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carmonal03
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I will keep doing this. I think my daughter is or will benefit from doing things like these.
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Born to Lease
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Yes, I am getting old but as you will find out for yourself one day wisdom comes with age. It is not because we gain intelligence, but rather it is because we learn from experience what we should have done. It is our wisdom that hopefully will help others, our children as well as those we 'meet' who are facing similar issues that taught us through "learning some of life's lessons the hard way".
You are to be commended for your continued maturity and your acts of selfless efforts to raise your little girl to reach her full potential through a life that is full of love, from a DADDY who sets a great example!
The advice you have been given through the many posts on this site, if taken, will lead you and Breanna to spending your lives together! Fill your treasure chests with memories that she will spend countless hours going through one by one, over the years with you as well as sharing them with her children and grandchildren someday!
Remember this, and never let it slip your mind for a second. NO WOMAN/GIRLFRIEND who does not fully support your efforts and who is not 100% beneficial to your life (which goes without saying, is also your daughter's life) is worth a second of your time. Do not let anyone, or any urge, etc., cause you to lose your focus.
My Nana told me, when I was a little girl, something that I wish I had lived by prior to my mid 30's (would have saved me a lot of heartache & not to mention I would have saved a lot of money too). She told me: "whenever you find someone to spend your life with (according to her--it could be one day, or forever) having that person in your life should improve your life. Things should be better, and never worse. Spending time with a person who does not enhance you, and your life,might keep you meeting "Mr./Mrs. RIGHT". The price you will pay is very high for everyone with whom you are involved. (At the time, she was speaking of my parents and siblings, and of course herself and my Papa. However, today that holds true with my children--first and foremost!)
I know it is hard for your present girlfriend to overlook your past--a past that is forever a part of your life. But it can be done, and the right person will not only be able to do it, that person will insist on doing whatever it is that is right for YOU and BREANNA!!!
Keep us posted, and keep moving on the course you have already directed as the right path for you two!
You are to be commended for your continued maturity and your acts of selfless efforts to raise your little girl to reach her full potential through a life that is full of love, from a DADDY who sets a great example!
The advice you have been given through the many posts on this site, if taken, will lead you and Breanna to spending your lives together! Fill your treasure chests with memories that she will spend countless hours going through one by one, over the years with you as well as sharing them with her children and grandchildren someday!
Remember this, and never let it slip your mind for a second. NO WOMAN/GIRLFRIEND who does not fully support your efforts and who is not 100% beneficial to your life (which goes without saying, is also your daughter's life) is worth a second of your time. Do not let anyone, or any urge, etc., cause you to lose your focus.
My Nana told me, when I was a little girl, something that I wish I had lived by prior to my mid 30's (would have saved me a lot of heartache & not to mention I would have saved a lot of money too). She told me: "whenever you find someone to spend your life with (according to her--it could be one day, or forever) having that person in your life should improve your life. Things should be better, and never worse. Spending time with a person who does not enhance you, and your life,might keep you meeting "Mr./Mrs. RIGHT". The price you will pay is very high for everyone with whom you are involved. (At the time, she was speaking of my parents and siblings, and of course herself and my Papa. However, today that holds true with my children--first and foremost!)
I know it is hard for your present girlfriend to overlook your past--a past that is forever a part of your life. But it can be done, and the right person will not only be able to do it, that person will insist on doing whatever it is that is right for YOU and BREANNA!!!
Keep us posted, and keep moving on the course you have already directed as the right path for you two!
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carmonal03
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VERY VERY well said. Thanks. That info is worth a million bucks BTL.
When I got my X a birthday card from my son the first year I was with my wife she was kind of jealous. The next time I felt my son should get his mother something for a holiday I asked my wife to go to the store and pick up a card and/or gift. This worked out well because my wife felt the gift wasn't from me but from my son, plus giving my wife this task made her put in extra effort and made her feel good as well.
Maybe this could work for you.
Nicholas
Maybe this could work for you.
Nicholas
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carmonal03
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Hey thats a pretty cool idea, I will definately try that seeing as the X's b-day is actually in about a week.
Hey Born To Lease, can you please e-mail me at carmonal03@yahoo.com
thanks for the great idea fatherof4
Hey Born To Lease, can you please e-mail me at carmonal03@yahoo.com
thanks for the great idea fatherof4
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carmonal03 said:
your doing great
You are putting your daughter first and that is to be commended. Your daughter will grow and love both you and her mother without fear of atleast making you mad. Hopefully the mother picks up on it and it will make that childs life so much easier. As far as the presents go my daughters father and I do the same thing. My daughter is now 11 and she picks out the presents for each of us but we do take her to the store and give her money, even if it is only 5 dollars. Him and Ihave not always had the best relationship, he doesn't pay child support doesn't see her on a consistant basis and believe me I could and do get mad but the only thing that keeps me from going off is remebering that this is all for my daughter and as long as she has a relationship with him and I have helped her have that relationship than who cares about the financial part of the relationship. I want her to be a healthy well rounded child and to know that both parents love her. I have been told by many people that they do not understand why I out up with HIS CRAP and my answer is FOR MY DAUGHTER she will be 18 soon and than I won't have to put up with it. LOL Sorry to write a book I just wanted to let you know that I think you are doing a great job so far and to keep up the good work.
Oh and tell the gf to get over it if you wanted to be with the mom you ould be but you are so grow up. Yes it is hard but as soon as she can realize that you are with her the better off she will be and if she can't don't waste your time on her.
You are putting your daughter first and that is to be commended. Your daughter will grow and love both you and her mother without fear of atleast making you mad. Hopefully the mother picks up on it and it will make that childs life so much easier. As far as the presents go my daughters father and I do the same thing. My daughter is now 11 and she picks out the presents for each of us but we do take her to the store and give her money, even if it is only 5 dollars. Him and Ihave not always had the best relationship, he doesn't pay child support doesn't see her on a consistant basis and believe me I could and do get mad but the only thing that keeps me from going off is remebering that this is all for my daughter and as long as she has a relationship with him and I have helped her have that relationship than who cares about the financial part of the relationship. I want her to be a healthy well rounded child and to know that both parents love her. I have been told by many people that they do not understand why I out up with HIS CRAP and my answer is FOR MY DAUGHTER she will be 18 soon and than I won't have to put up with it. LOL Sorry to write a book I just wanted to let you know that I think you are doing a great job so far and to keep up the good work.
Oh and tell the gf to get over it if you wanted to be with the mom you ould be but you are so grow up. Yes it is hard but as soon as she can realize that you are with her the better off she will be and if she can't don't waste your time on her.
