frustrated with parole violation

[sickandtiredtoo]

What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state? CA

my husband was released from prison 6 months ago. He has reported faithfully to his po and has had clean urinalysis throughout.
last week the parole department did a "parole sweep" and came into our residence to do a parole search. my marijuana paraphanelia was found, as well as firecrackers i had taken away from my kids, and a couple of old antique knives in suitcases that we had from storage. (we just moved and are going through these things)
he has been incarcerated on a parole hold and we have heard nothing else.
so far he isn't charged with anything and i cannot get his po to respond to my numerous calls.
anyone know what i might expect??
so much for our first christmas in 5 years, i guess...

 

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state? CA

my husband was released from prison 6 months ago. He has reported faithfully to his po and has had clean urinalysis throughout.
last week the parole department did a "parole sweep" and came into our residence to do a parole search. my marijuana paraphanelia was found, as well as firecrackers i had taken away from my kids, and a couple of old antique knives in suitcases that we had from storage. (we just moved and are going through these things)
he has been incarcerated on a parole hold and we have heard nothing else.
so far he isn't charged with anything and i cannot get his po to respond to my numerous calls.
anyone know what i might expect??
so much for our first christmas in 5 years, i guess...

My response:

Criminals just can't follow rules - - the rules of Parole, and the rules of society in general. That's why they are criminals. They're idiots.

It doesn't matter who the items belonged to, or the reasons. The fact remains, he was TOLD, INSTRUCTED AND INFORMED that he was not to be in possession of drugs, weapons or anything else of an illicit nature.

He will spend the rest of his sentence behind bars.

IAAL

 

[CdwJava]

Apparently all this stuff was found in a common area - so he had access to it.

On the positive side, current CDC policy is that unless there are fresh charges filed (by the local District Attorney) the CDC will probably release him from his hold after his hearing ... but that hearing could be a few weeks away.

- Carl

 

[Illinois Parent]

Gee, so your hubby went to jail for drugs. And comes home to the good lil' women, who also likes drugs. And now you're all upset because hubby is going back to jail for your drugs. You know what? I, and every other law-abiding citizen in the country have cause to be upset, too.

But, before you crush out your Camel on the scarred linoleum floor of your trailer, hitch up your tube top and yell "Y'all, come lookey-here, sum won out thar know'd we'd been dun wrong!", pay attention.

You, too, belong in jail. You, as his 'host' were aware and probably made your 'x' on a piece of paper, and if you couldn't understand what all those fancy college words on it meant, I'll explain it for you.

If you have certain things in your trailer, or to be politically correct, "manufactured home", even if they don't belong to hubby, even if he didn't know they were there, it is a violation of his parole. Those things include weapons. And illegal drugs and/or drug paraphenalia. You agreed to these terms and conditions when they let him out of his cage. If hubby had half a brain, he would be mad at you for getting him into trouble. And you should be arrested for possession of drug paraphenalia.

As far as the fireworks are concerned, I have one thing to say. "Garbage". That is where they should have been placed when you confiscated them from your criminals in training. I would almost say "good for you" for taking them away, but, you managed to make a right action wrong. Instead of immediately disposing of them, because A) they are illegal, and B) they will violate Daddy's parole and C) they are illegal, you KEPT them. What, for future use? As proof you did something (almost) right as a parent? Both very good arguments to present to the parole board. Give it a shot and let us know how that worked out for you.

It is very important you understand this last part,so I'll use small words.
I, and most other regular posters on these boards are sick and tired of hearing about how the 'system' has done people wrong. In every case, and I do mean EVERY case, the whiner is complaining because they are being expected to live and act as legal, law-abiding citizens. We do it all the time, have always done it and always will do so. So don't come whining about how unfair and unjust and unsympathetic we are.

If you had posted a real question, such as, "What happens when someone violates their parole?" or "My husband and I messed up the terms of his parole and host site agreement. What can be expected to happen next?". If you had not first told us how he is doing everything right (except for the drugs and weapons in your house) you, and every other poster like you, would get a simple, straight-forward answer, minus the hyperbole. You post ridiculous justifications and excuses and you will get the care, consideration and empathy you deserve.

PS - Please don't breed anymore.

