full custody

[delta87]

What is the name of your state? washington
last year i reported my ex to child support enforement, when they contacted him he got angry and said that he lost his job because of that. then he started threating me that i better tell them that he doesn't owe me anything when i didn't do that he starting threating that he rather see us dead than pay me thats when i stopped letting the kids see him he was calling and leaving messages on the answering machine and our oldest son cellphone that he better hear from me or else that he had a gun. at the time i didn't contact the police but i contacted he's parents they said don't contact the police that they will help him. thats when he started saying that he had a tumor and he only had a year left so he's family started to contact me to let the kids see him they didn't want to as well as I because we knew he was lying about plus they where afraid of him especially hearing all those message he was leaving on our machine all of this started in february 04 well in may 04 he broke into my house that i was renting and burned it nothing was saved he got caught the next day. was told by the prosecutor that he will serve at least 3 - 5 yrs but that did not happen because some paperwork wasn't filed and he only got 1 yr less for good behavior. anyway i decided to get a lawyer to file for full custody with no visitation i don't care about child support since he never paid kids are doing great without it. so he got served and now he's fighting it that he wants to see them if possible with supervision but i don't want that or the kids. We are still afraid for our life there is a restraining order for 10 years but because of the kids they don't have protection unless the judge agrees to it. I'm just afraid that will happen and I don't want to be another story in the news. can you please help the lawyer says i shouldn't worry but he has gotten very lucky with the law that i can't sleep at night and always worrying or looking behind my back and worry if the kids a minute late from school. please help.

 

[sirxamiel]

What is the name of your state? washington
last year i reported my ex to child support enforement, when they contacted him he got angry and said that he lost his job because of that. then he started threating me that i better tell them that he doesn't owe me anything when i didn't do that he starting threating that he rather see us dead than pay me thats when i stopped letting the kids see him he was calling and leaving messages on the answering machine and our oldest son cellphone that he better hear from me or else that he had a gun. at the time i didn't contact the police but i contacted he's parents they said don't contact the police that they will help him. thats when he started saying that he had a tumor and he only had a year left so he's family started to contact me to let the kids see him they didn't want to as well as I because we knew he was lying about plus they where afraid of him especially hearing all those message he was leaving on our machine all of this started in february 04 well in may 04 he broke into my house that i was renting and burned it nothing was saved he got caught the next day. was told by the prosecutor that he will serve at least 3 - 5 yrs but that did not happen because some paperwork wasn't filed and he only got 1 yr less for good behavior. anyway i decided to get a lawyer to file for full custody with no visitation i don't care about child support since he never paid kids are doing great without it. so he got served and now he's fighting it that he wants to see them if possible with supervision but i don't want that or the kids. We are still afraid for our life there is a restraining order for 10 years but because of the kids they don't have protection unless the judge agrees to it. I'm just afraid that will happen and I don't want to be another story in the news. can you please help the lawyer says i shouldn't worry but he has gotten very lucky with the law that i can't sleep at night and always worrying or looking behind my back and worry if the kids a minute late from school. please help.

Lady, getting custody WILL NOT be a problem for you. Get custody, tell the court your terrified, and get the hell out of there. Move to the east coast, or somewhere you cannot be found. Get you and them kids out of there now. He is a lunatic, and is a very high danger risk to theose children. Ive told many people on this post to try to work with the father and encourage visitation, but in your case, GET THE HELL OUT OF THERE NOW!!!! Otherwise, if he is that crazy to burn your house down, not caring if you or the kids are in it, then he is crazy enough to kill you and the children! Get custody, relinquish his rights, and get out of that area and as far away from him as possible.......NOW, while your still alive!!!!

 

[Phnx02]

What is the name of your state? washington
last year i reported my ex to child support enforement, when they contacted him he got angry and said that he lost his job because of that. then he started threating me that i better tell them that he doesn't owe me anything when i didn't do that he starting threating that he rather see us dead than pay me thats when i stopped letting the kids see him he was calling and leaving messages on the answering machine and our oldest son cellphone that he better hear from me or else that he had a gun. at the time i didn't contact the police but i contacted he's parents they said don't contact the police that they will help him. thats when he started saying that he had a tumor and he only had a year left so he's family started to contact me to let the kids see him they didn't want to as well as I because we knew he was lying about plus they where afraid of him especially hearing all those message he was leaving on our machine all of this started in february 04 well in may 04 he broke into my house that i was renting and burned it nothing was saved he got caught the next day. was told by the prosecutor that he will serve at least 3 - 5 yrs but that did not happen because some paperwork wasn't filed and he only got 1 yr less for good behavior. anyway i decided to get a lawyer to file for full custody with no visitation i don't care about child support since he never paid kids are doing great without it. so he got served and now he's fighting it that he wants to see them if possible with supervision but i don't want that or the kids. We are still afraid for our life there is a restraining order for 10 years but because of the kids they don't have protection unless the judge agrees to it. I'm just afraid that will happen and I don't want to be another story in the news. can you please help the lawyer says i shouldn't worry but he has gotten very lucky with the law that i can't sleep at night and always worrying or looking behind my back and worry if the kids a minute late from school. please help.

Sirxamiel is right.....you need to move far away from him and his family ASAP! You have a lawyer and he told you not to worry? Fire him and get another attorney! You and your children are in danger! A couple of questions:

Were you married to this guy or was he just a boyfriend? If not married, was paternity established? I'm assuming it was since you had a CS order. Does he already have visitation rights? How is custody currently set up? You say he was convicted of arson last year......has he already served this sentence and is now out? Or is he to start jail time soon?

If he ever leaves any more threatening messages on your machine or cell phone.....SAVE THEM and turn them over to the police immediately! Do not go thru his parents any more. With this kind of past behavior, you are sure to get full custody and you need to push for no visitation or supervised visitation.......preferably No visitation. He's a nut case and you need to get yourself and your kids far away from him!

 

[delta87]

I was married to this guy for 11 yrs. He is due out in two month and he is fighting the custody When we divorce he was able to see the kids whenever he wanted I didn't have no problems with it. He kept saying that he will pay me but whenever it was time to pay he would say he lost he's job or something, stupid me I let it go because I didn't want no problems with him. Anyway, the lawyer said I shouldn't worry about the case that the judge would side on us and not have him see them at all. But I'm just not sure about the law anymore especially when they said he will be out less than a year not more. All the threatening messages he left police have and prosecutor has it also. I don't want him seeing the kids and they don't want to see him either my oldest son at the court hearing even wrote a letter and read it to the judge in front of him that he no longer consider him a father don't want to ever see him and to move on with he's life to forget about us. When it was time for him to say he's side he just blamed it on he's past that he was abused and that he is bi-polar that he didn't have the money to pay for the medication but when I talked to the family before everything they told me they where paying for the medication, he did not even apologize or anything.

 

[djohnson]

Get out of there now. Even if in court everything goes your way, he will still know where you and the kids are at and that is dangerous. He will retaliate. Get out of there and not let him know where you are.