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What is the name of your state? Georgia
this is a desperate plea for help:
My fiance was divorced approx. one year ago in Georgia. I am writing on his behalf. At the time of his divorce, he was finishing medical school. He is 31 years old and his ex-wife is 26 years old. There were NO children in the marriage. They lived MAINLY off of HIS student loan money ($40,000) and while he lived overseas going to school in Britain, she chose to go to school in Georgia and work part time while living with her parents.
Although he had no money or property, his ex-wife was able to scare him into an agreement in mediation for $300 per month spousal support with an $18,000 lump sum (alimony) to be paid one year after the divorce (this is supposed to be paid in 2 months). After his divorce, I entered the picture. I was also a medical student. I realize that if he had received better advice upon attaining his divorce that alimony probably wouldn't be an issue BUT here we are and the decree is a done deal...so here's the rest of the story:
After completing med school, we have needed to study for our various board exams and we have worked full-time while doing this. For the last 6 months, we have been working very hard at minimum wage jobs to keep up with the $300 per month alimony payments. We are lucky if we currently pull $1200 per month together.....mildly put, we are broke, but have managed to keep up with the $300 per month for the last 10 months mainly by juggling around cash advances from credit cards-----it's crazy!.
I will be starting my residency soon, but my fiance will not begin his residency for quite some time as he still has more board exams to take etc. (please keep in mind that BOTH of us will be paying back almost $200,000 in student loans EACH and only making $36,000 per year during residency for the next 5 years----when he was divorced his ex had the idea that he would just be loaded a common misconception about doctors due to the way health care used to be in the US).
Recently, we have found out that it is possible to modify alimony payments in Georgia when circumstances have changed. He has his pay stubs which confirm his meager pay of $650 per month for the last 6 months. Also, we have recently found out that his ex-wife has been cohabitating with a man. for the past 6 months.....they live in a neighborhood were the average home is around $95,000 on lake access property and she currently pulls a gross income of around $20,000 per year. They are recognized by friends as a couple that lives together.
We are interested in filing for alimony modification and wonder if the judge would just decrease alimony or perhaps terminate the alimony. There is absolutely NO way my fiance can afford the $18,000 lump sum payment coming up in a few months....he has applied for 3 loans for this and been rejected for all. Even if I was willing to pay the $18000 there is no way that I could either!
do we have a chance for the modification? I am so afraid of her filing for contempt of court. Do we need to collect evidence to prove her cohabitation? If so, what types of information would be useful? Any advice is apprecitated....... thank you so much for the advice.
this is a desperate plea for help:
My fiance was divorced approx. one year ago in Georgia. I am writing on his behalf. At the time of his divorce, he was finishing medical school. He is 31 years old and his ex-wife is 26 years old. There were NO children in the marriage. They lived MAINLY off of HIS student loan money ($40,000) and while he lived overseas going to school in Britain, she chose to go to school in Georgia and work part time while living with her parents.
Although he had no money or property, his ex-wife was able to scare him into an agreement in mediation for $300 per month spousal support with an $18,000 lump sum (alimony) to be paid one year after the divorce (this is supposed to be paid in 2 months). After his divorce, I entered the picture. I was also a medical student. I realize that if he had received better advice upon attaining his divorce that alimony probably wouldn't be an issue BUT here we are and the decree is a done deal...so here's the rest of the story:
After completing med school, we have needed to study for our various board exams and we have worked full-time while doing this. For the last 6 months, we have been working very hard at minimum wage jobs to keep up with the $300 per month alimony payments. We are lucky if we currently pull $1200 per month together.....mildly put, we are broke, but have managed to keep up with the $300 per month for the last 10 months mainly by juggling around cash advances from credit cards-----it's crazy!.
I will be starting my residency soon, but my fiance will not begin his residency for quite some time as he still has more board exams to take etc. (please keep in mind that BOTH of us will be paying back almost $200,000 in student loans EACH and only making $36,000 per year during residency for the next 5 years----when he was divorced his ex had the idea that he would just be loaded a common misconception about doctors due to the way health care used to be in the US).
Recently, we have found out that it is possible to modify alimony payments in Georgia when circumstances have changed. He has his pay stubs which confirm his meager pay of $650 per month for the last 6 months. Also, we have recently found out that his ex-wife has been cohabitating with a man. for the past 6 months.....they live in a neighborhood were the average home is around $95,000 on lake access property and she currently pulls a gross income of around $20,000 per year. They are recognized by friends as a couple that lives together.
We are interested in filing for alimony modification and wonder if the judge would just decrease alimony or perhaps terminate the alimony. There is absolutely NO way my fiance can afford the $18,000 lump sum payment coming up in a few months....he has applied for 3 loans for this and been rejected for all. Even if I was willing to pay the $18000 there is no way that I could either!
do we have a chance for the modification? I am so afraid of her filing for contempt of court. Do we need to collect evidence to prove her cohabitation? If so, what types of information would be useful? Any advice is apprecitated....... thank you so much for the advice.