 

[tryingtoplease]

If you have certain things in your trailer, or to be politically correct, "manufactured home" Okey dokey, I keep letting the cracks bout trailers go unopposed. I have an ex SIL who lives in a trailer and is truly trash. Then I have my elderly Mom who I moved to my town (something like 2nd highest cost of living in the country) who lives in a "manufactured home". There is quite a diff. Heck her 2002 "manufactured home" cost a fifth of what my "rented" "non manufactured" home is worth.[/]

As far as the fireworks are concerned, I have one thing to say. "Garbage". That is where they should have been placed when you confiscated them from your criminals in training. On this we most definitely agree. My kids know I am able to toss their room at any time. And I do. When I found some cherry bombs in my 16 yo's room, they went right in the trash, but not before the loooong lecture.

It is very important you understand this last part,so I'll use small words.
I, and most other regular posters on these boards are sick and tired of hearing about how the 'system' has done people wrong. We also almost agree on this. My very first post on this site was to request info regarding how "the system" had done my 23 yo step son wrong. Guess what? DMV had taken his license erroneously. With a bit of work and a lot of phone calls, I was able to get it straightened out. JETX was going to give me info before I posted that we had gotten the problem resolved. JETX is a regular poster and although I never received his advice, he did indicate some knowlege in the area of my questions.

If you had posted a real question, such as, "What happens when someone violates their parole?" or "My husband and I messed up the terms of his parole and host site agreement. What can be expected to happen next?". If you had not first told us how he is doing everything right (except for the drugs and weapons in your house) you, and every other poster like you, would get a simple, straight-forward answer, minus the hyperbole. CDWJava had some good advice for the poster. I respect Carl's responses when it comes to the law enforcement's take on things. I have a sword of my late father's stint in WW11 and would never dream of having that anywhere but locked up in my bedroom closet, away from my 23 yo step son on probation. Heck I even keep any liquor I have in my house locked away in the closet away from my kids.

PS - Please don't breed anymore.

Now that is harsh. May be your opinion and may be the truth, but you should not slam a mother until you've walked a mile in their shoes. I got taken for a ride more times than I can count with my step son, but he is now 8 1/2 months clean and sober and (god willing) will continue on the right path.

 

[sickandtiredtoo]

thanks for the bit of empathy...
for the record, my husband did NOT go to jail for drugs. i DO smoke marijuana but do not indulge in other "drugs". i am a college grad and do not live in a trailer. because we are new to the system i do not understand everything that is going on with this parole thing but i am learning. this is the first time i've had this experience and it will be the last.

 

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

Gee, so your hubby went to jail for drugs. And comes home to the good lil' women, who also likes drugs. And now you're all upset because hubby is going back to jail for your drugs. You know what? I, and every other law-abiding citizen in the country have cause to be upset, too.

But, before you crush out your Camel on the scarred linoleum floor of your trailer, hitch up your tube top and yell "Y'all, come lookey-here, sum won out thar know'd we'd been dun wrong!", pay attention.

You, too, belong in jail. You, as his 'host' were aware and probably made your 'x' on a piece of paper, and if you couldn't understand what all those fancy college words on it meant, I'll explain it for you.

If you have certain things in your trailer, or to be politically correct, "manufactured home", even if they don't belong to hubby, even if he didn't know they were there, it is a violation of his parole. Those things include weapons. And illegal drugs and/or drug paraphenalia. You agreed to these terms and conditions when they let him out of his cage. If hubby had half a brain, he would be mad at you for getting him into trouble. And you should be arrested for possession of drug paraphenalia.

As far as the fireworks are concerned, I have one thing to say. "Garbage". That is where they should have been placed when you confiscated them from your criminals in training. I would almost say "good for you" for taking them away, but, you managed to make a right action wrong. Instead of immediately disposing of them, because A) they are illegal, and B) they will violate Daddy's parole and C) they are illegal, you KEPT them. What, for future use? As proof you did something (almost) right as a parent? Both very good arguments to present to the parole board. Give it a shot and let us know how that worked out for you.

It is very important you understand this last part,so I'll use small words.
I, and most other regular posters on these boards are sick and tired of hearing about how the 'system' has done people wrong. In every case, and I do mean EVERY case, the whiner is complaining because they are being expected to live and act as legal, law-abiding citizens. We do it all the time, have always done it and always will do so. So don't come whining about how unfair and unjust and unsympathetic we are.

