Family Court and see what the end result would be for THIRD PARTIES overstepping their boundaries.

Tajuana, moving forward, I'm going to put this out there so that you get a clear understanding of the severity of my concerns regarding you, I will be around for a very long time weather I talk to your hubby or communication with your hubby is NIL regarding OUR son. You NEED to respect the fact that I'm your hubby child's MOTHER and I will respect the fact that YOU'RE Jovet's wife, nothing more, nothing less. So DON'T make the mistake of THINKING that you and hubby will BULLY me because your MARRIED. That wont hold water with me none what-so-ever. I'm not this quiet little girl who know no better because I'm "BITTER" OVER THE FACT THAT JOVET IS MARRIED TO YOU". Tajuana, he is now your headache to deal with but as a wise person, you might want to re-assess the situation at hand. You're a newlywed couple with a two month old child in the picture by another women, whom you knew nothing about until delivery day (assuming the way you showed up at the hospital on that day). That alone should convey your hubby's character (not spiritual at all) as I understand you two are heavily involved in church. Your hubby thought I would disappear once I told him I was pregnant, wrong, life is like a boomerang, so you can now rid yourself of all insecurities, it will be healthy and more spiritual for you.

Your husband will have to deal with me for 18+ years.

We can also discuss this matter in person, should it warrant such action.

The baby's mother is the sane one.
 

truebluemd

Senior Member
I agree with jbowman, this chick can't be real. Looking for the mom while she was in labor....she's sick. She was trying to claim mom's child as hers before the child even exited the womb!!!:eek:
 

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