If you had posted a real question, such as, "What happens when someone violates their parole?" or "My husband and I messed up the terms of his parole and host site agreement. What can be expected to happen next?". If you had not first told us how he is doing everything right (except for the drugs and weapons in your house) you, and every other poster like you, would get a simple, straight-forward answer, minus the hyperbole. You post ridiculous justifications and excuses and you will get the care, consideration and empathy you deserve.

PS - Please don't breed anymore.

My response:

A woman after my own heart! Simply, a fabulous response - - worthy of being placed in the "FreeAdvice Response Hall of Fame"!

My sincerest compliments.

IAAL

 

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

My further response:

It's also highly apparent that "sickandtiredtoo" and her "husband" are not native Californians. Most likely transplants from Kentucky, Tennessee or Arkansas.

IAAL

 

[sickandtiredtoo]

sorry to burst your arrogant bubble, but one native californian and one hawaiian.
not everyone who makes mistakes is inferior to you, believe it or not!
i am sorry that this is the way you must act towards others to feel good about yourself.
you'd probably be surprised to know just how "normal" we are and more like yourself than you'd care to admit.

 

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

sorry to burst your arrogant bubble, but one native californian and one hawaiian.
not everyone who makes mistakes is inferior to you, believe it or not!
i am sorry that this is the way you must act towards others to feel good about yourself.
you'd probably be surprised to know just how "normal" we are and more like yourself than you'd care to admit.

My response:

Wrong again, Fat Girl. If I lived a life like yours, I wouldn't have my license to practice law. I don't know what your definition of "normal" is, but if being a felon, jail bird, and druggie, is your definition of "normal", then I guess I'm "abnormal". However, I will concede that being a felon, jail bird, and druggie in your circle of friends and family is "normal". I'll bet your Momma and Daddy were just terrific people.

Oh, and you're also a "skank".

IAAL

 

[sickandtiredtoo]

okay, i concede...you are SO much better at the childish banter and namecalling than i.
this is not what i came here for.
i will not play.
aloha...

 

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

okay, i concede...you are SO much better at the childish banter and namecalling than i.

MY RESPONSE: Yes, I am. I can get right into the dumpster (or cesspool in your case) and "banter" better than you any day of the week.


this is not what i came here for.

MY RESPONSE: Sure it is! You're trailer trash!



i will not play.

MY RESPONSE: You really should. But, it's difficult to play with someone who is educationally superior over you. And, believe me . . . for my part, it's difficult to converse with someone like you who's brain dead and who is proud to call a "loser" her "husband".

IAAL

 

[tryingtoplease]

MY RESPONSE: Sure it is! You're trailer trash! Thank you, IAAL, for reading my post and not calling her "manufactured home trash" out of respect for my elderly mom.
IAAL

Oh, and living in a med/mj town in Cali, I would proffer the option that not all who smoke pot are brain dead. Although in the case of OP, I have no opinion. Just asking ya to keep an open mind and don't condemn all. (And if you read my earlier posts, you'd know I'm no fan of drugs, but I am of the opinion that med/mj is advantageous to some).

 

[Illinois Parent]

IAAL - thanks!

as for "tryingtoplease"...who are you and why did you feel my post was directed to you? Or are you just the spokesperson/poster child for the kind who would find my post to be a personal attack? Regardless, how presumptious of you to hijack another's post to sound off?

While you may have not liked the tenor of my response, the information is both legally and morally correct. If you took offense, you do indeed have serious issues to resolve. THIS forum, however, is not the appropriate place. I would suggest checking your local yellow pages for a counselor or therapist. "Narcissistic" is the term for someone who feels a bit too much 'self-love', something you can discuss with that person.

As far as raising the issue of medical marijuana, your comment could not be more inappropriate. It has nothing to do with the post, and the original poster did not claim this to be the case. It would be equally relevant to the post to state your opinion of partial birth abortion.

"tryingtoplease", I neither know nor care to know you, your story, your situtation or your opinion.

 

[AHA]

From what I have experienced, most people that suck down marijuana says it's for "medical" reasons. Whatever rocks their boat
It still doesn't make it a legal drug everywhere, funny huh